Question to all guys here at 6gc, about girls................... Options

[joehernandez]

I know most of the 6gc members are men,
well, i wanted to ask you,
there is this girl i like, and she likes me too, but for some reasons we can't still be together..
the question is,
would you guys let her dance freak with your friends?
even if you are not boyfriend to her?
what about the ones that are in a relationship, would you let her?

i am asking cuz it really sucked for me, and i really want to tell her about that it make me really mad
going to the club and seen her dancing with me and two of my friend freak,.......
need opinions!!

[joehernandez]

Okay, first of all, you should be asking a chick this, not a guy about this, because well, guys can only speculate.


Second of all, you went wrong in your first post when you said "let" as in "Should I let her" blah blah blah

So here's the rundown, from a girl's perspective, and probably one who knows women better than anyone else on this board for just Oh So Many Reasons
1) You don't "let" her do anything. She's not even your girlfriend so not only do you NOT get to say what she can and can't do, you also don't get to ask her nicely not to. She's going to do what she's going to do and the notion that you have the authority to either allow or disallow something is absolutely, well, laughable. I get that it's kind of a different deal with latin dudes than with plain old white guys (somewhat) but if you want to look at it from that perspective, well, she's not your wife. You don't get to say what she can and can't do.
2) She's your boss? That's a train wreck waiting to happen for you, my friend. Steer clear. If you like her that much, get a new job THEN ask her out. It's just a super bad idea to get involved with your boss. It's just not worth it, unless you enjoy an ass-load of drama and high maintenance sh*t in your life, in which case, have fun!

you know, you brought a new point to the post,,,
i really dont get it why people say that a boss-worker relationship is full of drama,,
to tell you the truth we have been like this for one year, but she likes to dance a lot,
even though she doesnt goes out that much,,, once every 6 months,,,,
i would like to tell the whole story,, but it seems toooooo much,,,
i am sure you will be surprised of the story,,,,

Really, I'm the last person that you should listen to, Anything that i tell you will wind up saving you heart-break and pain; because i've had to learn myself the hardway. As we' all have on some level or another. Some of us just don't give up until we're living out of our cars or behind bars, (ect) and it's no way to live any part of your life, ever.

I'd say to play off that whole "Friends" crap, w/o hanging out with her. pass her calls when you can, or get loaded and talk to her about anything that's not related to ya'll. Like cars. Pullin that whole "friends" thing (so i've been advised) will make them bored and yern for more, or make them walk. Eitherway, it makes short work of the problem.

you know what, lots of friends have told me,,,
don't pay a lot of attention to girls,, the more you ignore them,
the more they look for you, i have tried it, and it really does work.