My Room Mate is Freaking Incredible, *rant* but advice needed also Options

[BlackCelicaGT94]

Ok so i grew up next door to two girls. one my age and one was 5 years older. I was friends with Rachel (girl my age) till about 16 when we went different ways in HS. I then became close to her sister (alycia) and we moved in together in september in a house in Medina (one of the most expensive places to live in washington)

so our little two bedroom shack (dont get me wrong its a really cute place) was 1,200 dollars a month for rent. she was desperate for someone to move in with ASAP cuz her and her b/f had just split and i was desperate to get out of my house cuz i was having problems with my parents. So i stressed to her that i could only give her 500 dollars a month max and if i had some extra cash some months she would get it. She said that was fine cuz she makes 4 g's a month. so everything was good. I would go home at night if she was at work and sleep at my parents cuz i have a big fear of being raped. so i never felt safe. So anyways 3 months had passed and im pretty broke. I got credit card bills to pay, 2 cell phones, gas, food, social life.

So i wrote her a note on saturday explaining that was my best friend and that i honestly could not do more than 500 dollars a month and if she found someone else to move in with her i would not be upset cuz it wasnt fair that she was paying a 1,000 dollars a month. so i told her to take the weekend to think about things and i would be back on monday.

She text me saturday afternoon asking if i wanted to go to a concert and i had asked her if she had seen my note and she said and i quote "yeah and dont worry about it. i know ur doing what you cant" so that was that. then while im at work on monday i get a text saying "we need to talk about money, u should be paying 800 dollars a month" i told her that thats why i had given her the note and everything. so basically it comes down to i will not give her a dime more than 500 a month cuz thats what i told her from the get go i would give her. so ive moved most of my stuff back and ive told her hey ill give you 500 a month till feb 1st so u can find somsone to live with you but i cant stay there and pay more than 500 a month cuz i end up having no life. I only make 1,000 a month! so she calls me harassing my Voicemail saying that i need to step up the plate and take responsibility.

Which if i was slacking and not paying what i had promised her from the beginning i could see but i guess i just dont see her point. I know its unfair for me to pay only 500 though i dont eat, shower, wash clothes, get the garage, or master bedroom there. So really i think 500 is fair - i only really sleep there like 3 times a week! oh and im not allowed to use my computer over there cuz she doesnt wanna unhook her computer and let me plug my lap top in though that bill is in my name.

i have people all around me telling me im being to nice. but i havent even talked to this girl since monday cuz i dont see the point. theres nothing to talk about. i told her i could only do 500 and i think im being nice by giving her till feb 1st to find someone else.

GIRLS ARE CRAZY!

anyone got any suggestions on what else i need to say to her??

[chucho]

I'm sorry, I dont have any advice (cant think of any) but hopefull you'll be able to find somewhere else to go and get away from that situation.

[BlackCelicaGT94]

oh my parents are totally fine with me moving back in! and im pretty fine with it too - being home for 3 months made me realize that they really arent that bad

they want me home anyways cuz i cost them more money when im not living at home

[chucho]

they want me home anyways cuz i cost them more money when im not living at home
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Thats hilarious

My parents dont spend much money on me. I bought the car and have put everything into it. And i buy all my own stuff now. & their is never anything to eat at home so I buy most of my own food. But free rent rocks

This post has been edited by chucho: Nov 25, 2004 - 9:16 PM

[Andason]

say "ah! im a mime! im a mime!"
the she'll be like "dude, mimes don't talk"
then respond "well.... they do when.... they're... off-duty"

[BlackCelicaGT94]

LOL WTF!!

haha andason ill try that

[macavely]

well just mover everything else out and if your note on the less and you have no verbal contract on how long you where going to stay before you moved in.. just leave.. you told her what you could do and thats what you are doing.. so just get out before it get worse... and see i told you women are crazy..

[Andason]

LOL WTF!!

haha andason ill try that
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sorry i had to respond to a natalie thread in a natalie way... lol

[BlackCelicaGT94]

Yeah im not on the lease! my parents saved me from that! they said dont sign dont sign so i didnt :-) THANK YOU TO MY PARENTS

[macavely]

well if your not on it the just bounce.. cause things like this usally get worse the longer you stick around.. take a page out her ex;s book and split.. let someone else deal with that crazyness

[saleeka]

Yeah im not on the lease! my parents saved me from that! they said dont sign dont sign so i didnt :-) THANK YOU TO MY PARENTS
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its your saving grace... no contract and she has almost no grounds to be able to take furthur action... this is why its a BAD idea to roomate with friends- with them you already know what buttons you can and cannot push so its almost like living at home- and you still end up with conflict...

