Boy Rant, Warning Options

[BlackCelicaGT94]

Yeserday

So Ive been dating this guy for close to three weeks. Ive been sleeping at his house every night for past 2 weeks *as of this friday* and ive hung out with him every single day since the night we met. Well today he is gonna hang with his homie cuz his homie is getting jealous that im always with him. And ya know i know in the back of mind that he should be hanging with his homies. but this homie in particular is nice but just doesnt have his head on straight. Doing lots of drugs and ****! and id rather not have the guy im seeing around him as he himself used to be heavily into all that. Plus I have no car and i gotta bus it home from work this week and monday and tuesday he bused it down to take the bus home with me or one of his friends came by with him and they drove me home. So I thought today would be the same..he would bus it down here and take the bus with me home *i dont like to roam the big city by myself* but he says hes gonna hang with his friend


sorry im ranting! i guess i just am the typical girl in that - i start freaking out about something so little and make it a bigger deal in my head then it is. I start playing out every possible things of why were not hanging this evening. Im sure ill end up sleeping at his house tonight. I dont know why im fretting!


wow this was a waste of space but i just had to tell someone!





Today


Feeling like crap today!


So last night I had my lap top at his place and I let him use it while hes trying to find a job cuz its faster than his computer. well i notice he's IMing and I told him "hey i dont mind you using my computer to search for a job but i find it disrespectful ur just IMing when im here with you in bed watching TV while ur sitting at a desk talkin to girls" then he logged off and we got in a tiff. So we end up deciding that Thursday *today* that were gonna do our own thing cuz there is some tension and maybe its cuz weve seen eachother everyday for hte past 3 weeks and spent the night together for the past 2 weeks. I end up leaving at 2am thinking its probably best to start then. Then i get home and check his myspace and see a girl left a comment saying "i thought about you all day. i miss you. cant wait to be with u" i call him and just ask who she is and he said some girl on the site. and i was like oh well can i come over and just be in ur arms for tonight. and he said yeah. so i go back over and everything is fine between us and he says i have no need to fret. I told him i wanna trust him but its hard to when i see comments like that and that we dont have a title so i just want him to be honest if hes meeting other girls so that I dont get hurt down the road.


I dont know what to do - obviously we need to slow it down a bit. I think im just afraid cuz im not doing my typical thing of still talking to guys to keep them as backup. Ive actually given up my flirting for him and everything. He wants me to tell guys who call me that im with my "boyfriend" or "guy im seeing" when were together as he tells people when they call that hes with his "girlfriend"


sorry im ranting! I just wanted to throw up when i saw that comment. I mean i know were not together so why is it so much to ask for to just have him be straight up and honest with me about if he is meeting other people?

[Digndoug]

From a guys view.

First give him his space. Im sure most guys are dif about needed there space and all. But you already are spending way to much time togeather. If you keep it up, its not going to last. You should have at least one day a week i say where you guys dont do anything togeather, where u go out with your girls and he goes out with the guys. Also to the point is where an when do you trust them, thats your call, its hard to make with any one. YOu just have to give him the credit to make the right choice and let him know what he's going to loose if he doesnt.

Seems already your getting to protective of him. Your going to have to understand that girls will like him and flirt with him, Just like guys will like you and flirt with you.

The biggist thing i cant stress in any relationship, which is hard, is give each other space. Both mine, both my brothers and almost all my firends relationsships went to ****, from not enough space and seeing each other way to much.

[BlackCelicaGT94]

Just sucks cuz i dont have my friends in the area - and the people i do are guys who just want one thing! so im staying away from that. and Amy and Coomer are both 2.5 hours away so there goes hanging with my friends. I got some **** to do though - IE tanning and gym! ur right we are hanging too much together but its just nice to sleep in bed with someone every night! Thanks Doug! im new to this whole relationship type thing. Im the dater type! new guy im seeing each week usually.




PS he always asks me to spend the night or to come see him right when i get off work.

This post has been edited by BlackCelicaGT94: Feb 17, 2005 - 10:57 AM

[1900WattCelica]

You have been dating for 3 weeks and you have slept over at his house for the last 2 weeks? Whoa...how long have you known this guy???

[BlackCelicaGT94]

3 weeks as of this monday! :-X and no for all you curious people - nothing is going down!

[1900WattCelica]

Still...Call me old fashion but ieeeshh

[4wheelWOnder]

From a guys view.

First give him his space. Im sure most guys are dif about needed there space and all. But you already are spending way to much time togeather. If you keep it up, its not going to last. You should have at least one day a week i say where you guys dont do anything togeather, where u go out with your girls and he goes out with the guys. Also to the point is where an when do you trust them, thats your call, its hard to make with any one. YOu just have to give him the credit to make the right choice and let him know what he's going to loose if he doesnt.

Seems already your getting to protective of him. Your going to have to understand that girls will like him and flirt with him, Just like guys will like you and flirt with you.

The biggist thing i cant stress in any relationship, which is hard, is give each other space. Both mine, both my brothers and almost all my firends relationsships went to ****, from not enough space and seeing each other way to much.
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I agree.....alittle space will go a long ways

[Jonathan]

let him live

[SlowCelica94]

Still...Call me old fashion but ieeeshh
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That's very common. It doesn't mean their banging, it's just all night cuddle. As for him, you have to let him do his thing. Guys need space, and you have to respect that. As far as the crowd he hangs with, that's his business. Sure, it's a bad influence, but if you try to tell him what to do, he'll be gone quicker then my dates once they find out I have 47 STDs.

