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[dustin15brown]

Hey everyone.... It's been a while since I've needed realtionship advice but here I am again. Lately with school pressure, family pressure, and life pressures i've become an unhappy person. I have had to assume a lot of fatherly roles in my family lately because my dad works the night shift and my lilttle brother *15* has become a rebel. I no longer do things that high schoolers do for fun, all I do is business stuff for my family, act like a dad, and fight with my girlfriend. We're closing in on one year yet I find myself the least happy..... We fight and bicker for what seems to me to be every night. We only see each other once a week, and it's rough. Her parents are strict, and that doesn't help. I figured things would settle down, but now with my last year of basketball approaching, I only think it can get worse.. I'm the happiest guy alive when I'm with her because nothing else matters... Yet through the week we only fight and it seems like I'm too busy and stressed out to talk to her. I am not sure what to do... I do love her very much, but at the same time I will not allow myself to continue being unhappy..... Honestly working with a few projects here and there with the Celica is the only thing that keeps me sane..... Please don't reply with "the celi is all you need or dumb responses like that... I'm looking for someone with some genuine insight and advice. Thanks guys and gals

[tin_foil]

I agree with a lot of what celicagurl said. Some people might just say, "you're not happy, so get out of the relationship." I'd say that too maybe, if you hadn't said, "I'm the happiest guy alive when I'm with her because nothing else matters." But that shows that you probably really love her, but are really just stressed with other things in your life. Realize that when your stressed, you might not even notice it(or maybe you do), but it really affects how you act and talk. And when two people are close to eachother, their feelings and emotions really affect one another. You being stressed probably just stresses her out, too. I have some personal experience in this matter. I know that sometimes you just want to vent, and someone your close to is the best person to do that on, but if you can TRY to find someone else(probably be best if it was a guy) to vent your frusterations on, it would be a lot easier on your girl friend. A good guy friend will listen to you, and maybe give you advice, but won't feel obligated to take your stress upon themselves like a girl who really loves you does. Like celicagurl said, tell her all this, and try and spend as much time as you can with her and just enjoy yourself and promise not to talk about your life problems. I'd also like to suggest one more thing. Read Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. I know its sounds kinda stupid, and like a marrage counceling book, but it's really awesome, and I guarantee it will, really, really help.

One last thing, I don't know if your a religious man, but praying, even just out of frusteration, will always make you feel better. Thats another guarantee

I really hope it all works out dude.