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[Bigmeanbulldog55]

I'm upset with my girlfriend right now. I've been with her for 4 years now, and she still doesn't understand my passion for cars. You can all read what I've bought for my car in my info. It isn't much. But for some reason she thinks I buy stuff for it all the time. I was telling her I was thinking about bidding on a header online for my car and she got really mad at me. She said, "you don't even need a header, why are you wasting your money?" I just had a birthday, and I felt I should be aloud to maybe buy myself something for a birthday/chirstmas present. I've talked to everyone else in my life, friends and grandpa and mother. They all say, "it's your money, and if that's what you want to spend it on it's okay." I told my girlfriend that all those people said that, but it didn't matter really, because it doesn't matter what anyone else said she is the most important person in my life I can't do something unless she says it's okay. I can't stand her being mad at me. I told her I felt like she's controllling sometimes because she gets mad at me if I don't do exactly what she wants. She got mad at me and told me to spend my money on whatever I wanted and stop caring about what she thought, and it was irritating what I was doing. It feels like no matter what I do, she's mad at me and I can't make her happy. I love her. How do I get her to understand me, and except me?

[Bigmeanbulldog55]

I dated a guy who was into cars and even worked on them for a living and you think I should know what a car can mean to someone but I still would get irritated cuz I wanted him to focus that much attention on me! Maybe she just wants to feel like you want her as much as you want your car! Go buy her some flowers and let her know youre thinking of her!

I buy her flowers all the time. I spend a good bit of money on her in my opinion. I told her anything she wanted for christmas I would get her, as long as I could afford it. I've gotten her somewere around $1500 in jewlery since we started dating. And I've had my car for 2-3 of those years. I try to get her something at least once a week to let her know I care about her. Sometimes I don't have the money to buy a nice necklace or something like that, but I try to get her something.