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[Steevo]

My wife loves that I am secure in crowds and with peeps I don't know. Every other puss, err guy that she ever dated was nervous and wanted to get down to the hot and heavy. I took her out shopping, made her try on lingerie, dinner, friends, movies.


She actually was umm, swinging for the same team before I met her as she was so tired of the bull****.


And now I have a son

[neKronos]

http://www.intellectualwhores.com/masterladder.html

I found this to be a good read awhile back, somewhat biased and comedic, but it does make a lot of very valid points on the whole lets be friends thing.

Bottom line females are irrational creatures of illogical complexity that create confusion.

[Steevo]

There was a guy that came into the shop where my wife April works and had a cosmetologost wax his chest and back. Then he asked her out on a date after whining and crying as it hurt so bad.



I know this lady. She waxes herself south of the border.

[bloodrain]

http://www.intellectualwhores.com/masterladder.html

I found this to be a good read awhile back, somewhat biased and comedic, but it does make a lot of very valid points on the whole lets be friends thing.

Bottom line females are irrational creatures of illogical complexity that create confusion.

As far as the friends thing goes I completly agree, as far as everything else, i completly disagree.

There was a guy that came into the shop where my wife April works and had a cosmetologost wax his chest and back. Then he asked her out on a date after whining and crying as it hurt so bad.



I know this lady. She waxes herself south of the border.

and what does this have to do with anything?...

[IdiotStick]

I think I am going to give that mall thing a shot this weekend. Im in Toronto for another week, so why not right? I wont meet any of these people again.

Also, thank you very much for the suggestions, Blood.

This post has been edited by IdiotStick: Aug 17, 2006 - 11:24 AM

[bloodrain]

I think I am going to give that mall thing a shot this weekend. Im in Toronto for another week, so why not right? I wont meet any of these people again.

Also, thank you very much for the suggestions, Blood.

anytime anytime, and ya since ur in another place, its the perfect opportunity, you will NEVER see any of those people again. And like I said, just talk to every girl, doesnt matter if shes extremly ugly, or the hottest girl you've ever seen, the object is to overcome your nervousness and find a good way to approach a girl.

[neKronos]

http://www.intellectualwhores.com/masterladder.html

I found this to be a good read awhile back, somewhat biased and comedic, but it does make a lot of very valid points on the whole lets be friends thing.

Bottom line females are irrational creatures of illogical complexity that create confusion.

As far as the friends thing goes I completly agree, as far as everything else, i completly disagree.

That is why I said the on the friends thing (ive totally been a victim of the friends ladder), a lot of whats written comes off to me as bitter satire, which I found to be entertaining yet not true due to its ridiculous nature as well as personal experience.

There was a guy that came into the shop where my wife April works and had a cosmetologost wax his chest and back. Then he asked her out on a date after whining and crying as it hurt so bad.



I know this lady. She waxes herself south of the border.

and what does this have to do with anything?...

That he acted like a wuss? and then had the audacity to ask the girl who just waxed him out?

[bloodrain]

actually waxing hurts a hell of alot, my g/f did it 2 part of my leg while i was falling asleep. Anywho, I will bet even after getting his chest waxed and complaining about it, the girl found him somewhat attractive and thought about giving her number, if she didnt.

[neKronos]

Id have to say that the amount of hurt is all dependant on your pain tolerance, and how well you can deal with it.

[BlackCelicaGT94]

8) For your next relationship/gf, when you get her number, DO NOT call her for atleast 5 DAYS. So if you get it on a saturday call her one a thursday. But if the 5 day rule falls on a friday, saturday or sunday(IE. you get the number monday you call on saturday, right? NO only call and make plans for non-normal date days (normal date days are friday saturday)

^ ok tom lykis



I agree with teh following rules set forth by tom -- this is a bit OT but thinking of TOM LYKIS made me get these rules

NEVER, EVER date a single mother. You already know her stance on abortion, she wont have one. Don't risk paying vaginamoney! PLUS, her kids will always come before you! Why would you want to be second place to some spoiled little brat!?!

