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[Bigmeanbulldog55]

I'm upset with my girlfriend right now. I've been with her for 4 years now, and she still doesn't understand my passion for cars. You can all read what I've bought for my car in my info. It isn't much. But for some reason she thinks I buy stuff for it all the time. I was telling her I was thinking about bidding on a header online for my car and she got really mad at me. She said, "you don't even need a header, why are you wasting your money?" I just had a birthday, and I felt I should be aloud to maybe buy myself something for a birthday/chirstmas present. I've talked to everyone else in my life, friends and grandpa and mother. They all say, "it's your money, and if that's what you want to spend it on it's okay." I told my girlfriend that all those people said that, but it didn't matter really, because it doesn't matter what anyone else said she is the most important person in my life I can't do something unless she says it's okay. I can't stand her being mad at me. I told her I felt like she's controllling sometimes because she gets mad at me if I don't do exactly what she wants. She got mad at me and told me to spend my money on whatever I wanted and stop caring about what she thought, and it was irritating what I was doing. It feels like no matter what I do, she's mad at me and I can't make her happy. I love her. How do I get her to understand me, and except me?

[Bigmeanbulldog55]

Valo, I've tried to compare the two. She really just doesn't get it. Her reasoning behind it is, "Would I like if if she would wear crappy cloths all the time, never wear makeup, or wear perfume." And she says she doesn't care if I have a nice car or not. She isn't like most girls when it comes to that. She wants it to be clean and to run, and that's it. She really doesn't understand the money it takes just to keep one on the road. Man, you should see her car. It's the biggest POS ever. I can't believe it even moves. She complains about her car all the time, but if I say, "well, let me fix it." She comes back with, "That's a waste of money." It stems from her dad too. He's told me a few times, "It's just wasting money to do anything to a car, you'll never get it back out of it." So, they never really "fix" anything on there cars. They just let them run down. Her mom bought a new car, so now she's the only one not driving a ghetto rigged piece of crap in their family.

[1900WattCelica]

Man, you should see her car. It's the biggest POS ever. I can't believe it even moves. She complains about her car all the time, but if I say, "well, let me fix it." She comes back with, "That's a waste of money." It stems from her dad too. He's told me a few times, "It's just wasting money to do anything to a car, you'll never get it back out of it." So, they never really "fix" anything on there cars. They just let them run down. Her mom bought a new car, so now she's the only one not driving a ghetto rigged piece of crap in their family.

Thats funny, my g/f is very good with her money and it too is because her dad is very uptight about spending money. She too was drivign around a pile of crap that cost alot to keep running, but she got sick of it and ditched it and spent most of her savings on a 96 civic for 5200. Her dad was mad cuz she spent too much money lol. People need to realize too that you get what you pay for.