Secret abortions Options

[ToYCeLi8]

Well Thanksgiving just passing and Xmas coming up, all these family holidays coming up, I have been spending more time w/ my family and friends as you are. Also meeting newborn baby cousins.

All this baby talk brought up subjects about the starting of new families and abortions, unfortunatly.

Some of my cousins feel they are ready to start a family other don't and what not. But when abortions came up, a friend of my aunts spoke about an abortion she had when she was younger and never told the father. It turned into a crazy night I rather not go into but here is my question or topic for this thread is, and its aimed at the men:

If a girl you had relations with, YES EVEN A 1 NIGHT STAND, got pregnant with YOUR child (don't argue, its YOURS), and she had an abortion, would you want to know before she did it? Or not be told at all and be fine with it after its done?

Yes you can state your reasons why you would or wouldn't have a baby now.

For me, I would DEFINATLY want to know. Even though it might not be planned, I feel if it took 2 people to make a child, then those 2 people should decide whether or not to keep the child. Right now I am going through some rough times financially so I know I cannot raise a child. My mind set isn't ready either. I really don't plan on having a child until I am about 28, so 6 more years. An abortion is a major descision so it does take time to make sure it is the one you want to make and not regret it. Realistically, I would prefer to put the baby up for adoption. Save a life and help a family.

Mods: I hope this doesn't start a war on 6gc, its just something I took serious when it was so close to my family. So members please do not attack other people's opinions.

David

[dlx742]

i thought about this, sorta

i think an abortion is wrong period, but in some small cases it could b acceptable i.e. rape. but if a person is just going to use abortion just because they dont want a baby now then that is wrong. if you are going to have sex you should know of the consequences. if you make the choice to have sex, then u need to accept the fact that a kid might come of it, no matter how careful you are. you need to be able to accept the fact that you might get pregnant/ get someone else pregnant and that if you do abortion should not be the "easy way out"

an abortion is only justifiable if having the baby endangers the girls life liek if she is way too young to give birth, or if you were raped and you absolutely can not have a child.

an abortion is wrong if having sex was your decision. because ultimately the child was your decision too