Met a Girl - Advice Needed Options

[Coomer]

Last weekend I went to this party, and I met this really cool girl. She introduced herself to me and we talked for a while. She was telling me that she has parties every Friday and that I should come sometime. At one point she told me her address, and I surprisingly remembered it. She lives in one of the residential areas around here.

She seemed to like me, and looked kinda sad when my friends(aka my ride home) came and got me to leave. Me being the shy person that I am didn't ask her for her number or anything. I really want to see her again and maybe see what happens, but I only know here address. I don't know any of her friends or anything.

So this is my question...she told me she has parties every Friday. I'm thinking of getting a friend to go with me and heading down to her house tomorrow and if there are cars there and people outside and stuff, I'm thinking of walking up with my friend and seeing what's up. Hopefully I'd remember someone from last weekend and they'd offer us to stay and hang out or whatever, where I could find then find this girl.

Now, is that weird/stalker-ish? Should I do it or not do it?

[Celicav]

Man, you are doing fine with this chick...she invites you to parties, gives you her #, gives you "rides" home lol. Still, though, take it slow, and don't be at her beaconing call. Be a busy guy and don't always be available - she will think you are more mysterious that way and harder to get to know - women like a challenge.

[celicaST]

Man, you are doing fine with this chick...she invites you to parties, gives you her #, gives you "rides" home lol. Still, though, take it slow, and don't be at her beaconing call. Be a busy guy and don't always be available - she will think you are more mysterious that way and harder to get to know - women like a challenge.

so true! another guy that know what hes talking about. whether they say they do or not, they do. sometimes its hard to "be busy" all the time because you want to see them all the time, but you have to overcome that. and in my opinon, there was some iffy advice given by others.

im not a player, ive had my girl for quite a while now, but there are important things you can learn on how to pick up women from so called "players". any guy in high school can pick up girls for a night, week or whatever, but as you get older the ballgame changes, and its the way that you begin the relationship that is critical. even though all us guys know that in reality she is the one picking you, you need to make it seem as though you are picking her. you need to have the confidence in yourself that you can get with any woman you wish. if she can percieve that confidence in you, it will make her feel special that you are with her. know what im saying? example, if at a party and notice a girl you like, i would flirt with other girls and get them laughing while showing the girl your interested in little attention. shell notice and start to become jealous, get her number later on and then get out. another thing to remember is that dating is essentially a game, that like everything else requires practice to get good at. just practice talking to all women, respect all women and learn how to make them smile, its a skill just like anything else. hell, start a conversation with the checkout lady at walmart. the more practice you get the more comfortable youll be. learn not to fear rejection. and things will go wrong, but its how you learn from your mistakes and get right back in the game that matters. now that you have her interested and her number, just remember to stay classy and confident. keep the phone calls short. keep the dates fun. keep her laughing and keep her wondering about you. dont tell her who you are all at once, show her who you are over time. just some advice for every guy.

This post has been edited by celicaST: Nov 19, 2005 - 5:34 PM