[BlackCelicaGT94]

oh and she snooped on my computer and thru my room!

that is exactlyt the reason i moved out cuz my parents did that!! haha nice to know my best friend did it too


oh and she gave me my early x-mas gift on sunday - what was it you ask!! a FAKE coach purse! which is funny cuz i own 7 coach things that are real - i was like WTF! i mean thanks for the thought but im not one to rock anything fake!

but i went home to gather some stuff and noticed she took it back

[amysmojo]

You havent spoken since Monday??? Have you reminded her about the note?? And how you have told her $500 from the beggining? I would make sure she is clear on all of that & your past conversations. $4g a month????....tell her to get her panties out of her ass. If I made that much a month I would let you live with me for free!!! Lol

[orvillescelica]

i think youve taken the right route to give her a few months to find a new roommate. If you cant afford the place, then i think she should understand that, you dont make as much money are her. ITs really as simple as that.

Tell her that its a financial situation. That you are being responsible by moving out and that you simply cant afford to stay there any longer. That if you did, you will become broke and go into debt.

Also, why is she demanding $800 a month from you. If the rent is $1200, shouldnt equal rent be $600??

[macavely]

oh and she snooped on my computer and thru my room!

that is exactlyt the reason i moved out cuz my parents did that!! haha nice to know my best friend did it too


oh and she gave me my early x-mas gift on sunday - what was it you ask!! a FAKE coach purse! which is funny cuz i own 7 coach things that are real - i was like WTF! i mean thanks for the thought but im not one to rock anything fake!

but i went home to gather some stuff and noticed she took it back
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hey buy more Coach stuff thats more money in my pocket..

[creis]

your being pritty nice about it, if you said 500 or nothing and she wont take it then i would split, if she makes 4gs a month and the rent is only 1200 then what is her problem thats 2800 left for other bills, and crap she should not be so mad about it, and consider herself lucky.

My advise is dich now, and let that be that.

[neoklis]

Well, if you said from the start that you would have a problem paying more than 500 then you are clear. I know a lot of people like this girl that always want to do what they think and are not considerate of other people. I would say ditch her and don't give it another thought. Just say you have financial problems and move back with the parents. Make sure there are no bills on your name before you move.

Now regarding the parents, i have noticed that they generally behave a lot better once you moved out and then moved back in. As for the snooping around, well who can blame them. You are leaving under their roof so they have some rights aswell. If you have nothing to hide then there is nothing to find when they snoop. Personally, after leaving on my own for 7 years while studying and another 2 when i was in the army, i moved back with them when i came from the states.
I have no real issues so far, and this helped me save for my GT4 so i ahve no complaints. Just think of it like $500 a month wasted. 6 months of rent is another Celi or a 3SGTE engine.

[jojobombiest]

Just think of it like $500 a month wasted. 6 months of rent is another Celi or a 3SGTE engine.
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Nice way to look at it.

[coustoe]

ahhh, hmmm. Try to be civil as possible, because even though you haven't signed a contract, she can legally through small claims courts be a pain.

I used to room with a girl, she had some problems paying the rent and other things like her car, I remember I used to have to drive her to work, pick up her groceries etc. I mean I'm a nice guy, but its kinda annoying to basically be someones servant and pay the extra rent. She tried to make it up to me though by taking me with one of her friends to a strip bar, didn't work because her friend ended up burning a hole in my celica seats with his cig he was smoking and throwing up in my car.

[Andason]

ahhh, hmmm.  Try to be civil as possible, because even though you haven't signed a contract, she can legally through small claims courts be a pain.

I used to room with a girl, she had some problems paying the rent and other things like her car, I remember I used to have to drive her to work, pick up her groceries etc.  I mean I'm a nice guy, but its kinda annoying to basically be someones servant and pay the extra rent.  She tried to make it up to me though by taking me with one of her friends to a strip bar, didn't work because her friend ended up burning a hole in my celica seats with his cig he was smoking and throwing up in my car.
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thats why you dont let anyone smoke in your car. im a smoker and even i dont get to smoke in it.