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[dustin15brown]

Hey everyone.... It's been a while since I've needed realtionship advice but here I am again. Lately with school pressure, family pressure, and life pressures i've become an unhappy person. I have had to assume a lot of fatherly roles in my family lately because my dad works the night shift and my lilttle brother *15* has become a rebel. I no longer do things that high schoolers do for fun, all I do is business stuff for my family, act like a dad, and fight with my girlfriend. We're closing in on one year yet I find myself the least happy..... We fight and bicker for what seems to me to be every night. We only see each other once a week, and it's rough. Her parents are strict, and that doesn't help. I figured things would settle down, but now with my last year of basketball approaching, I only think it can get worse.. I'm the happiest guy alive when I'm with her because nothing else matters... Yet through the week we only fight and it seems like I'm too busy and stressed out to talk to her. I am not sure what to do... I do love her very much, but at the same time I will not allow myself to continue being unhappy..... Honestly working with a few projects here and there with the Celica is the only thing that keeps me sane..... Please don't reply with "the celi is all you need or dumb responses like that... I'm looking for someone with some genuine insight and advice. Thanks guys and gals

[celicagurl152003]

well you said right in your statements "I'm the happiest guy alive when I'm with her because nothing else matters" and "I do love her very much." You said you these things so apparently your happy with her but that is what you think is bothing you. Personally I don't think your relationship with her is the problem, I think it's the stress and new responsibilities that are getting to you. You have your brother, basketball, school, and everyday life that is on your mind right now and the stress has nowhere to go when you don't vent. Your girlfriend is there to help when you get like this, and if you explain to her what is going on and why things are stressing you out maybe she'll be able to understand more and you wont fight......also another thing, have you taken into consideration that maybe you have hurt her feelings by not being open with her. I know that when im in a relationship i wanna know whats bothering my man.....that's what im here for, somebuddy for him to vent on and listen...maybe she just wants to do that for you but it seems to me you keep closeing that door for her to help. Try talking to her...open up, explain the things going on in your life, if you haven't had problems until all this stress came into play it's not the relationship.....all good relationships have hard times but relationships require work on both sides, and good communication. Try talking, I think it will help emensly (sp). I think once you open up and talk to her (and don't make excuses, make time to talk) you will be much happier, and she will too.

hope that helped, good luck

~Christina