A girl, Just wanted to vent and talk Options

[spunky393]

So, i'm here in college, studying all the time (no luxury of parents that share their money), and just having a lot of fun just meeting new people. I met this soccer player, goalie to be exact, very talented. I didn't think it would go anywhere. She invited me to a party with her, and we just sat and talked, no drinks, no nothing. I found myself, walking totally alone from class to class, or dinner, etc. JUST SMILING, because I was thinking of her. So I asked her out to a more proper date, that went well. And another, and another. Finally, a week into it, I was a gentleman about it, we were driving back to the campus. Once again, i was smiling ear to ear (not just because of the 6gc), but because she was in my presence. She looked at me and said "what are you smiling about?" I looked at her, smiled even bigger and told her my favorite quote. "When you get close, all I want to do is get closer." I added in onto that, that "I have never smiled so much, I know why, and I want to thank you for that."

She reacted, but not in a heavy way, and I figured hey, that is just probably how it is, she stunned hopefully. So, couple dates went on, and finally we came to a weekend where she was going to be gone thursday through sunday (last weekend). She called thursday night, I said I wish you were close enough to give a goodnight kiss too. (LET ME REMIND YOU-- I have never felt so deep in my heart the happieness I was feeling.)

She didn't call me again, and i couldn't get a hold of her untill sunday night (don't worry, i'm not one to be a excessive phone caller, though i wanted to be). She told me she wasn't sure she wanted a "commitment" because of soccer and school. My heart felt like it broke....i drove celi all night, rough, very rough (listening to reanimation (linkin park)). She said it wasn't fair to talk on the phone, and said goodnight, and i returned the goodnight.

She didn't call me for lunch like she normally does, she hasn't called me all day. I know she's given up on it.

Why does it have to be a commitment, why not another happieness in life? How bout the quote ""Everyone is a potential winner. Some people are disguised as losers; don't let their appearances fool you." Maybe she thinks i'm a bad pick (loser), and hasn't tried my full potential (winner).

I'm just down, down enough where i don't feel like eating, don't feel like watching t.v., or being awake, or EVEN DRIVING CELI. My concentration is gone (i'm a runner, so i normally eat everything in site and have to have a lot of concentration).

Talk to me 6gc, and thanks for reading, I know family is kind here, close to the only family I got. (another story, hahaha)

Thanks - Brian B.

This post has been edited by spunky393: Sep 19, 2005 - 8:32 PM

[Digndoug]

Ok things I have learned, Women like a guy thats nice, and a gentleman, and over time, can show that hes deep. But not in the beginning.. Shes in College.. she wants to have fun. Guys yes they want to have fun but seems like will settle quicker, beleave it or not. I have not yet found a women around my age in college that seems liek she wants a real relationship. Yes they want to date, They want to go out and hav FUN.

It sounds very similar to a girl i was hanging out with. Then i said **** it, stoped calling, and being the nice guy and taking her out, and she wanted to hang out again. were not dating or anything, but I know she wants to just date and have fun, which is what i want to, but I am liek you, and want to spend my time and make it worth while.

When taking out a girl, dont get set on likeing her, just go out have fun, yes like her but dont fall in love with her. If needed pick out thingd about her that piss you off and remind your self of them. Women dont liek guys that get attached and start saying wierd **** like quotes and sappy ****. I have missed out on a few girls thinking thats what they want to hear. Its not.

Not stress. I say dont call her any more, she'll call you if its ment to be. When she wants to hang out, stay a bit distance and dont be so umm.. well sapy , gay , open. Have FUN.

[celicaST]

hey im not going to sugar coat this for you bud. what the hell were you thinking was going to happen, im sorry but that is just sad. dont worry, theres plenty of girls in college. dont let yourself get too caught up that early on, never never! you came on way too easy. you got to be CLASSY, not tacky, cocky yet humble and confident, act like you can get any girl you want. gotta practice like everything else and much love because your a fellow runner, were crazy people

[celicaST]

Ok things I have learned, Women like a guy thats nice, and a gentleman, and over time, can show that hes deep. But not in the beginning.. Shes in College.. she wants to have fun. Guys yes they want to have fun but seems like will settle quicker, beleave it or not. I have not yet found a women around my age in college that seems liek she wants a real relationship. Yes they want to date, They want to go out and hav FUN.

