Is there such a thing as, "JUST CHILLIN'"?, Between a single guy and girl? Options

[ToYCeLi8]

I ask b/c Im BORED! lol.. No, I still believe that a GUY and GIRL CANT be"BEST FRIENDS" or JUST FRIENDS if both are single and both straight. A call after 10pm is considered a BOOTY CALL. All those types of scenarios. I think there is always that sexual tension there?

Im also bringing this up b/c last night I went 2 "just chill" with a classmate at the Santa Monica Promenade for a few hours. But nothing even close to sexual happened. NO holding hands, NO Kissing, NO hugs, Not being when we said good-bye, shoot, Not even a good-bye hand shake,haha. Only time I kinda hugged her was when a bum wouldnt leave us alone and I grabbed her closer to me to walk away.

So now, am I being a hypocrite? Im not gunna lie, she is DAMN GOOD LOOKIN! But I am TRYING 2 "just be friends" with her. Oh, and we're are goin to the movies in a bit with her 2 kids, then to see the Lion King Musical on the 28th with her daughter. So what to do? What do you guys think about this whole thing?

David

[Culpable04]

just to make sure,

she's single with two kids.

a woman that has kids doesn't behave the same way as a girl with no kids. usually having a baby makes the woman be more serius about a relationship, don't wanna play around anymore and stuff like that, so before she gets the wrong impression ( she may think you want something serius ) make sure she knows what you want, don't wait for her to figure it out; things can go wayyy wrong if you wait for her to find out.

[hurley97]

is there a reason why you want to be "just friends" with her? you thinking about this so much makes me thing you want more but are scared of something... just my $0.02

and I disagree with the "a guy and a girl can never be just friends" thing. I have guys who are and always will be just my friend, even if both of us were single. granted sex is always a topic of conversation but both parties know if it were to ever actually happen it would be beyond awkward and probably ruin the friendship so it wouldn't be worth it

[CelicaBuddy]

One of my best friends is a guy!


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He's gay though... and more of a girl than I am But no! I disagree with that whole thing too... Girls and guys can be just friends... I have a buncha guy friends and there's nothin going on... But then again... I'm not single, so I guess that would scream off-limits

But even if I wa single... It wouldnt matter... To me anyways...

[1999GThatch]

my belief is that

WOMEN can be "just friends" with a guy

BUT

the entire time the guy is waiting for an opportunity to sleep with her (unless of course he is gay)

[sinner96ST]

to answer your question :

no.

guys that "hang out" with girls are either gay, have slept with them, or want to sleep with them.

i hate to be so shallow but it's the truth.

[ToYCeLi8]

just to make sure,

she's single with two kids.

a woman that has kids doesn't behave the same way as a girl with no kids. usually having a baby makes the woman be more serius about a relationship, don't wanna play around anymore and stuff like that, so before she gets the wrong impression ( she may think you want something serius ) make sure she knows what you want, don't wait for her to figure it out; things can go wayyy wrong if you wait for her to find out.

lol, YES! Shes single with two kids. Then I do and wouldnt mind a serious relationship with her. She so far is a real kewl girl. I dont want to play around with her either. I think my thing is, I dunno if she would take ME SERIOUS being a younger guy? But today she did tell me I am proving to be different from the other 19-25 y/o that hit on her. And different in a "VERY GOOD WAY", is what she said.

And Sinner96st, DUH! I want to sleep with her its been like 6 months since... yea, u know... , but yea, I still would want a serious relationship with her after.

I dunno? Im wierd. So was our evening at the promenade a DATE? or what? Same with 2day, when I we went to the movies with her 2 kids? Was that a "date"?

Let me know what u guys/girls think!?

Adios,
David

[BloodyStupidDave...]

[T]oday she did tell me I am ... different in a "VERY GOOD WAY", is what she said.

Well clearly she is thinking about it and wants to get closer, too.

This post has been edited by BloodyStupidDavey: Jun 16, 2007 - 12:07 PM

[DriveCelicaST]

My best friend use to be a girl. Now she's my girlfriend =D

Anyways.. If you sleep with the girl with 2 kids, be prepared for a relationship....or else, all of a sudden one of the kids are going to be yours! I think alot of girls with kids are going to be looking for serious relationship so their kids can have a dad.

Welp. Good luck. Nothing like Lion King to help you score =D haha

[Slick]

My best friend use to be a girl. Now she's my girlfriend =D

^^ Same here! Unfortunately, no matter how good the relationship looks, when a man and a women spend a lot of time together, nature is going to get involved. Especially if you are young! As they grow older, people tend to look past the carnal issues and "friendly" relationships have more of a chance of surviving. However, the temptation is always there at the back his/her head. Good luck!

[ToYCeLi8]

My best friend use to be a girl. Now she's my girlfriend =D

Anyways.. If you sleep with the girl with 2 kids, be prepared for a relationship....or else, all of a sudden one of the kids are going to be yours! I think alot of girls with kids are going to be looking for serious relationship so their kids can have a dad.

