PRIVATE, not sad no more. :D Options

[XS4lv1Truch0x]

damn.

well i deleted my lil poem coz i dun need everyone in my business.

i put it here 4 those that would help me not 4 an example.

well thax 4 da interest.

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[XS4lv1Truch0x]

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[celicurr]

holy moly, super dee duper

lol

[CelicaBuddy]

sad

what exactly happened if you dont mind me asking

[XS4lv1Truch0x]

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[bloodMoney]

Yet another now kindred soul,
added to this mass of loneliness.

This poor introverted heart,
on the verge of self-destruction.

All of this sadness,
caused by the cold-hearted.

Amplified by those hearts in pain,
the sea of loneliness spreads on...

-C.D.A.

Trust me you are not alone. I'd like to tell you that it is never as bad as the first time, that is gets easier after that, but it doesn't. Each time you take the chance to get attached, it will hurt, just as badly. All you can do is prepare and enjoy the fleeting time that you have with one another.

[XS4lv1Truch0x]

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[bloodrain]

she hasnt dumped me yet...

so there is still a chance...

ok here we go.

1) If shes making you feel THAT bad, leave HER.
2) Dont hold on like a lost puppy
3) Enjoy your single life
4) Shes probably leaving you because you tryed to be Mr. Right when girls dont want someone who does exactly what they say, when they say it. And I will bet my life on it if she said 'lets hang out' your first words would be 'ok want me to pick u up?' Refer to answer 5.
5) You have to make dating and relationships a GAME, because thats all it is. If she says "lets hang out tuesday" you say "I cant im busy that day how about friday"
6) Girls want what they cant have, plain and simple
7) As far as making the right move... if you act like a wuss, your gonna get treated like a wuss, and to make things clear being a wuss = bad
8) For your next relationship/gf, when you get her number, DO NOT call her for atleast 5 DAYS. So if you get it on a saturday call her one a thursday. But if the 5 day rule falls on a friday, saturday or sunday(IE. you get the number monday you call on saturday, right? NO only call and make plans for non-normal date days (normal date days are friday saturday)
9) Make dates for non-normal dating days, if you can show her a good time on a tuesday night, your as good as gold.
10) DO NOT make the fist date very impressive, trust me on this.
11) DO NOT call her for atleast 5 days AFTER your first date. Again, trust me on this. The object is to make her call you or wonder what your doing, where you are, ect.
10) DO NOT try and show off money, its ok to pay for dinner, but after the 3rd date ITS OK to start joking/asking her to pay sometimes.
11) Refer to answer 9, showing off money shows that your not man enough to impress her on your own. While this tactic may work for some people, it wont create a good balance for a relationship, and it WILL create a nice hole in your wallet ;-p

p.s.
I'll rant more later, if you wanna talk or need advice hit me up on AIM, sn is bl00dr4in. I love solving problems like this, and trust me, these are proven facts and they WORK. If you want some pointers on getting women I'll write that later too

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[bloodMoney]

then try to enjoy every minute you have... Until she quits. then don't look back.

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[gt_driFFter]

she hasnt dumped me yet...

so there is still a chance...

ok here we go.

1) If shes making you feel THAT bad, leave HER.
2) Dont hold on like a lost puppy
3) Enjoy your single life
4) Shes probably leaving you because you tryed to be Mr. Right when girls dont want someone who does exactly what they say, when they say it. And I will bet my life on it if she said 'lets hang out' your first words would be 'ok want me to pick u up?' Refer to answer 5.
5) You have to make dating and relationships a GAME, because thats all it is. If she says "lets hang out tuesday" you say "I cant im busy that day how about friday"
6) Girls want what they cant have, plain and simple
7) As far as making the right move... if you act like a wuss, your gonna get treated like a wuss, and to make things clear being a wuss = bad
8) For your next relationship/gf, when you get her number, DO NOT call her for atleast 5 DAYS. So if you get it on a saturday call her one a thursday. But if the 5 day rule falls on a friday, saturday or sunday(IE. you get the number monday you call on saturday, right? NO only call and make plans for non-normal date days (normal date days are friday saturday)
9) Make dates for non-normal dating days, if you can show her a good time on a tuesday night, your as good as gold.
10) DO NOT make the fist date very impressive, trust me on this.
11) DO NOT call her for atleast 5 days AFTER your first date. Again, trust me on this. The object is to make her call you or wonder what your doing, where you are, ect.
10) DO NOT try and show off money, its ok to pay for dinner, but after the 3rd date ITS OK to start joking/asking her to pay sometimes.
11) Refer to answer 9, showing off money shows that your not man enough to impress her on your own. While this tactic may work for some people, it wont create a good balance for a relationship, and it WILL create a nice hole in your wallet ;-p