It sounds very similar to a girl i was hanging out with. Then i said **** it, stoped calling, and being the nice guy and taking her out, and she wanted to hang out again. were not dating or anything, but I know she wants to just date and have fun, which is what i want to, but I am liek you, and want to spend my time and make it worth while.

When taking out a girl, dont get set on likeing her, just go out have fun, yes like her but dont fall in love with her. If needed pick out thingd about her that piss you off and remind your self of them. Women dont liek guys that get attached and start saying wierd **** like quotes and sappy ****. I have missed out on a few girls thinking thats what they want to hear. Its not.

Not stress. I say dont call her any more, she'll call you if its ment to be. When she wants to hang out, stay a bit distance and dont be so umm.. well sapy , gay , open. Have FUN.
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great advice for you spunky, this guy put it down better than i did. key word FUN, love follows.

[dustin15brown]

Just take life a day at a time, try to be friends before lovers..... because if it transpires into a rela reltaionship, atleast you have a great basis of a friendship.

[spunky393]

thanks guys, i figured that's what i did

[Tweek]

maybe she's just jelous of the celi, and can't possibly think she can compete with such beauty?

[ArizonaRed]

consider this-
this is why you need to have multiple girls. you need fall girls to boost confidence and talk to. Like, have girls that you arnt falling for. go out and do things with them sometimes, also hang with ur buds. be busy. that way when you want to hang with this chick and she blows you off you can say: well hell i'll just do something else and hang with this other chick. college is so easy to meet people. girls love confidence and outgoing people. is this the first girl youve felt so good about? cuz the only time i listened to linkin park was after my first real relationship break up. anyways, hang in there. jus my 2c

[macavely]

women are evil and crazy .. and more confusing then anything else on this planet .. this is why you keep like 4-6 girls in your life... and sit back and study them....this make take a few years of studying .. then the right one will just pop out..

let the broken heart hurt for a while .. then go out with your boys.. find some new girls and enjoy being young and in college...

[soulshadow]

Ah, your acting just like an idiot. True love will come for you when you least expect it. I feel like that every now and then, but you eventually get over it. If she was meant for you, you guys would hit it off and get married really quick. If shes not the one, nothing's gonna happen unless she's just a slut and wants your cock. Hey, were all depressed now a days.

Just remember that a girlfriend insn't gonna change your life other than make you more miserable, unless you marry her and make her your OWN!

[acenova]

**** the bitch!!! You acted nice to her, she didn't respond, she doesn't know a good thing when shes got it, as is the case w/ any woman! Just say **** it and move on! Shes not worth the time and heart break man, trust me, no matter how much you think you like her, don't let it go any further! She's not yet trustworthy w/ your feelings.

[Tweek]

Its a basic Yin-Yang thing you got going. The higher you let your emotions go, the lower they can swing back down. Like a wave going in and out. A Sunami goes out real far, then comes back in just as far. You let yourself go to far up, so your gonna crash down further then your used to. I'm not as elequent as Lau Tzu, but you get the idea. Go read the Tao te ching, it might help you relax.

[acenova]

Hey Tweek, where can I find a copy of the Tao te ching? I wanna read that to!

[Dr_Tweak]

DAANNNGG. I just read that first post and now I'm soooo depressed.

BUAHAHAA but those replies are awesome!



I'm just glad I'm married. But anway, the best thing is to stay busy and turn the negative energy you against something so that it has a positive outcome. Like a wicked sick detailing job on your Celi or something! YEAH!

Then post pics

This post has been edited by Dr_Tweak: Sep 21, 2005 - 2:57 AM

[jgreening]

Women don't like it when the relationship is too "easy" for them. Its best not to be too open about your feelings right away. Perhaps you can give a little hint once in a blue moon to see if she responds. However, if she thinks that there is no challenge in getting you, your days are numbered. Just hang out and enjoy yourselves and time together and let things progress naturally. Don't take it to the next level until you know its what you BOTH want.