a Summer Thing?, what would you do? Options

[Digndoug]

Ok. well if any one read my last posts.. I met a girl marian.. an have been hangin out with her for the past week.. I like her a lot, shes beautiful, smart and i can talk to her and enjoy her company. I met her threw her sister which is a friend of my friend. Her sister mentioned somthing that marian really liked me.. Butt sence she goes to school in PA.. that it would probley be a summer thing. I have been thinking abotu that all day and said somthign to her bout it online earlier.. an shes said well sence she does go to school a good distance that it probley would be.. I dont know what i should do. Should i just enjoy the time i have to spend with her or not waste my time. Also another thing is, shes a "church" going girls and is still a virgin so its not at all about the sex.. This kinda sucks, cause i dont date much and dont meet to many girls thta i like that i have intrests with.. What would you do?

[reborn0323]

wouldn't just turn away from a good thing you may regret not trying later - i say try it - you both may go into it saying "it's a summer thing" and may change your minds if you both think you can handle long distance relationships - if either way it doesn't work out then you come out that much more the wiser

[slipgun]

three words...
go for it.

[95sweetness]

yea bro...go for it...ull never know wat u might miss out

[Jen]

I agree with everyone else, go for it.

[Blakout16]

just do it

[coustoe]

church girls are da best!

[ILuvMyCelica95]

yeah Def go for it- i think people put too much importance on being in a relationship or being called g/f and b/f... IMO i think if someone makes you happy and you have a good time together then go for it. Life is too short to spending it thinking of what you could have had- even if its just for the summer

[Andason]

church girls are da best!
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to play devils advocate (as i often do)

well for starters, i was in this EXACT same situation. this girl was just awesome and i loved spending time with her. she was a preachers/pastor/whatever daughter. she had really good morals and that was one of the things i liked the most about her. however, when the time got to the seperation it would have been too hard. i felt like i didnt know her well enough to close all my while she was in school. plus i found out that the religion thing was often a conflict because she didnt like me drinking, she thought different things about the world then i do and it just wouldnt work. im rambling so yeah... try it if you want to but i wouldnt make it past the summer romance

[Consynx]

im in PA, she'lkl be in PA
giggity giggity
sorry...i skimmed

[Digndoug]

ok... well I just had a nice talk with her.. and basicaly she is pretty cold an solid that it would be a summer thing, and that she dosnt want to hurt me, so that maybe i should stay away, and not even be around her. Im kinda lost on words .. but this really sucks..

what to do what to do

[ArizonaRed]

too bad you guys cant just be physical to pass the time. maybe her or her sister could hook you up with a open minded chick that doesnt have to leave. You could find someone online. I did online dating and picked up girls from the local clubs. this online crap works. hotornot.com, match.com, eharmony + AIM = lotsa potential when living by limited means.

[Digndoug]

well I dont know. Its not that i dont meet girls.. its that i dont meet many that im really intrested in.

Well she basicaly said she dosnt know if she wants a summer thing.. so i dont know, She seems to act cold, but i its cause dont think eaither one of us want to get hurt. which sucks cause now cause i dont even get a chance.

This post has been edited by Digndoug: Jun 14, 2005 - 7:23 AM

[ILuvMyCelica95]

That sucks Doug. Getting hurt sucks... but it also sucks to pass on an opportunity and never know what it could have been.

[Digndoug]

That sucks Doug. Getting hurt sucks... but it also sucks to pass on an opportunity and never know what it could have been.
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It really does suck. cause i think were both missing a great opportunity.. but i guess thats life. Theres nothing else I can do. I was just about to get her a candle of her favorite smelling flower.. somthing that would last a bit longer. But i guess thatsa bit uncalled for now..

[dustin15brown]

nah dude dont give up, hurting sucks, but in most cases you gain so much from it

[Digndoug]

ok.. Now im just lost. Women are nuts. Sence the time she said she didnt really want a .. what ever. We have hung out and talked and went to dinner and a moive last night. She would always want to hold my hand, and like rub on my leg with her foot at the restraunt and I am lost. The only thing is, I havnt kissed her again sence her talk. an im not sure if she wants me to, like im not getting the area to do so. But.. she sid like last night sence i paid for dinner then we both went home ot change .. i just got off work, and then she picked me up and paid for the movie and she said how shes now taking me on a date. and makes these hints that when im making plans that she would liek to be with me.

SOOOO Is shes messing with me, Testing me, or just using me? im so lost. One guess is i dont think she wanted a short relationship because shes not the kinda girl that would just sleep withsomeone or really do anything withsomeone shes not dateing. so im just lost. any ideas? my only guess is to just keep doing what ever it is were doing and find out the hard way. WOMEN ARE NUTS

[BlackCelicaGT94]

I think that she wants to hear u say you will try to make this work even after she goes to school!

thats what i would want...thats why i play games..i need the reassurance that you really wanna be with me!!

----hehe were all basket cases--

[Digndoug]

I think that she wants to hear u say you will try to make this work even after she goes to school!

thats what i would want...thats why i play games..i need the reassurance that you really wanna be with me!!

----hehe were all basket cases--
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Ok.. so how would i find out if she still likes me the same, or would still want a relationship out of it. is there anyway beside just waiting and seeing?