Never do what you don't want to do. You make the money, you decide where you are going and what you are doing.

Don't ask a women what she wants to do.

Never tell a women how much money you make.

Don't EVER date co-workers! Unless you don't give a rats ass about your job, stay away from people you work with! It's always asking for trouble.

Never answer the phone, or go out on the weekend. Even if you really don't, you have to make it appear as though you have better things to do than be with her on the weekends.

Never spend more than 40 bucks on a date. This includes buying gifts, flowers, candy, jewelry, etc. It does NOT help in getting laid. It's a waste of money. If anything, buy alcohol and get her drunk.

NEVER approach a woman in a club who has her girlfriends with her. There is NO point, you will NOT get laid when women are in groups.

If you are not getting laid by the 3rd date, dump her and move on. (i agree with this if both sides arent really looking for a relationship)

No spooning, no cuddling, no staying over. Get in, get out!

Never be in a committed relationship UNTIL you are really ready to settle down.

NEVER answer the phone on the weekends. It makes you look like you have nothing better to do. Weekends should be reserved for hanging out with your buddies or for guaranteed sex. Even if you really have nothing to do, let the answering machine take the call. You're busy.

This post has been edited by BlackCelicaGT94: Aug 18, 2006 - 11:11 AM

[neKronos]

NEVER, EVER date a single mother. You already know her stance on abortion, she wont have one. Don't risk paying vaginamoney! PLUS, her kids will always come before you! Why would you want to be second place to some spoiled little brat!?!

I wouldnt be entirely sure about her stance on abortion, unless she religious and depending on what age she had the child. Also she may have been in love with a guy, then he ran.
But if shes any kind of decent mother the kid will no doubt no matter what come before you.

Don't ask a women what she wants to do.

Its true, they do like the assertive take charge attitude.

Never spend more than 40 bucks on a date. This includes buying gifts, flowers, candy, jewelry, etc. It does NOT help in getting laid. It's a waste of money. If anything, buy alcohol and get her drunk.

Stick to a budget or else you'll spend all the money on the girl, and how will you mod your celi then?
As for the alcohol can't that be considered rape in some places?

NEVER approach a woman in a club who has her girlfriends with her. There is NO point, you will NOT get laid when women are in groups.

That is if you are just trying to get laid, but if shes leaves her group or what not, why not make a move just for practice, or if you enjoy a challenge.

Never answer the phone, or go out on the weekend. Even if you really don't, you have to make it appear as though you have better things to do than be with her on the weekends.
NEVER answer the phone on the weekends. It makes you look like you have nothing better to do. Weekends should be reserved for hanging out with your buddies or for guaranteed sex. Even if you really have nothing to do, let the answering machine take the call. You're busy.

Theres something about being unavailable that is intriguing to the female mind. Its a good thing if you arent in a relationship with them yet, but being unavailable in a relationship not so good.

Never tell a women how much money you make.

This may weed out some of the golddiggers however if you are making moneys more often than not it will make you seem like a pompus arrogant prick and depending on how old you are itll seem like you are living off of mommy and daddy money.
You've got money to live your life the way you want to and you are happy with that nuff said.

Theres over 6.5 billion people in the world with a gender to gender ratio close to 101 males to every 100 females.
So its like bloodrain said, go up and talk to girls you never know what might happen unless you try and itll stop the what if questions because you actually did something.

Confidence (feeling and visually portrayed), eye contact, coming off as warm and inviting yet mysterious. Seem to work pretty well, also sometimes not trying or making it seem as you dont want get anything from them such as a date or ass may work better than trying, even if it is what you really want.

All this take is making me wanna sign up for some pysch classes. :\

[Rayme]

I've been reading alot about women during my single period, It finally paied off. I think the bottom point is the same as most explained up in the thread. Don't act or be like all the other guys that approached girls!

I recently dated(and eventually became her BF) a girl that most would consider hot. Some stuff I did on dates? I gave her no compliments whatsoever(think about it, most guys will say cute stuff to her on the first date), I didn't pay for the dinner or movies, I tryed to picked on her in funny ways.