p.s.
I'll rant more later, if you wanna talk or need advice hit me up on AIM, sn is bl00dr4in. I love solving problems like this, and trust me, these are proven facts and they WORK. If you want some pointers on getting women I'll write that later too

Listen to this guy, he's got the idea.

[Mynzeyes]

i called my current gf 2 days later, and we've been together strong for 9+ months. she was waiting for me to call the very next day. it all depends on what the girl wants man. i do anything for my gf, and she's greatful. but at the same time, i'm not whipped, and she doesn't wish i were.

i.e. if she wants something, i'll buy it randomly w/o her expecting it. but if she wants to hang out, i'm not always jumping up and down, and running to hang out. and i'll make her come over, etc.

those are valid points, i agree, but it really is from situation to situation. everything in the world is relative.

but if this girl is making you that depressed...move on. you do have to make it work, i believe that, but you don't have to try this hard.

-John-

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[CelicaBuddy]

I'd listen to bloodrain... What he said is very helpful

I'm sorry ya feel this way. It alwasy sucks to end relationships or be hung over wondering whats going to happen next.

Dont blame yourself tho, just because she says your too "shy" doesnt mean anything. You should never havta change yourself just because it doesnt live up to someone else's standards. Being yourself is the most important thing I think in a relationship because you get a feel of what kind of person you are and what kind of person you are looking for...

Whatever happens, happens. But keep in mind she's just your first gf. I assume your still getting a feel for what you want in a relationship so dont take this too hard. There will be other girls down the road, so dont worry about it too much.

Hope all will be okay

[XS4lv1Truch0x]

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[bloodrain]

nono she didnt make me feel like that... i made myself feel like that... today is a new day, so new emotions come my way...

and well yeah... its not her fault.

well explain the whole situation and we can help better.

and keep this in your mind, ITS YOUR FIRST GIRLFRIEND, if you think your going to live happly ever after you must be smoking some crazy sh!t, lol. It happens to the best of us, you think your on solid ground until the rug comes out from under neither you. But ya, explain what happend between you guys and I'll let you know what to do. Oh and BTW, if your making yourself depressed she knows it, and can sense it. These girls can do that, i dunno how, its like a 6th sense.

[Jen]

wow, that's deep.

[IdiotStick]

Goddamn blood rain, thats some good tips right there.

Maybe you should give him some public tips on how to meet girls so that he wont feel so bad about leaving this one?



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[bloodrain]

Goddamn blood rain, thats some good tips right there.

Maybe you should give him some public tips on how to meet girls so that he wont feel so bad about leaving this one?

I was seriously thinking of starting my own "How to get the oppotsite sex" thread. I took psychology for a few years and I actually did ALOT of studying and research on how girls think. There really not that hard to figure out, and im not the most attractive guy in the world but there are quite a few simple 'techniques' that I found to work almost all the time. Anywho, XS4lv1Truch0x, like i said, if you tell me what happend I can offer a solution, and whether you listen to my advice or not its always an option for ya. And if anyone else has any questions feel free to ask me! Im the 6gc psychatrist! lol

[97lestyousay]

I dated a psych major for 4 years and I must say what bloodrain said is all
true. F-ed up imo, but true. It is a sad day for us as a society when we
have to use such tactics to have a relationship. Don't be open or honest
or she will drop you like a hot biscuit. Play on her insecuritys, she will be
playing on yours. Give up on ms. right go for ms. right now, you will
save yourself a lot of time and energy.

[IdiotStick]

Goddamn blood rain, thats some good tips right there.

Maybe you should give him some public tips on how to meet girls so that he wont feel so bad about leaving this one?

