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[Celica_Fan]

I call this chick everynight and I am speaking to her next minute I run outta things to say I kinda like her a bit I'm really shy and it's pissing me off tonight I had to go coz I forgot what I was going to tell her she gives me one sentence after I ask her what she likes and I want to be able to make a descent conversation any tips this is really making me mad. and I made myself look like a dick and tonight she isn't on msn.

This post has been edited by Celica_Fan: Dec 16, 2005 - 1:31 AM

[forkee]

whoa man, slow down. ur thinking too much. just spend the time listening to her and figuring out what shes into from what she says and just take it from there. bring up some stuff u like. if shes into the same stuff then talk about it. but if she just says "oh..thats..cool....." that doesnt mean shes into it, lol. just dont think about it too much

[Celica_Fan]

Am I now screwed I don't know what the hell is wrong with me I can chat to chicks on msn but that one I can't she doesn't like celicas only likes gts skylines and I embarrassed myself tonight when I forgot what to say. I am really pissed off.

This post has been edited by Celica_Fan: Dec 16, 2005 - 1:50 AM

[Tech9ine]

ask questions, get her talking. Have you seen this and that movie? what did you do last week? what are your plans for the weekend? wanna see my ball bag? that sort of thing. then touch on that, for instance, (she says, last thing i saw on tv was chapelles show, you say "WHAT!~?", and so on and so on.

girls love to laugh, so being funny helps. Just dont overdo it.

how old are you by the way?

This post has been edited by Tech9ine: Dec 16, 2005 - 1:34 PM

[Celica_Fan]

She mocks celicas which pisses me off says they look ugly well they look and go a hell of a lot better and are faster than a gts skyline which are even more common than celis in nz I like 4 cylinder cars and not 6 cylinders. I'm 19.

This post has been edited by Celica_Fan: Dec 16, 2005 - 2:48 PM

[acenova]

Alright, first off man, you need to relax, and start breathing! Second off, talking online and on the phone are two completely different concepts. Online you don't have the akward silences, and thats the first hump to surpass!
Now look, what I've found to help me relax when talking is to just tell myself "F*it. If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out, and it just wasn't meant to be." You care too much about the impression you're making on this girl which inhibits you from your natural flow of speach that you have around your friends, where there, you may be a chatter box. The only impression you need to make on this girl, is to show her your true self, and if she doesn't like it, the **** her, she wasn't deserving in the first place, then you move on.
As soon as you can tell yourself that, and believe that to be a fact in your mind, you'll be able to speak your mind. You'll be able to say anything that comes to mind, you just have to relax when you're on the phone and not build it up to be such a big deal, because right now it seems as though this is a HUGE deal, and its REALLY not! Just one fish in an ocean full of boobs...I mean girls! Regardless man just calm yourself down and say what comes to mind and if she has one sentence answers, then even use that as a topic of conversation! Just give her **** a little, a little bit of a hard time. If you can clown on her in a purely joking manner without over doing it, that will relax her a little bit to. Bring up BS conversations and tell her she should learn to BS, which is basically talking about empty topics that keep the mouth moving, but no one's really listening!
Trust me man, if you can relax yourself, everything tends to sail smoothly from there.

[amysmojo]

just ask her about herself....people love to talk about themselves if u get nervous & forget what to say then write some stuff down to talk about BEFORE you call her so you have something to keep you on track & not saying "uuuuuh uhhhh hmmmm" the whole time

how old are you?? you sound so young! If you were 21+ i'd suggest meeting up for a drink to loosen things up a bit so your not thinking about 20 million things at the same time & freaking out & making topics like this

[bloodrain]

one thing I have learned, is NOT to call every night, as much as you want to DO NOT. The more 'dull' moments you have, the less she will probably like you. So call her maybe 2-3 times a week, and 1 of those times ask her out for the weekend, make plans for friday and saturday. DO NOT MAKE PLANS FOR SUNDAY. Sundays are generally a dull day. So on friday night, take her 2 dinner and the movies, well, movies and then dinner, and then at the end of the night ask her if she wants to do something tomarrow night OR next weekend.

[Celica_Fan]

So I better not call her tonight and say sorry about the way that I acted than?

[Tech9ine]

damnit NO!, of course not, dont apologize, you didnt do anything wrong.

[amysmojo]

yeah dont tell her ur sorry for anything! just let her call u or somethin....

...does she have a myspace page??

[Celica_Fan]

I have spoken to her on msn it's all good now I think she got jealous when I said I was going with another girl I know to see king kong though. Well she did ask if I had seen any good movies.

