Celi Vs. Celi (My gf and my car!) Options

[pure_dx]

this is starting to sound like the other guy in here who said his gf used him to do stuff to her celica, like buy her rims and paint her car and other stuff, then his gf dumped him, and he came on here and made a thread about it, its on here somewhere........

what i'm trying to say is, just be careful man, i dont wanna see ya get hurt dude, 5 years is 5 years, but ya gonna be spending the rest of your life with a person who ya gonna marry, catch my drift? but...it does kinda seem like she really loves you and just worrying about you, anyways, good luck....

This post has been edited by pure_dx: Jul 18, 2006 - 8:13 AM

[ExSane]

OMG! I FEEL YOU MAN! My girl is like that too! The hell is wrong with girls these days!?!? It's like it's all about them. Well I say, f*** them! Do what you want to do. And she has to appreciate and RESPECT your decisions and the things you want to do on your own time. They are such freakin hypacrytes! I swear. It's like whatever they do they can have it, but when we wanna do our thing, "No!" AHHHHH!!! We can only take so much girls! Jeez! Don't worry friend, I know how you feel. The whole point being is that your girl (just like mine) is insecure and does not know how to manage her time with you properly. It's not like you guys are married! She does not need to be on your back 24/7. She needs to learn to respect your decisions and TRUST you.

[CilverSeliST205]

Dude your girl is acting like your slave-master. I cant believe that some of you guys let this happen to you... i lost two friends like that because their gf weren't too happy about them having a life away from their girlfriends don't let her do this sh!t to you... Give her lots of WOT as suggested by purplegt4, and then tell her who's the man in the relationship and who makes the decisions, if she does not like that idea tell her to find another victim.

Good Luck

[sinner96ST]

Personally, I think your woman is trying to control you.

If you let her get away with telling you how to act, who to talk to, and what to do with your spare time, it will only get worse as time goes on.

Put your foot down and tell her that you love her more than your car, but you want to be able to do things you enjoy. If she doesn't like that you work on your car instead of hang out with her, tell her to come over while you're working on your car.

I swear, women spend 99% of the time in a relationship trying to change you, then years down the road, they bitch that you aren't the same person that they first met.

[crismillencolin]

lose the girl - save the world

[Akira_g4]

oh **** this sounds exactly like my last relationship!!! but yea sounsd like a insecurity thing. id say if the girl cant except who you are then it aint worth it. youre just a guy that loves his car, she can deal with it or not...come on after 5 years of being together and she made you delete the myspace. man youre tough, i wouldve said **** that, deal with it.

[tranthecelicaman]

i know i understan dall of you but i love her and its hard to say no to her, id do anything in the world for her, and to see that pouty face when i say no tears me up (even though its so freaking cute!) what i think is ill talk to her and tell her i wanna do this for me, and that ill bring her back a special surprise from cali (she loves new things from differnt places) and that "special surprise" will be an engagement ring... and ill come home like 2 days earlier than i tell her and totally catch her of guard....theres no way in hell she can be mad at me ...rite?

[MaskedMan]

personally it doesn't sound like a good idea. it's sweet for sure but i think your rushin into things man. ok yeah 5 years of being together, that is a long time, however it seems if she would break up with you over something as little as a celica meet, then i dont think your ready to get married. just my .02.

[gt_driFFter]

personally it doesn't sound like a good idea. it's sweet for sure but i think your rushin into things man. ok yeah 5 years of being together, that is a long time, however it seems if she would break up with you over something as little as a celica meet, then i dont think your ready to get married. just my .02.

+1

You sound pretty young, what's the rush in getting married? If you're relationship is one that will survive marriage, then it'll last a few more years of just being together!

[ExSane]

i know i understan dall of you but i love her and its hard to say no to her, id do anything in the world for her, and to see that pouty face when i say no tears me up (even though its so freaking cute!) what i think is ill talk to her and tell her i wanna do this for me, and that ill bring her back a special surprise from cali (she loves new things from differnt places) and that "special surprise" will be an engagement ring... and ill come home like 2 days earlier than i tell her and totally catch her of guard....theres no way in hell she can be mad at me ...rite?

You are rushing it man. I know you love her and all but how can you run into marriage when she doesn't even trust you yet? And also, you are getting an engangement ring so that she won't be mad at you? Dude, if you are getting an engagement ring, you don't even have to ask that. You should already know she would be happy to be engaged if you know her that well. It's like you are getting it for the wrong reasons. MaskedMan and gt_driFFter are also right.