I was seriously thinking of starting my own "How to get the oppotsite sex" thread. I took psychology for a few years and I actually did ALOT of studying and research on how girls think. There really not that hard to figure out, and im not the most attractive guy in the world but there are quite a few simple 'techniques' that I found to work almost all the time. Anywho, XS4lv1Truch0x, like i said, if you tell me what happend I can offer a solution, and whether you listen to my advice or not its always an option for ya. And if anyone else has any questions feel free to ask me! Im the 6gc psychatrist! lol

Okok, could you please post some techniques for when initially meeting someone, wether it be in public, or say at a bar/whatever. I've always had a hard time getting that initial "hi, my name is..." Always have the crazy drunk friend to go start the convo.

[bloodrain]

Meeting girls is alot easier than you think. The first thing you have to do is get rid of your nervousness. Now you might say "But bloodrain, being nervous is a natural reaction" and im going to tell you "wrong." Being nervous is a sign of insecruity and girls pick up on that like like a $100 bill at the strip club. The easiest way (I found) to get over your nervousness is simple, go out and meet girls! Now im not saying pick the hottest girl you can find and try to get her number, what I did was just go to a mall and try to start a conversation with EVERY girl you can. While I was doing my report in highschool I literally tryed to talk to about 300 girls in one day. Was I trying to get there number? Most of them the answer is no. Did I get every number I tryed? Haha hell has a better chance of it freezing over. Did I learn anything? Yes... I trained myself not to be nervous when approaching a girl. Are you nervous when you drive to work when you first sit down in your drivers seat and turn the key? Of course not (unless you live down here in Miami then you better be scared, lol) anywho, when you started driving you were most of the time nervous, you didnt know what was going to happen, how things were going to react, and how things would end up. If your nervous from talking to a girl, there are ALOT worse things to be scared of. For instance driving, you could get killed. With a girl, whats the worst she can do, say no thanks? The first thing you need to do is get over the 'fear' of approaching a girl, when your walking thru the mall and see a beautiful girl, you sub-consciencly make 11 assumptions about her. The first few arent important, but the 5 and 6th thought is usaully "she already has a boyfriend" or "shes probably too good to talk to me (or something along those lines)." Now if you think your the first person to think "man, shes so good looking" your dead wrong, but if you can get the courage to talk to her, your already ahead of the 90% of the guys who were too shy to say anything. Now what I seriously want you to do is this, go to a crowded place and talk to girls. Like I said I literally had to do it 327 times (to be exact) before I felt comfortable walking up to any girl and starting a conversation. And for everyone who is reading this hoping to find the 'magical pickup line' is going to be very depressed, because unfortunatly there is no such thing. The 'pick up' lines that I found work best are actually pretty simple. First you have to base it off the area your in. And for my sake we will imagin we are in a mall. You see a girl walking by HERSELF (approaching a group of girls is VERY difficult, especially if you are trying to pick one girl) anywho, you notice the girl is walking in your general direction and when shes close enough all you say is "Excuse me miss, I just find that those *insert item here* looks amazing on you," or "excuse me miss, I just love a woman with good posture" Now all you do is smile and walk away. Now what this did was pretty simple, it f*cks with there head. We will use the line with posture for reference. The first thing they think when a guy approachs them is "hes gonna ask me for my number" so what you did with that icebreaker (since its not really a pick up line) is 1) you made her ASSUME you complimented her, when in all reality you did nothing of the sort or you just noted something she had on 2) you threw her a curve ball by NOT asking her name and number. Now this will either do 2 things for you, 1) she will ignore you/say thank you or 2) smile back. Now if she does #1 leave and continue to the next girl, but if she smiles with a good genuine smile that is key for the pick up line "My name is SoAndSo" then go from there. Now, something to remember, MAKE STRONG EYE CONTACT, if she looks at you on the initial look, DO NOT look away from her until she looks away first. Strong eye contact shows your strong and not afraid, if she looks at you and looks LEFT, she has a 95% chance of being interested in you, if she looks to her right its only at about a 15%. Anywho, if you want more situations feel free to ask, I could go on forever with this stuff.


p.s.
When you insert a part, stay FAR FAR away from her ass, boobs, or other sexual parts. Small things like earrings, her eyes, rings, eye liner, and make-up (lip stick, ect.) will work the best.

"Excuse me miss, I just had to tell you that you have extremly beautiful eyes."


oh and idiot stick, by having a drunk friend go talk to the girl, he has approximatly 84% higher chances than you for getting her name and number, lol. Simply because in her mind she says "he's too scared to come talk to me"

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