Girl Aint nothin' but problems, Chronicals of a Casanova Options

[acenova]

Alright, so as I posted during the summer, I'm in love w/ my best friend who is in Spain for the first term of school. Confessed my love to her in Barcelona the night before I left, and had you asked me about a month ago, I'd have told you I am ready for a relationship that could last forever w/ this girl RIGHT NOW. Now, my feelings for her haven't changed, but as far as how ready for the relationship I am, that has changed. Just recently I started hanging out w/ this girl that I met and you know, it's cutesy kissy cuddly and sheist, but my Friend comes back on Sunday... I have no idea what she's thinking and she never said that she wanted to be with me when she came back. We've just had a series of talks in the past about getting together, but we never actually hooked up. So now I have no idea what's gonna happen when she comes back, and I have to make a decision because I don't wanna upset the girl I've been kickin' it with lately because she's cool as all hell, not to mention she's a good friend of my roomy's girlfriend. At the same time, can I really turn down the one girl I've been in love with for quite sometime if she wants to take it to that level? Not to mention she's my best friend and means everything to me... I know I want to end up w/ her in the end, but I just don't know about now! I'm only 20, too many things race through my mind, but I don't know if I'm ready for the level of relationship that would be brought on by my friend coming back. All my friends here, even the one in our tight circle of friends that includes my friend in Spain, says just date this girl for a while and put my friend on hold. I don't know if I can do that! Any of you have this situation before?!

[Ale_lock]

Yea, I ended up ditching the love cause it wasn't the same & now I am very happy & know I made my choice for the better. Me & the chick are still friends, I mean out of 2 years after my desicion, I've talked to her for about a month total & still know her better than she knows herself & still feel at times of wanting to be with her but I know it's never going to be the same.

I have no idea what she's thinking and she never said that she wanted to be with me when she came back.

Unless there was some untold commitment being upheld, be with the new chick & see what your best friend wants between you & her when she arrives then come back with another help post.

[creis]

dont really know what to day, Its kinda something you have to decide on your own, there are a million things that could have happen to change your longterm grils mind wile away, but its up to you if the new girl is worth getting to know more. sounds like you gata make a disiction though, and remember being honist with both girls will probibly help you out in making that choice.

[chucho]

I'm just agreeing w/ the title. But in your case your head is the problem(nothing against you, i know those mind games suck) and girls really aint messing you up.

[amysmojo]

Ace your last name fits you perfectly 2 womenz hmmmm I am glad I am not in the "pick one of them" situation. That would be pretty hard. I say keep dating this girl you've been seeing already. Because...if you break it off w/ the current girl only to find out your friend doesnt want to be w/ you like that then.....your down TWO women you care about!

Plus...like you said your 20 years old,....gotta date around & see whats out there so you know for a fact your best friend is truely the only one you want to be w/ in the end.

[acenova]

I'm just agreeing w/ the title.  But in your case your head is the problem(nothing against you, i know those mind games suck) and girls really aint messing you up.
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Haha, yea, I Know my mind is killing me. I've had nothing but relationships, so this whole dating but keeping your single status is hard for me right now because everytime I think about how to bring up "the talk" w/ either one, it sounds too much like I'm considering either of them my girlfriend, and neither of them are, so it's just like...wtf???
But the title was simply to imply that girls just be causin' problems in life, whether they know it or not, but I wouldn't have it any other way.

AMy, haha, you and me can just go out and I'll leave the tough life behind! You can be my Boo

[Digndoug]

Dude, play it cool. No girls want a guy who is gunna stress over this sheat. Iv noticed, I get more women, an here more women like me, when i dont care, stress or worry bout it. Just let things how they happen, happen.

[amysmojo]

AMy, haha, you and me can just go out and I'll leave the tough life behind!    You can be my Boo
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haha Nice!

[Gilbert_619]

Dude, play it cool. No girls want a guy who is gunna stress over this sheat. Iv noticed, I get more women, an here more women like me, when i dont care, stress or worry bout it. Just let things how they happen, happen.
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same thing i was thinking....girls tend to look for something to rest on..not a damm guy that is all stressed out...your only 20 life still hasnt hit you....come down to cali take a night out on the beach and then tell me you want a relationship....party up live life to the fullest last thing you want is getting a girl the breaking up with her later and telling yourself it was a waste....go with the flow and see what the girls want first...play it like you got 100's of women

[BlackCelicaGT94]

I'm just agreeing w/ the title.  But in your case your head is the problem(nothing against you, i know those mind games suck) and girls really aint messing you up.
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Haha, yea, I Know my mind is killing me. I've had nothing but relationships, so this whole dating but keeping your single status is hard for me right now because everytime I think about how to bring up "the talk" w/ either one, it sounds too much like I'm considering either of them my girlfriend, and neither of them are, so it's just like...wtf???
But the title was simply to imply that girls just be causin' problems in life, whether they know it or not, but I wouldn't have it any other way.

AMy, haha, you and me can just go out and I'll leave the tough life behind! You can be my Boo
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I wish i had ur problem ace- ive had nothing but hte flings and its getting hard to sit here and just keep dating while still being considered single!!

but if u ever wanna know how to be a playa ;-) let me know!

hehe - ive hung on guys before cuz a guy was asking for my number and then i call the 1st guy back and say oh sorry my phone cut out - I got some skills ;-)


Natalie

This post has been edited by BlackCelicaGT94: Dec 2, 2004 - 3:47 PM

[acenova]

Dude, play it cool. No girls want a guy who is gunna stress over this sheat. Iv noticed, I get more women, an here more women like me, when i dont care, stress or worry bout it. Just let things how they happen, happen.
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Yea, I definitely hear you there man, it's the same w/ me. The less you try, the more you get. W/ me, I'm stressin', but don't nobody know it but my close friends, so neither of these girls know it either. I just don't wanna **** things up w/ either of them, especially not my friend in Spain, that's where I'm caught up. I'm one of those people who hates having someone pissed at them, esp. if I care for them.

[forkee]

I've been in this situation before, cept they were both nearby, and they knew each other, haha. if you're really ready to start something with either one, make up ur mind instead of keeping both in the dark, find out which one you cannot lose as a potential girl, and the other you cannot lose as a potential friend. if you lag too long you lose both, and tension might arise where they both conspire against you. it pretty much comes down to either picking one, and letting it be known, or losing both.