[brianforster]

2. I don't wanna be sappy or silly or corny,
So, right to the point, let's do it, I'm horny!

i just made a card for my man with that line in it! AWESOME!
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[95gtschick]

yikes.. i've been with my boyfriend for over 3 and a half years, and i haven't even spent the night with him! we're together 3 days out of the week by ourselves, the rest of the time i'm with my friend, and he's with his, or we're hanging out together with our friends. i would get sooo sick of him if i was with him that much. i mean we're probably gonna get married eventually and we'll have to be together every day then, so i figure may as well take our space while we're not married, that way we can still live our own lives.. we're really happy together doing it this way as well, i couldn't ask for any more time together. i think you should just give yourself a bit more space, and don't seem so "needy" (not trying to sound mean) just take time for yourself! find stuff to do.. i dunno, what do you like to do? find a hobby you can do by yourself, or something like that. i love spending time by myself, makes you appreciate the time with him a lot more

[acenova]

Still...Call me old fashion but ieeeshh
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Old Fashion... Hey there's no problem with spending the night, its what you do at night that matters. My girl sleeps over every night, but generally we don't spend the day together because of classes and what not, but she's always over at some point in the night. We've only officially been dating for a month, we've been seeing eachother for like 3 though. I got those flipped, but whatever. She's slept over for about a good 2 months or so. Anyway....

Natalie, first off, you gotta give the dude space, and don't be randomly flippin' on him, and if you feel you're gonna randomly flip, count backwards from 10 and wait for his response to a perfectly reasonable, calm and collected question. As far as kickin' with his boys, I'm surprised he doesn't do it more often, especially since you guys have been dating for only 3 weeks. Personally, I don't let anyone tell me who I can and can't hang out with, and you know me, I'm a laid back guy, but my friends were there for me through more Ish and just crap and for me it's friends first up until I'm engaged (so long as they're my close friends). I've made the mistake of doing it vice versa, and stuff gets messy. So look, give him his space, a guy appreciates that, and if he's trustworthy, the things between you two will be that much better.

Now, for the Myspace thing, believe him so long as he hasn't given you any reason to mistrust him. But if I were you I'd look into it just a bit more, because you don't know him that well considering the amount of time you've been dating him. Go onto his myspace account using yours or whatever and look this "friend" up and see where she lives. If she lives on the east coast or something, then it's whatever. If she lives in Seattle, just raise an eyebrow and keep it in your mind. Give him the sense of trust, but keep an eye on them to.

One more thing on top of that...DON'T EVER GET TOO COMFORTABLE. I don't care how much you think you've got someone or how much you think they like you, that don't mean anything until they're proven trustworthy.

[BlackCelicaGT94]

awww Ace i miss u! :-)



You guys are right! Thanks so much yall! ]


oh and i never tried to hold him back from his two best friends. I told him that i liked one over the other but i always said hey if u two wanna hang alone i can hit u up later and he always said that he wanted me to hang with them too. and Ive told him i dont wanna be the girl who keeps them apart. Girls come and go Those guys will be there for you much longer than i

[BlackCelicaGT94]

long story short of the weekend


He was sleeping
I went thru his texts
Called the girl
found out hes meeting her next weekend
didnt bring it up to him
his friend mentioned i went thru it
wasnt a huge deal
girl called him saying that i had talked to her
he tells me to leave his house
i go back an hour later cuz we had plans to hang out and he still wanted to and we hang out all day and i spent the night at his house
we spend the night discussing things and me crying
things are alright and his friend says this other girl is a nut case and that honestly Michael likes me a lot but just got out of a 3 year relationship in august and is unsure of things right now.



so yeah....i feel like im on the show ELIMIDATE!

oh and come to find out the girl is a year younger htan me and went to the same HS as me!

IF YOURE GONNA BE A PLAYER - DO IT RIGHT! like me - i got two cell phones one for my hoes and one for my bros!

[BlackCelicaGT94]

Girls are like apples on trees. The best ones are at the top of the tree. The boys don't want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead they just get the rotten apples that are on the ground that aren't as good, but easy. So the apples at the top think something is wrong with them when in reality, they are amazing! They just have to wait for the right boy to come along, the one who's brave enough to climb all the way to the top of the tree

[Supersprynt]

Eh, not really. We'll go up for them after we've built the ladder of sluts.

[jgreening]

oh my.

This post has been edited by jgreening: Feb 22, 2005 - 9:03 PM

[Jonathan]

werent u complaining on how u dont have money ? But u have $$ to waste it on two cellphones ? sheesh ! relax girl


Maybe ya just need a friend ?

[XxAxnCelica95xX]

i didnt know grls r lik apples...i thought it as a BUS(grls and guys) ...if u miss one then u can always catch the next one...and soo on....in a relationship ..if there is no trust then there is no lov bc u be thinkin bout the bad things...u need trust to keep a relationship goin..

[coustoe]

human nature: familitary breeds comtempt.