well, im kinda freakin out/pissed off Options

[Valo666]

So, back in Sept, i moved down here to Windsor for school and when I did, i left my friends, family, and gf back home in Toronto. Any ways, its been pretty hard for me having my gf livin like 3 and a half hours away. Any ways, lately shes been hangin out with her best friend more. So shes been going out with her best friend Tyler (female, dont ask), her bf Josh and this guy that they are friends with Mikey. So this Mikey guy since the first time they met has been hittin on her. First thing he ever said to her was "so are you single?" Since then when ever they r hangin out the guy asks for hugs, tryed to put his arm around her as much as possible. But she always pushes him away and every thing, but apparently this guy gets obsest with girls alot. Like apparently this guy was obsest with his ex gf for like a year to the point where she had to get a TRO for him. So im kinda concerned about that. But also to add to that, some new guy started at her work and has been hittin on her since day 1 aswell. Like she told him we are goin out, told him we have been goin out for a long time, told him shes movin down here in the summer, but this guy doesnt seem to care. He hits on her constantly, tries to flirt with her constantly, etc. And like i mean its ok if he just flirts maybe once or twice b4 he gets the point that shes already taken/not interested, but this guy doesnt stop. She told me that all of her co-workers say he does it with all of them, but she has never seen or heard it. Also the other day as she was leaving he yelled out to her as he was walkin out the door "So you know im gonna be here waiting for you when your fiance(even though we arent engaged) dumps you." This guy has never met me b4, doesnt know any thing about me and then tells my girl friend of over 2 years that hes gonna b waiting for her when i dump her. So im kinda pissed off because i have to hear about this from 3 and a half hours away, and im pissed for the obvious reason that i dont like the idea of 2 sketchy guys hittin on my girlfriend. And im kinda freaking out about this Mikey guy and how he gets so obsest with people to the point where ppl need to take out TROs on him.

Any ideas of what i should do? Im gonna b back in toronto next week for a week, so im thinkin of just meetin these guys and tellin them to f*ck off. But i dunno..any ideas?

[uberschall]

hey, simma down now. let's all be nice, guys.

nobody's going to get anywhere if we're ALL asses.

anyway....i tend to be a little overprotective and jealous myself. i used to be pretty verbal about it, to the point that alot of the guys in my gf's circle of friends started to be uncomfortable around me because i was notorious for being an ass.

i finally sat down and talked it over with my lady, and it all comes down to trust, like 6gcSTVT said. if you trust your girlfriend, things will take care of themselves. the thing i learned in all of it was that if my gf needs me for something, she'll tell me. if your gf is really uncomfortable with this mikey fella she will take the necessary action to get rid of him. i wouldn't involve yourself unless she wants you to be involved.

when you go back, don't be too hard with the guy(s?), they'll only use it against you. you can trust me on this one-your girlfriend would much rather see you passive until provoked. women like strong men, but not aggressive men. if you are threatened, do what you have to, but unless somebody has deliberately hurt you or yours, lay low.

i have to agree with everyone else, talk to your girl and see what she really thinks.