Met a Girl - Advice Needed Options

[Coomer]

Last weekend I went to this party, and I met this really cool girl. She introduced herself to me and we talked for a while. She was telling me that she has parties every Friday and that I should come sometime. At one point she told me her address, and I surprisingly remembered it. She lives in one of the residential areas around here.

She seemed to like me, and looked kinda sad when my friends(aka my ride home) came and got me to leave. Me being the shy person that I am didn't ask her for her number or anything. I really want to see her again and maybe see what happens, but I only know here address. I don't know any of her friends or anything.

So this is my question...she told me she has parties every Friday. I'm thinking of getting a friend to go with me and heading down to her house tomorrow and if there are cars there and people outside and stuff, I'm thinking of walking up with my friend and seeing what's up. Hopefully I'd remember someone from last weekend and they'd offer us to stay and hang out or whatever, where I could find then find this girl.

Now, is that weird/stalker-ish? Should I do it or not do it?

[Batman722]

do it. Somethings you have to take a chance to succeed. Things will never change unless you change them.

[Bigmeanbulldog55]

My advice would be to kinda wate around outside for awhile. Find a good hiding place, like bushes or a tree, so she won't see you and think your werid for being there. You can scope out what she's doing and what's going on. This should give you an idea of what to do. lol

Really though, just drive by, if she's having a party, go in. Simple as that. Get your hair cut and maybe some new or at least comfertable cloths first too. The more comfertable you are, the easier the whole situation will be.

[lagos]

write her a letter saying you like her and want to ask her out to a movie or something. chicks love that stuff !

or just go to the party . if she told you about it, thats good enought for an invite.

[Bigmeanbulldog55]

write her a letter saying you like her and want to ask her out to a movie or something. chicks love that stuff !

LOL, that's even creepier than my idea. I feel one upped and now less cool.

[dlx742]

this is tough man... there is a thin line between stalker status and hi im here for a party status

just play it cool and show up for the party, not for the girl, and before you know it the girl will come to you

[celicaST]

this is tough man... there is a thin line between stalker status and hi im here for a party status

just play it cool and show up for the party, not for the girl, and before you know it the girl will come to you

exactly, play it cool is advice to live by. let her approach you because she will if she is genuinely interested. if not, do not loose your cool and go up to her. just trust me on that one. remember there is a difference between being quiet and shy. its good to be quiet because a sense of mystery for lack of better word should not be underestimated, but shyness resulting from anxiety or whatnot points to lack of self-confidence. just be classy and confident, get her digits and leave soon after, even if you need to make an excuse up, dont get caught up in a conversation with her there. give her a call week later or so, shell be surprised you remembered , set a date and your set. just my advice, use at your own risk, it will turn you into a playa

[95CelicaST]

To be honest, don't bring a friend, unless its your only way home. Walk in by yourself, if you can find someone you know, talk to them (if not, that friend would come in handy) and then after a while if she hasn't found you, just "bump" into her and start the conversation back up. This time get her number. Ask her out to dinner or something for the following week... don't make it seem too desperate, but don't sound cocky or anything. Other than that you should be able to steer yourself around problems. Now... Go get 'er Tiger!

This post has been edited by 95CelicaST: Nov 18, 2005 - 3:09 AM

[Akimbo]

She INVITED you over by telling you her address and saying she has parties every Friday. And hey, looks like tomorrow evening is a Friday...coincedince? I think not. She gave you the bait man, now are you gonna bite?

Edit: 95CelicaST says don't bring a friend. BRING A FRIEND. If everthing sucks and said girl ends up not being someone you are interested in, you can always use your friend as an excuse to leave. 'My buddies gotta be home' me and him and some other friends have some plans. But try and get her number and name, if you didn't already.

This post has been edited by Akimbo: Nov 18, 2005 - 3:22 AM

[95CelicaST]

Well, yes bring a friend. What I meant was, don't have your friend attached to your hip the whole time.

[orvillescelica]

your plan sounds fine. If there is a party, go to he party. Make sure your friend knows you are there for her, so he knows to back off when hes not needed. Tell her that you came because you wanted to see her, and then ask her out. Girls like to hear that you went out of your way for them. Get her number, ask her to coffee, dinner, bowling, whatver you kids do these days.

Seems like you know what to do, youre just apprehensive to carry out your plan. Dont be. Fortune favors the bold.

[Supersprynt]

As long as u still remember her name it'll be fine.

[dustin15brown]

I say go for it, I'm very shy too, but at some point you need to step outta the comfort zone and go for it , I see no better opportunity.... So here's the deal, go snag her up, get her number and all that, do your thing and get back with us.... GO COOM!

[creis]

go for it, but dont hide it the bushes or something, thats creappy, the letter thing sounds pretty cool. but try the show up for a partty and if there is one, just knock on the door and see what happens.

[shin]

i say go to her party tonite and just peek if there's cars out on her garage or something. if you hear noise and lotsa people in the house. go knock on the door and look for her. if she remembers you. great. you get invited in and you go from there. if she don't. remind her who you are and still go from there. can't let chances slip chris. DO IT~!!!

[Digndoug]

You sound like me.. but i never take the girls up on the offer.. I have even been told by there friends that she wants to hang out and im just to shy.

I say, Do It, take the chance.. go to her house.. if it seems like some people are there go up hang out. Def bring a friend. Just be cool act your self, and try and be confident, act you belong there and no one will question you.

[Benevolence]

she wasn't really drunk when you were talking to her or anything like that? just checking cause you might scare her if she doesn't remember you and you just walk up to her.

[gas65]

You have her address, and should know here name, so just call her on the phone and ask her out. This link might help.

http://www.whitepages.com/5050/reverse_address

[LewFX]

if shes your type and you dont mind her being a party girl then go for it. if dont want a party girl forget it, its not worth trying to change a party girl, because girls just wanna have fun.

[Smlogg]

If you give her your car she'll definetly let you make out with her. But, I don't think shes gonna be at her house tonight, I think she'll be at the outlook garden apartments, 351. She'll be wearing a black dress. The party starts at 9. Dont forget the pink slip.