Starting Over Again......., Kind of hard to admit this stuff, but I ask for advice Options

[Random_Stranger]

Okay, need both the advice from a woman's perspective and men who know how to talk to girls (obviously I am tired of being shy and ready to get back out there). So I am over this whole "Ex" thing now and ready to get back out there. Naturally I am not too too aggressive, but aggressive is necessary in my city as women are not likely to just walk up and talk to you.

So I want some advice on etiquette. Is it okay to ask a chick out who you just met for the first time, let's say if you show up at her work? For instance....

Just tonight coming back from Tuner Tuesdays, I stopped off at a store to get some smokes. A girl about my age asked if I needed help. So I asked for the smokes, showed ID. Then she is like "So how are you doing tonight?" and I was like "Good" then I paused thinking "Why would she even bother talking to me? No one really does that they just ring you up and send your happy ass on your way". I am not the kind to take kindness for general interest, yet I was curious to pursue because she was pretty and had a Fat Booty (which I admit I like that* Here is where you laugh). So I asked her "How is your day?" and she was like "Good actually, and I get off work here in a bit so that is even better" and I was like "Yeah, that is good". Then she was like "Well you take care" and I said "you too" and left.

Now, normally this really doesn't happen to me. The only time it does is when I make eye contact with a girl and she smiles a lot and then we end up talking a bit before I leave. So I dunno how to read women. Was a situation like that just out of kindness? I mean, me personally, would strike up conversations with "regulars" be it man or woman, and if a girl caught my eye, then I try to talk to them. So would a woman operate the same way?

I am lost. It has been awhile (like a few years) since I have started dating (I mean seriously, not just having booty calls here and there from chicks a lil lower than your standards). Looking for something around my level (not saying that I am all that either though). I know this is a stupid thread, but I dunno who else to turn to and it is starting to be kind of a big deal for me. I mean I am 26! I am still young, but this stuff I should have down already!

You guys wanna flame me it is cool, but like I said, I really ask your thoughts.

[Supersprynt]

shes just doin her job...i wouldnt worry about her...look for someone else

k thanks. no pointers? Is it okay to ask for someone's number first time you meet?

It should be done the first time you meet, it will identify yourself as an interested party and set the tone for your next meeting. Not doing it will start down the path to the friend zone.

[Random_Stranger]

shes just doin her job...i wouldnt worry about her...look for someone else

k thanks. no pointers? Is it okay to ask for someone's number first time you meet?

It should be done the first time you meet, it will identify yourself as an interested party and set the tone for your next meeting. Not doing it will start down the path to the friend zone.

So even if people try to tell you that you come off too aggressive, we should say "Ugh yeah! That's what men do!" and just keep it up then? Because I get told that a lot by my cousin. But then again, I think that is how it needs to be, a woman is not really going to walk up and talk to a guy and when it happens to me, I end up getting the psycho chicks. Sometimes they are psycho nympho, which sounds not so bad for the second part, but it turns bad because they are major psychos.