For all the ppl out there, who live away from their parents Options

[NaderG]

SO ! i am pretty much sick with living at home , i have had it with being bossed around , yelled at , called names and consistently abused and of course no matter what i do to make things better , it never does and i end up being hurt a bit more !
now that i am done with my introduction , i will now tell you what are my current choices for this situation :
1- Stay living here , miserable of course , constantly distracted from school and work by the over sized drama load that is really ridiculous , which will eventually lead me to choice number 3

2- Here where my question is : I am thinking of moving out of here, and get my own life .... i don't have any friends, and i don't know really where to go but i was wondering about the cost of living , specially here in so-cal ... this choice is really not easy .... anyways , i can kind of see my self with this choice , basically working 10X harder , going to school ( college) , i will also be outcasted by the community of people i live in ( Egyptian people ) and still pretty miserable ... eventually choice 3 will start looking good

3- of course the big one , lol .... well , it is really simple , it has something to do with some pills and lots of water , or maybe car exhaust in a unventilated area ...and then everything turns out better.. i think thats enough hints

ya i know i sound like i am whining like a baby , but its really hard( and way too long) to explain what i been going through for the last ...... **** i don't know how long , it feels like forever and it seems like it never going to end ......

i dont know why i am posting this on here , but i dont know anywhere else where i can let this off my chest , specially that no one really knows who i am on here ....

This post has been edited by NaderG: Oct 24, 2007 - 10:24 PM

[uberschall]

normally i avoid contributing to threads like this, but this topic kind of hit close to home for me. no pun intended.

i'm not sure about the cultural aspect of this...so i'm not going to comment on that.

i've been living on my own (in michigan) for some time now, and here's what i can tell you:

first, i'm 23. i don't know how old you are, but i lived through almost a decade of my parents and i NOT getting along. only when i had two steady jobs and a for-sure roommate lined up did i decide i was ready to leave.

you have to be 100% ready to take care of everything on your own. rent, food, and utility costs are the least of it. if you can't handle doing laundry, cleaning, and making all your own meals, you should reconsider...because on top of paying all the bills yourself, you have to make all the other wheels in the household turn too.

i enjoy my "freedom" as much as anybody, but i'll be the first to tell you that free rent and other perks of living at home are sorely missed.

getting out of the house afforded me (and presumably it will you) the opportunity to do things MY way, 100% of the time. that's awesome.

it's not cheap. unless you've got a guaranteed source of solid income and/or a reliable, responsible roommate in a similar situation, you'll get in over your head, and fast. this is my second stint out of the house...after a few months of living with dudes i thought were good friends, i moved back home because they turned out to be messy, inconsiderate, and downright miserable housmates.

you only get one set of parents. whether you get along or not, that relationship will not be diminished. i can assure you that if you move out, some lines will be crossed and it's up to you to decide whether or not that's something you want to live with for the rest of your life. it seems to me like they're really getting to you recently and there's a chance this could all blow over in a few days/weeks/months...but either way, you have to be committed to where you plan to be.

obviously you have access to a computer, your own car (whether you can customize it or not), a place to sleep, and you're going to school. alot of kids aren't that fortunate.

no one can TELL you what would work best, but i'm sure you'll make the right decision on your own.