Would you give up your kid?, on a serious note Options

[Clipsetuner]

I dont know how to begain this but, its just about the hardest thing in my life.

So about 5 months ago Im with this girl, been dating her for about 9 months, and she ends up cheating on me go figure. Well she called me up last week and told me she was pregnat. Yeah I think you could peice the rest together. I am bascily at the worst lowest ever I have so many things to think about, consider, and deicde, and also let her sit back and decide what she wants.

I know the kid could or could not be mine, but its still hitting me really deep. I know I want to be a good guy / mabey father but I dont know If I can do it, I think about if she gave the kid away, yes it would be to a loving family but I would be giving up my baby girl forever. If the kid isnt mine yeah im out of the clear but the other guy is a jackass, and there is no way she could even do this on her own. I still love her, could I ever love her more then a friend ever again no.

I am really torn in this situation, I relize Im only 17 and this is just huge (dont give me that typical teenager **** , condom, and no sex bs, its all lies for the most part) I dont want this child weither it be mine or not to face the world without the love and care she deserves. I am a only child myself and only had my mom around and I know how hard it is to say your dad didnt want you. I guess this is why it strokes such a deep hurt inside me.

I dont really talk to anyone anymore on this site sep mac, and he didnt even know this was going down. There is just so much more I could type but this makes me hurt enough to cry. I guess I really need some sort of support and reinforcemnt of what things I need todo.

DTE

[acenova]

I'm happy for you man, although miscarraiges are hard. If you wanna show her you care be there for her...as a friend and nothing more. You're only 17 man, I hope this opened up your eyes to the consequences of sex. I know you said there was a condom involved, but sex w/ a condom, w/ birth control, anything can be a risky deal still. It's not a solution to pregnancy, its simply a way to reduce possibilities. I'm not saying don't go out and have sex, but be selective, make sure that you have a girl that wants to be as careful as you do, because in the heat of the moment it's hard to think straight. Trust me, I know ( have had a couple scares in my day). All in all man, that one time just isn't worth it until you're ready. This isn't the bull**** you'd normally hear, I'm not tryin' to lecture, just know man, you gotta be careful. And by the way man, not to sound like an advertisement, but Trojan is the only condom I will ever trust. Definitely quality over price when it comes to sex.

Usually the best thing to do is use a condom and have the girl on birth control, but that's just if shes willing. I'm happy for you though man, a kid at this age can alter your whole life. Call me up soon, I'm in Canada until Wed., but I'm back for break afterwards.
Peace.