Secret abortions Options

[ToYCeLi8]

Well Thanksgiving just passing and Xmas coming up, all these family holidays coming up, I have been spending more time w/ my family and friends as you are. Also meeting newborn baby cousins.

All this baby talk brought up subjects about the starting of new families and abortions, unfortunatly.

Some of my cousins feel they are ready to start a family other don't and what not. But when abortions came up, a friend of my aunts spoke about an abortion she had when she was younger and never told the father. It turned into a crazy night I rather not go into but here is my question or topic for this thread is, and its aimed at the men:

If a girl you had relations with, YES EVEN A 1 NIGHT STAND, got pregnant with YOUR child (don't argue, its YOURS), and she had an abortion, would you want to know before she did it? Or not be told at all and be fine with it after its done?

Yes you can state your reasons why you would or wouldn't have a baby now.

For me, I would DEFINATLY want to know. Even though it might not be planned, I feel if it took 2 people to make a child, then those 2 people should decide whether or not to keep the child. Right now I am going through some rough times financially so I know I cannot raise a child. My mind set isn't ready either. I really don't plan on having a child until I am about 28, so 6 more years. An abortion is a major descision so it does take time to make sure it is the one you want to make and not regret it. Realistically, I would prefer to put the baby up for adoption. Save a life and help a family.

Mods: I hope this doesn't start a war on 6gc, its just something I took serious when it was so close to my family. So members please do not attack other people's opinions.

David

[forkee]

i think i can agree with everyone. yes, abortion is killing. natalie brings up a good point. if u cant bring it up, or it causes complications, or in the instance of rape, i believe that women should have more than one option to do what they feel is in their best interest. true, we have been doing alot of things since we have become more technologically advance, and people who's beliefs are still traditional are hard to convince otherwise. but we still do what we gotta do to survive.

i can also disagree too. abortion is killing. but what exactly are we killing. it hasnt been born, it may not even have a heartbeat, it might not even have taken shape yet. so sperm and egg joined and theres a chemical reaction that initiates a sequence of instructions. we know what will happen and we stop it. millions of unwanted babies are born every year. overpopulation, scarce resources, u know what happens.....of course, if ur mom had an abortion then u wouldnt be born, but thats not the case. u cant talk about the past. if anything changed in the past, it would create an alternate future anyways. what if some lady 20 years ago didnt have an abortion, and her daughter became the love of ur life.....but u cant talk about that because it didnt happen. u cant talk about things that didnt happen. what if there wasnt a big boom. none of us would even be here. but thats not the case. what everyone is concerned about in abortion is the future. we are trying to shape the future into something better for ourselves. just living and breathing today shapes the way our future ancestors will live. we dont want overpopulation and poverty, do we? people will fight over things and wars will break out. every little thing we do now creates a ripple.

so what if im pro choice. to me, those people who are pro life are advocating sex, correct? if u are truly FOR life, you want babies to pop up everywhere and encourage people to have sex so that humans can populate everywhere. reminds me of hippies. "live!! be free!!" yet they fail to see reality because theyre blinded by their own incompetence. just because people are pro choice doesnt mean that they are against life. but, people who are pro life are against choice, and choice is what makes us better at making a sound decision because we acknowledge our options that are available to us at that point in time.