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[dustin15brown]

Hey everyone.... It's been a while since I've needed realtionship advice but here I am again. Lately with school pressure, family pressure, and life pressures i've become an unhappy person. I have had to assume a lot of fatherly roles in my family lately because my dad works the night shift and my lilttle brother *15* has become a rebel. I no longer do things that high schoolers do for fun, all I do is business stuff for my family, act like a dad, and fight with my girlfriend. We're closing in on one year yet I find myself the least happy..... We fight and bicker for what seems to me to be every night. We only see each other once a week, and it's rough. Her parents are strict, and that doesn't help. I figured things would settle down, but now with my last year of basketball approaching, I only think it can get worse.. I'm the happiest guy alive when I'm with her because nothing else matters... Yet through the week we only fight and it seems like I'm too busy and stressed out to talk to her. I am not sure what to do... I do love her very much, but at the same time I will not allow myself to continue being unhappy..... Honestly working with a few projects here and there with the Celica is the only thing that keeps me sane..... Please don't reply with "the celi is all you need or dumb responses like that... I'm looking for someone with some genuine insight and advice. Thanks guys and gals

[celicaST]

wow life is fun aint it? im serious. my only advice is to learn how to deal with the stress you have. afterall stress to one person is fun to another, its all how you look at it. im sure you know, but attitude is everything. this sounds stupid, but when im in a bad mood or feeling stressed out i just force myself to smile and love it, try it. life is all about having fun, so have fun with all the stuff your doing. if you feel like your missing out on "high school" life then you are only missing out in your own mind. for example, being a father figure to your younger brother is a great learning experience that most of us didnt be able to do. plus hs is nothing compared to college . i know you said youve been with your gf for about a year, but i am against talking about the relationship as said above, im a firm believer that actions are more important than anything that can be said. the only problem that i cant offer advide on, and i had to deal with to, is the gf's strict parents just remember that you alone control your happiness