Would you give up your kid?, on a serious note Options

[Clipsetuner]

I dont know how to begain this but, its just about the hardest thing in my life.

So about 5 months ago Im with this girl, been dating her for about 9 months, and she ends up cheating on me go figure. Well she called me up last week and told me she was pregnat. Yeah I think you could peice the rest together. I am bascily at the worst lowest ever I have so many things to think about, consider, and deicde, and also let her sit back and decide what she wants.

I know the kid could or could not be mine, but its still hitting me really deep. I know I want to be a good guy / mabey father but I dont know If I can do it, I think about if she gave the kid away, yes it would be to a loving family but I would be giving up my baby girl forever. If the kid isnt mine yeah im out of the clear but the other guy is a jackass, and there is no way she could even do this on her own. I still love her, could I ever love her more then a friend ever again no.

I am really torn in this situation, I relize Im only 17 and this is just huge (dont give me that typical teenager **** , condom, and no sex bs, its all lies for the most part) I dont want this child weither it be mine or not to face the world without the love and care she deserves. I am a only child myself and only had my mom around and I know how hard it is to say your dad didnt want you. I guess this is why it strokes such a deep hurt inside me.

I dont really talk to anyone anymore on this site sep mac, and he didnt even know this was going down. There is just so much more I could type but this makes me hurt enough to cry. I guess I really need some sort of support and reinforcemnt of what things I need todo.

DTE

[Anub1s]

My friend and his girlfriend had a child together and were forced to put it up for adoption because of the fact that they could not provide a good enough home for it. You need to weigh your options, can you provide a good home for the child or help the mother provide one? Can you assist her in raising the child while being able to secure a future for you and it? It's all a matter of being able to raise it in a good enough placing or not, if you can't do any of the above you should look at putting it up for adoption so someone else can.

Good luck in your decision making, it's not going to be easy but make sure you put enough thought into it.