Opinion on my relationship Please!, All opinions wanted please. Options

[JonCars17]

I've been in a relationship for a month now and it was going great until a week ago. Therefore I'd like to have everyone's opinion on this. Just put yourself in my position and hers and tell me what you think. I'll give you the facts and try to not leave out anything or to be biast because I want your honest opinion. I will show her the percentage of results to prove that my actions over this is justified because she claims I'm acting like an asshole. We are an hours drive away from eachother and I can't see her everyday because of her schedule with school and her mom because of her age (she is 18 in less than a month) and I'm 23.

Her Facts:
`Her ex-boyfriend still calls her
`He doesn't know about me
`When he calls, it is back to back until she answers
`He wants to get back together with her because he thinks she is single.
`She had a girl tell her that she was gonna beat her up today so she calls her ex wanting advice on how to handle the situation because he has been there before.
`He is violent towards other guys and doesn't want us to fight over her and claims it isn't my choice to tell him but hers and only hers.
`He has shown up to her house in hopes to get back together. They sat for like an hour with her family there.
`He is still number 2 on her myspace page where as I'm number 1. (I don't care about this, just stating).


My facts:
`I have 4 classes with a female friend
`My girlfriend doesn't like her (doesnt know her either)
`Her and I study together sometimes (very rarely) at the college campus' library, but only for a test, which is like everyother week if that, but not every test.
`We don't hang out or anything. (Friend and I)
`If I go to the library at all, she assumes I'm meeting up with the friend
`The friend and I only talk on the phone when she has missed a day of class and needs information on a test.

So far results have been from people I've asked are:
3 dump her (2 girls and 1 guy)

Note:
I made it loud and clear I didn't like him calling her and him not knowing about me long before this post, but now I'm just sick of it.

[Negative]

I don't feel stupid at all. As if a lame comment like that could induce any feelings of stupidity in myself? Whatever - you asked for opinions and you got plenty. You gotta admit that was pretty childish of you to have an arguement and then run to the one person she seems to be having a problem with the most. Further it's pretty childish to be airing yours and her personal problems on a CELICA website. Off topic or no.
Don't they make places like MySpace for this sort of drama?
BTW - I noticed you didn't shoot off at the mouth on Mynzeyez comment. Is that because he is a moderator and you fear the repurcussions?

This post has been edited by Negative: Dec 14, 2006 - 10:17 AM

[Mynzeyes]

BTW - I noticed you didn't shoot off at the mouth on Mynzeyez comment. Is that because he is a moderator and you fear the repurcussions?

I'm not a moderator anymore. It's been a couple of years since I moderated these boards.

BTW, I'm 25, dating a 19 year old. There's really no difference in this. I'm in a full-time career-esque 8 to 5 job, and she's in college.

The main issue with this type of relationship, is the compatibility of maturity levels. She's very educated and mature, and I'm slightly immature for my age. So, we meet in the middle. Also, I will openly admit that she is much more educated than me on things such as politics, religion, history, etc. I know how to work on cars and electronics and engineering.

I realize none of this has anything to do with anything, but I'm just giving an example of when large age gaps can work.

If she's worried about mentioning your relationship to certain people, it's obvious that she is not mature enough for the situation, and still feels that the reprecusions on her image are worth far more than the status of your relationship.

In short:
Her social image > Your relationship.

That's a bad equation, no matter how you look at it.

-John-

[Negative]

I'm not a moderator anymore. It's been a couple of years since I moderated these boards.

My apologies at putting you in a place where you no longer are.
I agree 100% with what you said above. My girlfriend is 23 and I'm 31 so I understand. The main thing that makes us perfect for each other is that she is very mature for her age and I am quite immature when it comes to things like going out still and always looking for a party etc.
The problem I see with this other relationship is the girl is still high school age and therefore subjuct to high school age behavior.
W/e - I come on here to get ideas/help for modding my car not this MySpace crap. I'm out.