Relationship Problems, I Honestly Dont Know What To Do Options

[6th_celi_vert]

First off, you have to understand this girl:

She was raised Very strictly. Her father has taught her to be tough, NEVER show emotions, and to always stand her ground. With that being said, she is also VERY stubborn. I never know what she's thinking, and im pretty good at reading people. Now that you understand the girl, try to understand the situation.

We have been dating two years. We have always got along.

About a month ago, her father saw her at a restaurant with another guy. He kicked her out, and told me the situation. I broke up with her, but she said that it was just a friend from work, and that there was gonna be a bunch of other people she worked with there.

The Facts: They were in seperate cars. She wasnt all over him, he wasnt all over her. (her dad would have told me)


I took her back. fast forward to last week. Her phone rings, were at my house. She goes to the bathroom, and hear them talking. Its the same guy she got caught with at the restaurant. Theyre arguing, i tell her to leave.


She keeps calling me, telling me she's sorry, that she loves me, and she admits to going out with him and calling him and him calling her. She promises and swears that she never kissed him, or anything more than that. She also says that He isnt worth losing me, and that she doesnt love him, she loves me.

Tonight...I took her back. I didnt want to, but i did. I love her so much, i cant help it. Did i do the right thing? should I have given her a second chance??

BTW...she cried. Ive not seen her cry in the two years weve been dating.



PS: She DOES have to work with this guy.


Has anybody here ever been cheated on by the person you wanted to spend your life with?

It hurts, i dont know how to deal with it, im confused...im losing my mind. Seriously.

[forkee]

not to be devils advocate here but......


it seems like you broke up with her because of what her father said and not what you saw.

it sounded like you took his word over hers and in her mind she might have felt betrayed for that.

so what if she did go out with that guy. you guys did break up for awhile. what if, while they were hanging out, she realized how better of a person you are and how better off she is with you than that guy. and maybe she was arguing with him because shes trying to get him off her back.

what you need to remember is that it is a relationship between you two. you dont know what you saw at the restaurant. you dont know what they were arguing about over the phone. all you do know, is what has built up for 2 years between the 2 of you.

you may have given us info about her, but we also need info about you to make a thorough enough opinion. it just sounds like you're insecure and don't trust her, especially since you jump to conclusions quickly. sounds like you might need to address that issue first. if you did trust her, than who care's who she works with.

u suck for making her cry, shame on you!

[6th_celi_vert]

not to be devils advocate here but......


it seems like you broke up with her because of what her father said and not what you saw.

it sounded like you took his word over hers and in her mind she might have felt betrayed for that.

so what if she did go out with that guy. you guys did break up for awhile. what if, while they were hanging out, she realized how better of a person you are and how better off she is with you than that guy. and maybe she was arguing with him because shes trying to get him off her back.

what you need to remember is that it is a relationship between you two. you dont know what you saw at the restaurant. you dont know what they were arguing about over the phone. all you do know, is what has built up for 2 years between the 2 of you.

you may have given us info about her, but we also need info about you to make a thorough enough opinion. it just sounds like you're insecure and don't trust her, especially since you jump to conclusions quickly. sounds like you might need to address that issue first. if you did trust her, than who care's who she works with.

u suck for making her cry, shame on you!

Good points, here's how i am:

*I treat every female in my life like pure gold. I was raised by my mom, and ws taught how to treat women. Amanda (thats her name) was no exception. She got ANYTHING she wanted, i told her i loved her all the time, in the two years we dated, not one time did I ever raise my voice to her or call her a name. She was treated like a princess. (perhaps i spoiled her??)

With that being said. I am very insecure, and i do jump to conclusions worse than anybody i know. I would like to trust her again, but she did like to me alot...

Ive never lied to her about anything...ever.

Ive never wanted to be with anyone else...ever.

Ive had plenty of chances to be with other people...told them to leave me alone.


Im not the bad person here. She cried because i was crying i think.