What do I do?, im 21 years old Options

[BlackCelicaGT94]

Ok so I still live at home and have a snoop of a mother. She has numerous times gone thru my room and has made an account on Myspace. When she tells me something on my page is inappropriate we erupt at eachother and she tells me how I look like a Hoe in some of my pics. so I end up taking them down and she promises that she will not go on and check anymore cuz I tell her that its the reason I dont tell her about anything in my life cuz she snoops for the answers. Well guess what she did last night? She snooped on my page again. Keep in mind that my profile is set to private so I dont know how she saw two pics and I went thru my friend list and couldnt find any that i didnt know and thought maybe she made a fake profile. So now I dont know what to do. Im over being 21 years old and having my mother snoop around. Ive grown up a good kid..never did a drug, never smoked a cigarette, didnt start being interested in boys till 17, tell them where im going when i walk out the door, etc (not saying ur a bad kid if u do anything i just stated) So i dont know why at 21 im still being treated like im under the age of 18. My parents arent strict. Im allowed to go out till whenever and what not but its like cuz I dont open up to her about every detail of my life (pretty much no detail) she feels the need to snoop.

[jgreening]

Like it or not, when you live with your parents, there are things you have to put up with that you wouldn't have to if you lived on your own. I moved out at 18 because I was ready to be free. It hurt some as far as saving money is concerned but I would do it again in a heartbeat. Oh, and by the way, my relationship with my mom improved considerably.

One point of your problem does deserve some special attention. That is, some parents have a unending desire to tell their children how to live their life after age of majority. These people do not understand that unwelcomed advice drives their children away. While you should aim to be respectful, it is my FIRM opinion that you must have a serious sitdown discussion with her and tell her that you do not want unsolicited "tips" anymore. If the problem is not addressed now, I GUARANTEE it will get much worse.

The good news is that quality parents can offer persuasive suggestions to us when we stray down the wrong road without being insulting. So, even if your communication with her is effective, she can still have a positive influence on your life without creating unnecessary conflict.