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First off, you have to understand this girl:
She was raised Very strictly. Her father has taught her to be tough, NEVER show emotions, and to always stand her ground. With that being said, she is also VERY stubborn. I never know what she's thinking, and im pretty good at reading people. Now that you understand the girl, try to understand the situation. We have been dating two years. We have always got along. About a month ago, her father saw her at a restaurant with another guy. He kicked her out, and told me the situation. I broke up with her, but she said that it was just a friend from work, and that there was gonna be a bunch of other people she worked with there. The Facts: They were in seperate cars. She wasnt all over him, he wasnt all over her. (her dad would have told me) I took her back. fast forward to last week. Her phone rings, were at my house. She goes to the bathroom, and hear them talking. Its the same guy she got caught with at the restaurant. Theyre arguing, i tell her to leave. She keeps calling me, telling me she's sorry, that she loves me, and she admits to going out with him and calling him and him calling her. She promises and swears that she never kissed him, or anything more than that. She also says that He isnt worth losing me, and that she doesnt love him, she loves me. Tonight...I took her back. I didnt want to, but i did. I love her so much, i cant help it. Did i do the right thing? should I have given her a second chance?? BTW...she cried. Ive not seen her cry in the two years weve been dating. PS: She DOES have to work with this guy. Has anybody here ever been cheated on by the person you wanted to spend your life with? It hurts, i dont know how to deal with it, im confused...im losing my mind. Seriously. -------------------- ![]() Cuz Thats How Us Country Boyz Roll Growing up racing motocross, i learned one thing..."Always wear clean underwear, you never know when the Paramedics are gonna have to cut your pants off of you" |
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You dont even know if she's cheated. All you know is she ate out with a guy from work and talked to him on the phone some... Its not that big of a deal yet. Just ask her if she has feelings for him or him for her maybe? Tell her the situation with him makes you feel uncomfortable and see what she says. I wouldnt worry too much about it until you have more knowledge of the situation. Unless there is more to the story than your telling us?
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QUOTE(bufferdan @ Dec 19, 2006 - 11:03 AM) [snapback]511637[/snapback] You dont even know if she's cheated. All you know is she ate out with a guy from work and talked to him on the phone some... Its not that big of a deal yet. Just ask her if she has feelings for him or him for her maybe? Tell her the situation with him makes you feel uncomfortable and see what she says. I wouldnt worry too much about it until you have more knowledge of the situation. Unless there is more to the story than your telling us? She told me He tried to kiss her, but she turned away when he tried. She said he didnt mean anything to her, and that she knew he wouldnt treat her the way i did. -------------------- ![]() Cuz Thats How Us Country Boyz Roll Growing up racing motocross, i learned one thing..."Always wear clean underwear, you never know when the Paramedics are gonna have to cut your pants off of you" |
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She told me He tried to kiss her, but she turned away when he tried. She said he didnt mean anything to her, and that she knew he wouldnt treat her the way i did.
[/quote] trust me, bro...she wouldn't tell you things like that if she didn't want you to be jealous. she wants you to know she thought about it. i hope no one will be offended by this, but women are always the weakest part of a relationship. they are guided by emotion some of the time (er, often) and it messes with things. this girl knows she has it good with you. if you really are the chivalrous, stand-up guy you say that you are, it's hard to find and women know that. however, she's apparently seeking other male friends...for whatever reason. it's not my place to accuse her, so i can't say she was looking to cheat. but you can't deny that if she were playing it straight, she would never hang out with another guy...even if they're "just friends"... without you at least knowing about it. most people would agree that it should never happen in the first place. jumping back to women's emotions....she got caught in this thing (however major or minor it may be), and it seems that she's desperate to stay with you because she wants it to disrupt her life as little as possible. i guess the expression could be "having her cake and keeping her boyfriend, too." you have to think about this thusly. i have been more or less where you are, and this is what someone much older and wiser told me: picture her at her absolute worst. maybe this means cheating on you. maybe she has a purple shirt you hate, maybe she chews gum loud. put everything together, just make the worst total picture out of it. if you couldn't live with that, every day...for the rest of your life, because your love overwhelms that........you know what to do. best of luck with all this, man. just remember to look out for number one. -------------------- ![]() do you know who i am, mr. worley? |
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