For all the ppl out there, who live away from their parents Options

[NaderG]

SO ! i am pretty much sick with living at home , i have had it with being bossed around , yelled at , called names and consistently abused and of course no matter what i do to make things better , it never does and i end up being hurt a bit more !
now that i am done with my introduction , i will now tell you what are my current choices for this situation :
1- Stay living here , miserable of course , constantly distracted from school and work by the over sized drama load that is really ridiculous , which will eventually lead me to choice number 3

2- Here where my question is : I am thinking of moving out of here, and get my own life .... i don't have any friends, and i don't know really where to go but i was wondering about the cost of living , specially here in so-cal ... this choice is really not easy .... anyways , i can kind of see my self with this choice , basically working 10X harder , going to school ( college) , i will also be outcasted by the community of people i live in ( Egyptian people ) and still pretty miserable ... eventually choice 3 will start looking good

3- of course the big one , lol .... well , it is really simple , it has something to do with some pills and lots of water , or maybe car exhaust in a unventilated area ...and then everything turns out better.. i think thats enough hints

ya i know i sound like i am whining like a baby , but its really hard( and way too long) to explain what i been going through for the last ...... **** i don't know how long , it feels like forever and it seems like it never going to end ......

i dont know why i am posting this on here , but i dont know anywhere else where i can let this off my chest , specially that no one really knows who i am on here ....

This post has been edited by NaderG: Oct 24, 2007 - 10:24 PM

[yarik83]

in my last few years in new jersey (before i moved) i had spent some time working side by side with egyptians. I , as an outsider have no right to tell you to break cultural bonds and ties. I do however have an advice for you and I apologize ahead if it will hit a nerve or two.

Based on around 20 egyptians I do know and for quite some time now. Their lifestyle and more importantly Life improvement stays at trailer trash level living in what is often a smelly with mold house, about 900 pieces of useless thrown out furniture, low ceilings et cetera et cetera. From what I can see their lifestyle is no better.

I would like you to consider a few things:

#1 if you continue living according to your cultural traditions in a country that celebrates freedom of having the right to do anything with ones life you will only end up like your father yelling sahala mahala yowala sahala. You are in a country that gives you opportunity to say.. F my heritage and viva la brighter future.
#2 if you do not leave your parents that will only accentuate the above while making you a more miserable person.
#3 you have to really mean it and want it if you want to leave. It would be pointless otherwise. If you intend to leave and then spend next 20 years in poverty because you do not have the willpower to bend over backwards and accomplish what this country could give you then there is no point in leaving and changing one doo doo life style for another.

#4 As an immigrant myself and as a person who have ran away from parents at age 15 while barely speaking language.. All I got to say is that percistance and perseverence pays off. I have finished highschool. college and now have a wonderful job. In past 10 years I can contribute my success to failure of others. While working on every crappy job imaginable it only motivated me to go on and achieve my goals.

I know I may sound all pro american now and anti cultural. Trust me mate when you are given an opportunity to live out your american dream, whatever it may be... live it out because not every country provides you with an open future. Surely it does not grab your hand and guide you on your road to success but it never holds you back.

On a final note. Move out, preferably out of state. Stay in contact with people that you care about. Get a job, finish school, find ways to fund your college ie grants and scholarships and prove to yourself that in a few short years you can outlive your family expectations on your own.