my relationship is over, update from last thread Options

[lagos]

can somone please explain girls to me?

ive been friends and romantic with this girl Jen for the past ten years. you can kind of think of it as a very open relationship. even if i had a girlfriend at the time, i would never fall in love with the new girl because i knew i loved jen more then anything. i also notice that jens boyfriends never made it to the love stage either and all her realationships with other guys were very short. my theory is that she never fell love with anyone she dated, because she would share all her thoughts and feelsing with me and i would do the same with her.

i considered jen my soul mate and i think she felt the same way about me. we had some amazing memories together that will last me and her for the rest of our lives.

the past few weeks ive been trying to play it cool and just get over it while still being friends. i went to visit her at work (bar) and to hang out with some freinds last week. when i was going home, she walked me outside and had that total, school girl in love look on her face, and i could tell she wanted me to kiss her (she later confirmend that was true). she asked me to come over and watch a movie with her. i told her that aint going to happen and i didnt give into her looks either.

so a few days go by and we ended up having the big talk about our realationship. we had this type of talk meny times over the years, but his by far was the most honest. i basically told her that we are ****ing up our lives and that we need to either **** or get off the pot. i told her how much i loved her and how great we could be together. she told me how she donst want to loose me. so i basically told her, if you dont go out with me, then our relationship will change in a big way. i will no longer play the emotional and menal role of your boyfriend.

she said she had a lot to think about and we decided to continue the conversation the next day.

so next day rolls around and she said she thought about us the whole day. the first thing out of her mouth was, if i had to go out with you, i would have to break up with jamie (someguy she met like a month ago). she said, i dont want to feel like i missed out on anything with him. ....what the Fk!!!! ten years with this girl and she is worried about what she might miss out on with a guy she met a month ago!!!

this was the frist time that she ever put another guy over me. the converation ended with me saying " good luck with jamie, i hope you know him for ten years too. i never want to see you or speak to you again".


can somone explain to me, how a girl can totally be into you, say you are the greatest guy she met, share great memories with you that she admits are close to her heart, and never fall in love with you? how can girls love a guy and not be in love with him? to us guys its all one thing.


anyway, this is problaby more info then i want to share with people, but i just got done talking to her and it really helps to try to understand things by wrinting it out.

[95gtschick]

I feel for you man, I really do, but listen, you have to get yourself together and burn some bridges!! that's what i did to my dumb b*tch ex

i know you still love her and whatnot, but you wont in 5-6months, so burn them bridges!!

what i did was after she did almost the exact same thing to me i took her out for a ride in my friends ram1500, after driving into a weired part of the city i pretended like i thought the rear right tire was flat, so i asked her to go out and check the tire while i stayed in the car and got the pressure checker, while she went out and looked, i shifted the truck into RWD and did a nice big burnout and shot up some nice gravel in her slut face, then i sped off leaving her stranded at 1am in the far reaches of toronto

all my guy friends love the story
all my girl friends hate it

don't attempt unless you're an a@@hole like me though..


but to be more serious.. time heals all wounds
keep yourself busy, try not to dwell on it, you'll be fine man 
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^^^ disgusting
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Natalie i'm with you on this one. That is truly the rudest, stupidest thing i've heard, for me... well, i've never played "games" with a guy. i've only had 2 boyfriend's in my life, the first one broke up with me, the second one... i'm still with, after 4 years. i just can't bring myself to be mean to a guy... take care lagos..