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 May 31, 2005 - 9:52 AM
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I really need advice, and would appreciate that whomever has something against me to refrain from commenting unless you have real advice that pertains to my situation.
I will put this very vaguely. I found out my boyfriend lied to me. No, he didn't cheat, but he lied.. and it was indeed a very big lie. Should I just confront him? Or should I ask him more questions to bury him deeper into his hole of lies? -------------------- |
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May 31, 2005 - 1:26 PM
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Hm... it depends a lot on previous stuff.
If he's been a good faithful bf up to this point: Confront him. Say that you found out. Say that you would rather hear something like that in the future, and (if you still want to be with him) you would rather have him tell you when he does something wrong, because you would much rather hear the truth, and be sad about the truth, then be lied to. Its an important lesson in life, that the ones you love would rather hear the truth about things than have them lied to. If he hasn't learned that lesson by this point, you should consider if you want the relationship. If he has a bad track record: Dump him. He won't get better. Its a lie that men change (for the most part). Minor things can change, but you shouldn't expect it. You will not change him. Period. So, knowing that, do you still want to be with him? --------------------  psalm 69 |
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Jen I need advice. May 31, 2005 - 9:52 AM
lagos it really depends on his lie...kind of hard to say... May 31, 2005 - 9:54 AM
Jen QUOTE(lagos @ May 31, 2005 - 9:54 AM)it reall... May 31, 2005 - 10:02 AM nik QUOTE(Jen @ May 31, 2005 - 8:02 AM)QUOTE(lago... May 31, 2005 - 10:56 AM red94celicagt I say you ask him some more questions, see how man... May 31, 2005 - 9:54 AM nik QUOTE(Jen @ May 31, 2005 - 7:52 AM)I really n... May 31, 2005 - 9:55 AM gt4uk personally, i would confront him about it...if u l... May 31, 2005 - 10:02 AM gt4uk not good comment to come out with..... May 31, 2005 - 10:06 AM BlackCelicaGT94 im gonna say it was a drug - just a complete guess... May 31, 2005 - 10:20 AM gt4uk drugs r not good!
my wife was a Pot head for ... May 31, 2005 - 10:26 AM madmods Its time to move on. The phrase don't tell my ... May 31, 2005 - 10:28 AM Mynzeyes QUOTE(madmods @ May 31, 2005 - 10:28 AM)Its t... May 31, 2005 - 10:39 AM 94CelicaRedHatch QUOTE(BlackCelicaGT94 @ May 31, 2005 - 8:20 A... May 31, 2005 - 10:34 AM gt4uk OOoooo we dont know its drugs....shouldnt jump to ... May 31, 2005 - 10:38 AM BlackCelicaGT94 True i shouldnt jump to conclusions but it really ... May 31, 2005 - 10:55 AM darksecret If it was one lie and he said "don't tell... May 31, 2005 - 11:10 AM Supersprynt QUOTEdrug - depends on what drug.
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[snapback]2... May 31, 2005 - 1:35 PM ILuvMyCelica95 QUOTE(madmods @ May 31, 2005 - 11:28 AM)Its t... May 31, 2005 - 2:01 PM Galcobar In this situation, I'd say give him the rope t... May 31, 2005 - 5:56 PM Jen So, update. I went to talk to him today before a j... May 31, 2005 - 6:21 PM SoundSlut_dotcom QUOTE(Jen @ May 31, 2005 - 4:21 PM)So, update... Jun 3, 2005 - 11:49 AM Pali_playa pmed May 31, 2005 - 7:05 PM Andason you live with a dude you've known for HOW long... May 31, 2005 - 7:33 PM lil_rico arent you only 17? well anyway if he lied and you ... May 31, 2005 - 8:04 PM saleeka Whatever it was- he knew it was the wrong thing to... May 31, 2005 - 9:26 PM Jen QUOTE(Andason @ May 31, 2005 - 7:33 PM)you li... May 31, 2005 - 9:43 PM DaMnItLeWiS The 'Dont tell my girlfriend' part kills h... May 31, 2005 - 11:32 PM nik so what happened??? Jun 2, 2005 - 3:56 PM chucho once you dont have trust then you really dont have... Jun 2, 2005 - 4:10 PM coustoe depends, if he said he would stop eating unhealthy... Jun 2, 2005 - 4:28 PM coustoe oh I also find being really nice to someone then g... Jun 2, 2005 - 4:30 PM red_94gts QUOTE(coustoe @ Jun 2, 2005 - 9:30 PM)oh I al... Jun 2, 2005 - 11:15 PM Akimbo Wow a relationship with no trust. The sex must be ... Jun 2, 2005 - 7:22 PM Jen QUOTE(Akimbo @ Jun 2, 2005 - 7:22 PM)Wow a re... Jun 2, 2005 - 8:57 PM Andason QUOTE(Jen @ Jun 2, 2005 - 7:57 PM)QUOTE(Akimb... Jun 3, 2005 - 12:00 PM Jen QUOTE(Andason @ Jun 3, 2005 - 12:00 PM)QUOTE(... Jun 3, 2005 - 12:35 PM darksecret ^^^^^
It's the truth i've told one lie and... Jun 3, 2005 - 11:16 AM Anub1s So let me see if I have this straight, your boyfri... Jun 3, 2005 - 11:26 AM Anub1s Down boy! DOWN! Jun 3, 2005 - 12:05 PM Scarrell well without really knowing what happend, cant rea... Jun 3, 2005 - 12:44 PM darksecret ^^^^^^^^^^
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