Secret abortions Options

[ToYCeLi8]

Well Thanksgiving just passing and Xmas coming up, all these family holidays coming up, I have been spending more time w/ my family and friends as you are. Also meeting newborn baby cousins.

All this baby talk brought up subjects about the starting of new families and abortions, unfortunatly.

Some of my cousins feel they are ready to start a family other don't and what not. But when abortions came up, a friend of my aunts spoke about an abortion she had when she was younger and never told the father. It turned into a crazy night I rather not go into but here is my question or topic for this thread is, and its aimed at the men:

If a girl you had relations with, YES EVEN A 1 NIGHT STAND, got pregnant with YOUR child (don't argue, its YOURS), and she had an abortion, would you want to know before she did it? Or not be told at all and be fine with it after its done?

Yes you can state your reasons why you would or wouldn't have a baby now.

For me, I would DEFINATLY want to know. Even though it might not be planned, I feel if it took 2 people to make a child, then those 2 people should decide whether or not to keep the child. Right now I am going through some rough times financially so I know I cannot raise a child. My mind set isn't ready either. I really don't plan on having a child until I am about 28, so 6 more years. An abortion is a major descision so it does take time to make sure it is the one you want to make and not regret it. Realistically, I would prefer to put the baby up for adoption. Save a life and help a family.

Mods: I hope this doesn't start a war on 6gc, its just something I took serious when it was so close to my family. So members please do not attack other people's opinions.

David

[saleeka]

This to me is a question that has more to do with the people involved than either a yes she should or no she shouldent answer. If you have sex with someone, you should be well enough able to guage their judgement as being on par with you- Some people like one night stands, some people like no sex till marraige... Whats positive about a woman who you have sex with who has no intentions of keeping a baby if she gets pregnant, tell you she is pregnant, and then she goes and has an abortion, when you are against it? Women have all the say, so what bennifits someone to find out that they "could" have had a child and then dwell on it all their life and think what if? In a perfect world, or relationship, for that matter, there wouldent be an issue of keeping secrets. there is truth in the saying what you dont know cant hurt you... it only bothers you once you know...