Welp. Good luck. Nothing like Lion King to help you score =D haha

lol, see! Thats exactly my point. hahaha, Good one DriveCelicaST. But still JUST sleepin with her isnt the only thing on my mind. Shoot, like I said we havent had a good bye hand shake. Tuesday I think she is helping me with my paper, so maybe Ill get lucky then with sum physical hand contact . Like a high 5! lol

About the kids, well? Theyre cute, funny, and smart kids, so that always a good thing. They got along with me after the movie very well. Maybe after seeing the Lion King, ill use the daughter to trick her to all go eat back at her place. j/k

Im really just playin it by ear, so lets see what happens. Any pointers? Or signs/signals I should look out for? Damn, I feel like Im dating 4 the 1st time again. Its been almost 3 years since Ive kinda talked 2 a girl.. WHOA...

Adios,
David

[Culpable04]

My best friend use to be a girl. Now she's my girlfriend =D

Anyways.. If you sleep with the girl with 2 kids, be prepared for a relationship....or else, all of a sudden one of the kids are going to be yours! I think alot of girls with kids are going to be looking for serious relationship so their kids can have a dad.

Welp. Good luck. Nothing like Lion King to help you score =D haha

lol, see! Thats exactly my point. hahaha, Good one DriveCelicaST. But still JUST sleepin with her isnt the only thing on my mind. Shoot, like I said we havent had a good bye hand shake. Tuesday I think she is helping me with my paper, so maybe Ill get lucky then with sum physical hand contact . Like a high 5! lol

About the kids, well? Theyre cute, funny, and smart kids, so that always a good thing. They got along with me after the movie very well. Maybe after seeing the Lion King, ill use the daughter to trick her to all go eat back at her place. j/k

Im really just playin it by ear, so lets see what happens. Any pointers? Or signs/signals I should look out for? Damn, I feel like Im dating 4 the 1st time again. Its been almost 3 years since Ive kinda talked 2 a girl.. WHOA...

Adios,
David

make sure the previus man ( kids father ) is completely out of the picture. and don't try to rush any physical contact with her, women with kids always see this as a sing of you just wanting to sleep with her, also make sure she can support herself with no problem, so if she decide to be with you is because she really wants and not because she needs to. But I think you're doing just perfect.

[x_itchy_b_x]

Haha funny this topic is up. i was telling these girls last night.
a guy never wants to be your just your friend, hes doing everything for a reason, all of it has a motive. if im not getting sex then id rather be hanging out with my guy friends. (there are a few exceptions like, girls youve grown up with like played together as kids, and girls who are unattractive)
:x

[Culpable04]

Haha funny this topic is up. i was telling these girls last night.
a guy never wants to be your just your friend, hes doing everything for a reason, all of it has a motive. if im not getting sex then id rather be hanging out with my guy friends. (there are a few exceptions like, girls youve grown up with like played together as kids, and girls who are unattractive
:x

that's funny and a little mean but funny.

This post has been edited by Culpable04: Nov 20, 2006 - 3:32 PM

[Sh0gunkid8721]

my belief is that

WOMEN can be "just friends" with a guy

BUT

the entire time the guy is waiting for an opportunity to sleep with her (unless of course he is gay)

ummm not really...guys can just be friends w/ a girl and hang out w/ her and still not want to bang her...i hang out w/ my friend (anonymous) all the time (whos my friends g/f) and wew jus chill and im straight. its call maturity and growin up and when u get there, you'll see girl friends in a different way.

i have many girl friends and single girl friends but only a few have i been attracted to as in more than a friend. granted that the friend that i hang out with is alread taken, but im 100% sure that nothing would happen even if she was single. some people are just fun to chill and talk to. some people are just interesting.

This post has been edited by Sh0gunkid8721: Nov 20, 2006 - 4:49 PM

[ToYCeLi8]

make sure the previus man ( kids father ) is completely out of the picture. and don't try to rush any physical contact with her, women with kids always see this as a sing of you just wanting to sleep with her, also make sure she can support herself with no problem, so if she decide to be with you is because she really wants and not because she needs to. But I think you're doing just perfect.

What do u mean by, COMPLETELY OUT THE PICTURE? Like abandoned the family? If thats the case, then NO. She told me about how they conflicted too much. But everything is over, jus that theyre friends and yea, I "guess" he sees the kids? I havent gone into details about that/him.

WELL UPDATE! lol, We talked kind of seriously tonight... for 3 hours. Usually its thru text messages, but we talked a lil bit about us. She said yea, she is making an exception for me. Usually she dates guys,... 10 yrs older, or close to that. So I would be the 1st guy she ever talks to younger than her. We put a lot of things out on the table so WE BOTH know what we would be getting into and I think we can have fun and be serious at the same time. Even after we saw each other today, still NO PHYSICAL contact, but Im not tripping. She likes the fact that I make her laugh, so Im happy . So for now, Im taking this day by day, one step at a time.

Thanks people, Ill keep addin to this as the days go by, if anyone is interested.

Adios,
David

[Jeremy1210]

How old are you and how old is she?

[ToYCeLi8]

How old are you and how old is she?

Im 23, shes 26

David

[Rjb23]

You could just grow a pair and be a man and make a move.

[ToYCeLi8]

You could just grow a pair and be a man and make a move.

LMAO! DUDE, I already did. We have gone out a few more times, we are goin out again tonight, and are making plans for this weekend, depending on my schedule. We are having a good time together so I dont want 2 jinx it. Im still kind of taking it slow.

David