Girls messing with my head again.. help? Options

[Digndoug]

Ok first im going to start off saying im terrible with girls.. second.. Im slow.. but arnt all guys.

Ok.. awhile ago, like early summer, I posted on here how i met this girl, and i liked her blah blah blah. The problem was she didnt want to start a relationship or anything, cause she was going off to school.. 5 or so hours away. It was fun, but then we just hung otu as friends off an on till she left. I was like what ever things happen for a reason and Il meet someone else. or not worry about it.

As it turns out, she came back this past sat. I hung out with her sunday night we all my friends.. and then Monay she said i should go eat dinner at her house with her lil sis and mom. I was like ok.. then we hung out the rest of the day. Then hung out most of fri night. alone for a bit, went crabing at my granparents house, then went to my friends gathering.

Yeah so the problem is, i dont know if i should bother pursueing her again or what.
Shes a pretty wierd girl.. has fun, is random.. I think just freaking beautiful. She always says im hot, and thats how i get away with things, Not sure what that means. She always gives these looks like the really wants me, or just really likes me, other than a friend.

The problem is I dont want to do anything and make it wierd to hang with her.. If she dosnt really like me like that anymore. Any ideas.. besides just go for it?

Like what are some signs i could look for to know that I should go for it, or just stay friends.. Also Its not about sex or anything like that. Shes the big V and dosnt mess around liek that. I just for some stupid reason shes stuck in my head.

Also thanks for any help, opinions or even just readin my long ass question.

Doug

This post has been edited by Digndoug: Sep 10, 2005 - 10:57 AM

[BlackCelicaGT94]

so ur hanging out like u were before she left right? well she probably still isnt looking to pursue something - girls just want attention! I would probably not even try pursue anything.

[Sh0gunkid8721]

ignore her and stay away from her for a bit. girls always respond to that.

[lagos]

take charge. thats what girls like.

if you like her and she giving you looks, make a move. she maybe just using u for attention, but who cares. if make your move and she rejects you, then youll know not to hang out with her anymore.

no matter what you do, avoid being just friends with her. once that starts, youll be in a death trap you cant escape. make it very clear what your intentions are and that you are not here just to be her best gay friend.

This post has been edited by lagos: Sep 10, 2005 - 12:05 PM

[acenova]

Look, she goes to school 5 hrs away, you guys are friends and all, she still gives you looks, she knows you guys can't have a serious relationship, so just suck it up and make your move. Who cares about the "BIG V"!!! That means she won't have sex, or is waiting, and thats fine, but it doesn't mean she isn't down for whatever else. Just remember NO means NO!!! But you seem like the nice shy and quiet type, so I'm sure you'll treat her w/ respect. Always respect women, whether they deserve it or not.

But in conclusion, I agree w/ Lagos. Make your move. If she doesn't want to, then nothing's lost. She'll go back to school, and by the time you guys see eachother again, you'll both look back and laugh.

[Andason]

i say molest little children like coomer.

he likes sodomy

This post has been edited by Andason: Sep 14, 2005 - 3:33 PM

[Digndoug]

No No The thing is shes not long distance,, shes back home.

Like she wanted somethign before hand, but she didnt want to have a long distance. so we stoped.. but now shes back...

i think im just gunna play the "nice asshole" make her want me, and lead her on and then let her make a move if she wants.. otherwise im gunna stay single and date and have fun.

[acenova]

Even if she does make a move, stay single and have fun man. Aint worth a relationship at this point. Keep 'em close, but don't commit, not at this time in your life. Too young. **** I'm 21 and I'm too young, took me 3 or 4 long relationships to figure that out.

[soulshadow]

Go for her. She might just be lonely and wanted to grab some attention from you. Long distances do work, as long as you call her up everyday and make up some conversion that lasts and lasts even tho they don't really seem to deal with your life. Girls love that kind of attention.

[lagos]

i think im just gunna play the "nice asshole" make her want me, and lead her on and then let her make a move if she wants.. otherwise im gunna stay single and date and have fun.
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you can kiss your chances goodbye with that game plan.

[Digndoug]

i think im just gunna play the "nice asshole" make her want me, and lead her on and then let her make a move if she wants.. otherwise im gunna stay single and date and have fun.
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you can kiss your chances goodbye with that game plan.
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exactly.. I dont know anything..

I dont want to end up the "gay friend" but i also dont want to waste my time.. but I just wait and see.. Im not tryign to marry her or even be like my girlfriend, i ment more along of dating again or somthing.. but thats just time and money down the drain..

[SimmaDownNow]

i think im just gunna play the "nice asshole" make her want me, and lead her on and then let her make a move if she wants.. otherwise im gunna stay single and date and have fun.
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you can kiss your chances goodbye with that game plan.
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Yeah, I'm gonna have to go ahead and disagree with ya there, Lagos. Doug, that is a great idea, as long as you don't cross the line. Take her out, show her a good time, doing special things for her, ALLUDE to the fact that you're interested in being a little more than friends (don't make it OBVIOUS), and just basically be over-nice. That way, you put the pressure on her, and take it off of yourself. Just make it impossible for her to pass up such a great guy. Before you know it, she'll be putty in your hands. Well, maybe not putty, but Clay-doh at the very least.

- Luis

[Andy B]

Sounds to me your a bit confused yourself as to what to do, i mean do you want a relationship with this girl or not ? If so go for it, if not dont ! Long didstance relationships can work but on the other hand they can eat you up. Trust me, i just got out of one.

Beginning to wish i hadnt got into it to start with !

Good luck with whatever you do fella,

Andy...

[ILuvMyCelica95]

take charge. thats what girls like.

if you like her and she giving you looks, make a move. she maybe just using u for attention, but who cares. if make your move and she rejects you, then youll know not to hang out with her anymore. 

no matter what you do, avoid being just friends with her. once that starts, youll be in a death trap you cant escape.  make it very clear what your intentions are and that you are not here just to be her best gay friend.
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Lagos i like the way you think. I say go for making a move. I always make a move lol.

Even if she does make a move, stay single and have fun man.  Aint worth a relationship at this point.  Keep 'em close, but don't commit, not at this time in your life.  Too young.  **** I'm 21 and I'm too young, took me 3 or 4 long relationships to figure that out.
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I hear that.

[95celgt]

wow digndoug, this sounds like my life story, this friend of mine is exactly as you describe this girl, but she still wont budge, I hope you have better luck than I do

This post has been edited by 95celgt: Sep 13, 2005 - 10:15 PM

[celica47]

Digndoug iam like you man, play hard to get with her and see how she reacts too it. If she plays into your hands, the ball is in your court then bro

[Digndoug]

First problem is, i really dont know what I want. I think the thing is, its rare for me to find someone I liek, that i can talk to, and that is beautiful. An I didnt want to miss my chance but i think I already have. But thats life.

[ILuvMyCelica95]

Why do you think you already have?

[lagos]

the truth is... you like the girl, but you are afriad of rejecton.

[ILuvMyCelica95]

you'll never know unless you take the chance Doug