As if I really needed more BS, From my ex... Options

[Anub1s]

Well...Its over now.  I guess.  Its going to be really hard to move on without any part of her in my life...But I gotta give it a shot..Its my only option now.


Thanks for being here for me guys.  This is the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with in my entire life.  I dont know what I'd do without you guys.  You're really good people.  I'm glad I own a Celica.
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I'm sorry to hear about that dude, I bet its hard. I can't really sympathize with you, I'm not what you would call a guy who's popular with women. I hope it all works out for you in the best way possible. Just try to get out there and forget about her. It's going to be nearly impossible to get her entirely out of your mind, but once you get to the point where you just don't care as much as you did, you will be better off. Get out there, call that girl, have some fun and get on with life.

[Yota]

If it were that easy to just pick up the phone and call a girl and start all over...I would have done it by now. But I can't do that while I still have these feelings for my ex. I think right now, I just need time to heal and pick myself up.

[celicagurl152003]

Hey Yota,

Here's some input from a female point of view. Truthfully you are getting some really good advice from the other guys but all i have to tell you is if a woman is looking at another guy and not you then apparently she's not that interested anymore. i mean she may say that she is deciding if she wants you or this other guy but do you really want a girl that isn't sure if she wants to be with you over someone that could really care for you. She's got you right where she wants you to be. i mean she's litterally playing on your feelings here. If she wanted you she wouldn't have to decide, and you seem to really care for her but if she can't see that hey it's her loss. move on you don't need the drama, you can find someone who wont play with your feeling and care for you just as much as you care for her. AND WHATEVER YOU DO IF SHE WANTS YOU BACK AND SAYS THIS GUY WAS WRONG FOR ME BUT NOW I KNOW YOUR THE ONE DON'T BUY IT!she's playing with your heart again. she's just coming back cause she thinks you'll take her back. your worth more don't put up with that crap.
good luck

celicagurl152003

[Yota]

I have thought about that...I mean basically what you're telling me is that I'm just a second place finisher in all of this. But, we also agreed on dating around before settling down with each other. I understand where you are coming from and you might be right.

I don't know what to think anymore so I'm open to all these suggestions to the situation. I can't move on because I'm still deeply in love with her. I think about her constantly everyday. I can't even do anything to get my mind off of her.. Thats how bad this is. Everyday seems to get worse for me. I don't know what else to do...

This is also a 3 year relationship we're talking about here. Could it really go down the tubes this quick and be completely over? If thats the case, I don't know if I will date for a long ass time. Is this why the divorce rate is near 50%?

This post has been edited by Yota: Feb 9, 2005 - 11:09 PM

[celicagurl152003]

See but you have to think of it this way, you are dating people to see who is the right one for you. I see that you love her but she dosen't know what she wants, at the same time she's thinking about dating another guy. What i'm trying to say is that if she wants to see other guys now, then what if your married and she gets tired of the realationship with you and wants to go off again? Are you going to want to go through this all over again and get hurt more? Trust me I know where you're coming from I was in a relationship with a guy for 4 years and he said close to the same thing. I loved him alot but at the same time I new that i couldn't waite around for him to make up his mind. I didn't date for 2 years hoping he'd come back and he never did. He is now married to my old friend and I'm still alittle hurt but I realized there are "other fish in the sea" I know that sonds corny but it's true. and you will feel bad and want her and trust me it is hard but it fades and you will see that okay you and her were not ment to be but you were ment for someone else. if she's putting you through this kind of pain and she knows you love her then shame on her, it's her loss. She has made the decision now it's your turn to decide do you want this kind of love that is full of uncertainty or do you want the kind od love that is equal to what you have to offer someone. You can put two people together but you can't make them love each other , maybe she knows this and is trying to let you off the hook by ging you these hints. you have to decide for yourself if you think you deserve more than this, from what i read i think you do. you sound like a great person and she is toying with that thought.

celicagurl152003

[Yota]

You're right...There is nothing that garuntees the fact that this wouldn't happen again if we got back together.

The 'other fish in the sea' sounds bad. maybe I'm the fish that she caught and shes waiting to catch something bigger before she throws me back in...

It isn't something I want in the end of all this and there has got to be someone out there that will realize what I am to a relationship..

[celicagurl152003]

you got that right you go for the love that someone is willing to give you in return.

[Yota]

Thats what I'm hoping to do. I wish I wasn't so weak about this all...

[Digndoug]

Thats what I'm hoping to do.  I wish I wasn't so weak about this all...
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You bia ... J/K .. just do stuff for your self now. work out, spend some cash on the celi, buy some new clothes, hang out with your close buddies. Anything to forget about her asap. THEN Move on.

[Yota]

Word to that...My swap is gonna be kicked in overdrive now.