What do I do?, im 21 years old Options

[BlackCelicaGT94]

Ok so I still live at home and have a snoop of a mother. She has numerous times gone thru my room and has made an account on Myspace. When she tells me something on my page is inappropriate we erupt at eachother and she tells me how I look like a Hoe in some of my pics. so I end up taking them down and she promises that she will not go on and check anymore cuz I tell her that its the reason I dont tell her about anything in my life cuz she snoops for the answers. Well guess what she did last night? She snooped on my page again. Keep in mind that my profile is set to private so I dont know how she saw two pics and I went thru my friend list and couldnt find any that i didnt know and thought maybe she made a fake profile. So now I dont know what to do. Im over being 21 years old and having my mother snoop around. Ive grown up a good kid..never did a drug, never smoked a cigarette, didnt start being interested in boys till 17, tell them where im going when i walk out the door, etc (not saying ur a bad kid if u do anything i just stated) So i dont know why at 21 im still being treated like im under the age of 18. My parents arent strict. Im allowed to go out till whenever and what not but its like cuz I dont open up to her about every detail of my life (pretty much no detail) she feels the need to snoop.

[orvillescelica]

ok, im 25 and my sister is 28 and married. We not only live on our own, but both own our own houses, have high paying jobs and our parents live in Chicago and we live out on the west coast ... and guess what? they still try and snoop and inquire about our lives. Of course they can not go to the extremes of checking our rooms and things, but they always offer the advice and tell you what you should do. And do you know why?

because they are your parents!! No matter how old you are or how mature you feel or how successful you may be, your parents are your parents and there is nothing you can do about it. They will always want to be a part of your life and know what is going on in your life. They raised you and took care of you and are now offended that their child (yes! at 12, 21 or 50 you will still be thier child) wants them to leave them alone and cut them out of your life. Its like having a puppy that you raised from birth and loved you and counted on you for food and shleter... and now that that its older, it barks at you all the time and wants to run away. How would you feel?

Moving out will help alieviate things, but will not cure them. Talk to them, tell them what is going on in your life. You dont need tell them everything, but enough to let them know you are doing well. Enough so they dont worry as much. because as parents, they will ALWAYS worry. Include them in your life by asking for advice. Maybe not huge important things, but things in your life. I just asked my mom about home decorating tips. She gave me god awful advice, but at least she now feels i still need her for things and knows about some of whats going on in my life.