[bloodrain]

if she has a myspace page, tell her you never want to see her again. Especially if shes attractive b/c then ur gonna have her 'friends' getting her # and stuff and it WILL cause problems. Unless you dont mind ur girl giving her # out, but thats another story. Anyways, do NOT call her, if she calls u then its cool to talk, but dont stay on the phone for hours on end b/c then ur friendship gets really dull, fast. So just remember, if shes the one for you, and you take things slow, then you will have the rest of your life to tell her everything you ever wanted to say. If shes not the one for you, then think of it as you didnt waste your breath on that BIAAAAATTCCCHHH. lol. But what I suggest you do is call her tuesday around 11am (depending on what she does for a living) and ask her if she wants to get some lunch, talk for a little while, drop her off or w/e. then DONT CALL until thursday afternoon, and then ask the oh so obvious question "so what are you doing friday night?" If she says she has no plans really, then thats what I like to call an "ASK ME OUT YOU F*CKING RETARD" dating signal. Oh and on the lunch make sure you bring her some flowers, if you live by a major highway there are always some bastards selling nice flowers for really cheap. Like for my last GF I bought her 3 dozen roses (for no reason) for only $11 and I guess she really liked em cuz the sex that night was amazing, lol. Anywho, after a few dates ask her if she wants to hang out with you and your friends and go do something that night, especially where you can be yourself. Girls like guys who are confident, they want someone to hold them by the hand and be fearless and show them where to go in life. After a few dates and a few nights with her and your friends, see if she wants 2 bring some of her friends along when u guys go and hang out, your friends will love you for it and if her friends start talking good about u 2 her, then your golden. The last thing u want is 2 piss off her friends b/c then all they do is talk **** behind your back and it more or less ****s up your relationship. And then lastly after hanging out for 6 or 7 weeks, when your pretty sure you know her, ask her out. Most guys after highschool think its retarded to ask it, but trust me, they love it Oh, and while you are on one of your dates, if you even think for 1 second that its the right time to kiss her, then go for it. Because if you dont, they know. I dont know f*cking how, but they do, and they will put a really bad thought in the back of your mind, kinda like voodoo. Anywho, thats all my advice for now, holla atcha boy and let me know how things went.

[Cutrara]

if she has a myspace page, tell her you never want to see her again. Especially if shes attractive b/c then ur gonna have her 'friends' getting her # and stuff and it WILL cause problems. Unless you dont mind ur girl giving her # out, but thats another story. Anyways, do NOT call her, if she calls u then its cool to talk, but dont stay on the phone for hours on end b/c then ur friendship gets really dull, fast. So just remember, if shes the one for you, and you take things slow, then you will have the rest of your life to tell her everything you ever wanted to say. If shes not the one for you, then think of it as you didnt waste your breath on that BIAAAAATTCCCHHH. lol. But what I suggest you do is call her tuesday around 11am (depending on what she does for a living) and ask her if she wants to get some lunch, talk for a little while, drop her off or w/e. then DONT CALL until thursday afternoon, and then ask the oh so obvious question "so what are you doing friday night?" If she says she has no plans really, then thats what I like to call an "ASK ME OUT YOU F*CKING RETARD" dating signal. Oh and on the lunch make sure you bring her some flowers, if you live by a major highway there are always some bastards selling nice flowers for really cheap. Like for my last GF I bought her 3 dozen roses (for no reason) for only $11 and I guess she really liked em cuz the sex that night was amazing, lol. Anywho, after a few dates ask her if she wants to hang out with you and your friends and go do something that night, especially where you can be yourself. Girls like guys who are confident, they want someone to hold them by the hand and be fearless and show them where to go in life. After a few dates and a few nights with her and your friends, see if she wants 2 bring some of her friends along when u guys go and hang out, your friends will love you for it and if her friends start talking good about u 2 her, then your golden. The last thing u want is 2 piss off her friends b/c then all they do is talk **** behind your back and it more or less ****s up your relationship. And then lastly after hanging out for 6 or 7 weeks, when your pretty sure you know her, ask her out. Most guys after highschool think its retarded to ask it, but trust me, they love it Oh, and while you are on one of your dates, if you even think for 1 second that its the right time to kiss her, then go for it. Because if you dont, they know. I dont know f*cking how, but they do, and they will put a really bad thought in the back of your mind, kinda like voodoo. Anywho, thats all my advice for now, holla atcha boy and let me know how things went.

Ladies and gentlemen, the pimp has spoken. lol

I think it's been said before in this topic, but talk about her all the time, and relate your past experiences to it. Ask lots of questions. Personally, I hate talk to ANYBODY on the phone. I think it requires too much devotion, I'd rather talk to someone in person so I can see them, or over IM so I can be on 6gc.net.

[Celica_Fan]

I would rather meet someone I want to meet her but I have only known her for 6 weeks and she keeps going on about her skyline which is automatic Non turbo rear wheel drive why anyone would want to buy a rear wheel drive, N/A, Automatic skyline confuses me.

[zachattack15]

you got a different girl problem every week lol. A girls opinion of a car is no reason to get bent out of shape. My girlfriend personally doesnt like my MR2 but I definately dont let it get to me. I just use my tahoe when im with her. haha

[Celica_Fan]

Automatic skylines suck we have heaps of them in nz we don't have many manuals around.

[Celica_Fan]

what is myspace exactly?

[bloodrain]

myspace is a sh*tty web site that people put pictures of themselves and make new friends. People have to 'request' to be your friend. Its retarded, dont go to the dark side.

[Celica_Fan]

what a f***ed up site almost sounds as bad as the some of the crappy car clubs we have over here in nz where you have to be accepted. I will tell her I don't want to speak to her again if she is on myspace.

This post has been edited by Celica_Fan: Dec 18, 2005 - 9:20 PM