[tranthecelicaman]

ok well this meet is in more than a mnth...so ill talk to her tonight again and explain more...and if she takes it good and she understands i need my time and everything i wanna propse to her, if shes guna be abitch to me, then i eont...you know what i mean???
pretty much if she finalyl comes to her sences..then i will.... i wthink she will, theres plenty of time for her to think things over

[playr158]

dude i been in your shoes...ask forester..mine called me when i was workin on his car took me 2 hours to get her off the fone

but honestly she's controlling and thats not straight at all its not fair to you and she needs to learn that its not going to work that way..i've been in your same spot with a relationship of several years..needless to say i broke up with her cause of insecurity/control issues and a few others...you both need to understand eachothers sides and take a break learn not to be so dependant on eachother....being stuck to the hip will only lead you downhill...

good luck hope you work things out

[hurley97]

sound like my previous relationship. only i was in almost the same situation as you and im the girl lol

we were together 3 years, i just broke up with him in the beginning of may. it was three years of me trying to make him happy and thinking i was just as happy. i finally realized i wasnt happy because i wasnt doing anything for myself anymore. i was only 16 when we started going out and he was 17 and we were so sure we'd get married for the longest time (he still says he would if i wanted to). we also spent everyday together and when id say i was going out with 'just the girls' hed get all offended and upset so i didnt anymore and my friends were pissed off to say the least. im just glad they understood and were there for me when we broke up.

i was always saying to myself when i felt unhappy "why am i going to break up with him after soo long? id just be looking for what we already have" meaning the comfort and history of the relationship. after breaking up with him and finally doing things for myself, ive been happier than i have in years. its a little scary when your so sure of something for so long then you start having doubts...you may disagree with me but i just think before you go buy a ring you need to step back and think about everything long and hard

i have loads more that i can say but i wont bore everyone with my story lol
but if you want to talk to me on aim your welcome to, i cant tell you what decisions to make but i can offer my experience and maybe it'll be of some help

[easternpiro1]

take it from this pimp...do what u gotta do but PLEASE edit the part where u calld her a beeyotch! that will DEFINATELY get ugly....im in a predicament too...girl wants to go with me to nopi cuz its in atlanta, the same place where i shagged this model chick last weekend... dont worry...you will choose the right thing...

[tranthecelicaman]

any girls in here have any advice as in what they would wanna hearfrom me??
i called her and im talking ot her tonight about it in person for the first time, and i dont wanna screw up =\

[RapidGT]

see thats the thing, the meet is in cali
im going just to be with some friend that moved there...
and this is the first summer i can take a road trip
so im going for only 2 reasons
to see my buddys and the celica meet
i want to spend time with them cuz i havnt seen them
and i wanna go to the meet and not have to worry about if shes having fun ever second, she doesnt like cars much and i know it and she never has fun...and i cant put all of my attention on her like i can normally, but thats what shes used to and when she doesnt get it she freaks out...i spoiled her! lol

I only need to say one thing "Trust". She only wants to go with you as she does not trust you. Your saying that you love her and you don't want to lose her.
If there is not trust in a relationship, you have to come to terms with there is no relationship. A relationship is built on trust.
Friends are forever, partners can come and go.
I learn't this from my last relationship.
She needs to trust you mate, there's nothing else to it.

[MaskedMan]

ok well this meet is in more than a mnth...so ill talk to her tonight again and explain more...and if she takes it good and she understands i need my time and everything i wanna propse to her, if shes guna be abitch to me, then i eont...you know what i mean???
pretty much if she finalyl comes to her sences..then i will.... i wthink she will, theres plenty of time for her to think things over

So your going to decide proposing to her or not, depending on how she takes this situation? Idk man, i mean, if you want to marry someone, then you want to marry them no matter what. But i mean, if your going to base this engagement off her being a bitch this one time, then i think you need to do some more thinking of what you really want. Engagement isn't something you should take lightly. If you really want to propose to her, then thats your choice, cuz i don't even know you haha, so i can't tell you how to run your life, all i can do is be happy for you . But just from the what it looks like from the outside, it looks like you two aren't ready for that kind of commitment. Seems to me like your taking engagement as a temporary fix, or a "reward" for her letting you go to this meet alone.

[tranthecelicaman]

well i know for sure oe day i will propse...but i reallt liek this oppertunity...if shes being lie this then it just ruins is, butif shes fine with everything then its the poerfect oppertunity...
o well ill talk to her tonight and see how everything goes...
i really think shes just freaking out cuz she doesnt wanna be away from me that long... an di think after i talk to her she will be fine, BUT only time will tell...ill see in a few minutes cuz i gotta leave now, be back later =)

[MaskedMan]

ok man goodluck with that, and i don't mean to be a douche or anything, but i think you posted this in the wrong place. I think it should be under the "Off Topic" category haha

[tranthecelicaman]

i agree...but i didnt see there was a off topic thing til ater i posted it...so sorry eeveryone, im still kinda new here =\