Would you give up your kid?, on a serious note Options

[Clipsetuner]

I dont know how to begain this but, its just about the hardest thing in my life.

So about 5 months ago Im with this girl, been dating her for about 9 months, and she ends up cheating on me go figure. Well she called me up last week and told me she was pregnat. Yeah I think you could peice the rest together. I am bascily at the worst lowest ever I have so many things to think about, consider, and deicde, and also let her sit back and decide what she wants.

I know the kid could or could not be mine, but its still hitting me really deep. I know I want to be a good guy / mabey father but I dont know If I can do it, I think about if she gave the kid away, yes it would be to a loving family but I would be giving up my baby girl forever. If the kid isnt mine yeah im out of the clear but the other guy is a jackass, and there is no way she could even do this on her own. I still love her, could I ever love her more then a friend ever again no.

I am really torn in this situation, I relize Im only 17 and this is just huge (dont give me that typical teenager **** , condom, and no sex bs, its all lies for the most part) I dont want this child weither it be mine or not to face the world without the love and care she deserves. I am a only child myself and only had my mom around and I know how hard it is to say your dad didnt want you. I guess this is why it strokes such a deep hurt inside me.

I dont really talk to anyone anymore on this site sep mac, and he didnt even know this was going down. There is just so much more I could type but this makes me hurt enough to cry. I guess I really need some sort of support and reinforcemnt of what things I need todo.

DTE

[BlackCelicaGT94]

My feeling is if u think ur mature enough to be having sex then you must be mature enough to handle all responsibilties. The fact this girl wasnt on some sort of Birth Control or interested in the day after pill is kinda scary to me! If shes not willing to take on the responsibilty of a kid herself but is willing to atleast have it (more power to her) but if you honestly think u would be a good father right now then I think you should consider taking the baby. If the kid is put up for adoption you can not really try contact the child till they are 18 or unless they come looking for you! I couldnt sit there for 18 years with regret on my mind. Just put this kid first! If you think the best thing is to just let it go to a good family (as long as it isnt in a foster home u most likely have NOTHING to worry about cuz of what you have kind of checks you have to go thru if youre an adoptive family) but just make sure that you do the best for the child! And if you think not taking it is the best thing then ur not abandoning it. Atleast if the kid does try contact u down the line you can say that you did want it but knew you couldnt give him/her the life they deserved. And if they hate u for that then thats their deal and ull feel like **** but deep down u will know it was the best thign to do




- sorry if this came out in a sh!tty way! im so bad with explaining myself -]

im only adopted on my dads side. My father gave up his parental rights when i was a few months old and only saw me 3 times when i was a baby. Wasnt even there when i was born. He was off with his girl he cheated on my mom with! :-( Didnt even call to see if I was born till 3 weeks after the due date. I hate him for doing what he did to my mom but thats a different situation than ur in. Luckily I know he lives in a sh!tty place and that puts a smile on my face!