After, she told me she loved me because I was different(well that not the only reason hopefully! LOL), and I wasn't the way she thought I was at first. I hope it makes sense to you guys BE DIFFERENT, UNUSUAL, but not wierd!

[bloodrain]

I've been reading alot about women during my single period, It finally paied off. I think the bottom point is the same as most explained up in the thread. Don't act or be like all the other guys that approached girls!

I recently dated(and eventually became her BF) a girl that most would consider hot. Some stuff I did on dates? I gave her no compliments whatsoever(think about it, most guys will say cute stuff to her on the first date), I didn't pay for the dinner or movies, I tryed to picked on her in funny ways.

After, she told me she loved me because I was different(well that not the only reason hopefully! LOL), and I wasn't the way she thought I was at first. I hope it makes sense to you guys BE DIFFERENT, UNUSUAL, but not wierd!

ha thats great, sounds like the book is paying off EXCEPT you made one mistake. From that alone I can tell you feel lucky to be with her, when she should be lucky to be with YOU. Keep that in mind, your goin in the right direction, you just need to have the right mind set now.

[JoKeRkId613]

man, that's some good stuff bloodrain. we need to go chick hunting one day. lol.

[Predator]

i vote for STICKY

[Akimbo]

good tips blood. i want to go to a mall and try this.

one other thing, the "beautiful eyes" line is hella cliche

[bloodrain]

good tips blood. i want to go to a mall and try this.

one other thing, the "beautiful eyes" line is hella cliche

ya, on my 'adventures' I found that to be most effective. And check it out, even if they say "I have contacts on" think about it, its a PERFECT opportunity to start a conversation, shes not shutting you out shes answering into your questions. Oh, I didnt ask her a question? In reality you did, thats why psychology is awsome. And the mall trick is awsome, i've told probably about 6 people about it, they all did it and SWEAR by it now, lol. Anywho as always, feel free to ask questions guys, in the thread of thru a PM

[mzztoyota]

Guys that approach me with a swagger and look over-confident, like there is no way in hell that I will say no, that make me worry they will key my car if I don't give them my number...they don't have a chance in hell...

I've had guys approach me with a nice smile, not an eager I-wanna-screw-you smile, but a genuine "Hey, seeing you just now has made my day just a little bit better," kind of smile. They come up, ask how my day has been, if I go to school here/live here, they compliment me somehow by saying they've seen me around and I seem cool, or that they heard I was into cars, or whatever...they say their name, mention their major or their job, and ask if I'm going out any night soon and if so, where?

I usually tell them when and where I'll be, but I'll regrettably admit that I have a boyfriend so as not to create trouble...

the ones who say something like, "Well, that's not a problem" or "That doesn't bother me," I immediately dislike and get away from...

but the ones who say, "Oh, I'm sorry. I'm sure he's a great guy/He's really lucky...maybe if things don't work out we'll bump into eachother again..."

those guys I always am left thinking about...wondering what they would have been like if I were single, and if anything does go wrong, they're always on the list for people to chat it up with later at the clubs, lol...

[Bigmeanbulldog55]

There is no list, and no general about these types of situations. Each is unique. I am close to getting my masters in Geriatric Psychology from WVU at this point, and I have dealt with enough of this to know. Don't take advice from people who have not had training.

[bloodrain]

There is no list, and no general about these types of situations. Each is unique. I am close to getting my masters in Geriatric Psychology from WVU at this point, and I have dealt with enough of this to know. Don't take advice from people who have not had training.

haha, I hope you dont mean me. I've been researching and take classes since 9th grade. (4 years in HS and 2 in college) I also research and study human behaviors as a hobby. I find it fun to see how predictable people are. Granted I dont have a masters in psychology, im far from a amateur. ;-) you also dont need "training" to give advice from life experiences. Im not telling them how to live there life or telling them to do anything that will get them hurt or introuble, what I post has no more effect on them than them going out and reading a magazine for dating.

This post has been edited by bloodrain: Aug 29, 2006 - 6:58 PM