Relationship Problems, I Honestly Dont Know What To Do Options

[uberschall]

She told me He tried to kiss her, but she turned away when he tried. She said he didnt mean anything to her, and that she knew he wouldnt treat her the way i did.
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trust me, bro...she wouldn't tell you things like that if she didn't want you to be jealous. she wants you to know she thought about it.

i hope no one will be offended by this, but women are always the weakest part of a relationship. they are guided by emotion some of the time (er, often) and it messes with things.

this girl knows she has it good with you. if you really are the chivalrous, stand-up guy you say that you are, it's hard to find and women know that. however, she's apparently seeking other male friends...for whatever reason. it's not my place to accuse her, so i can't say she was looking to cheat. but you can't deny that if she were playing it straight, she would never hang out with another guy...even if they're "just friends"... without you at least knowing about it. most people would agree that it should never happen in the first place.

jumping back to women's emotions....she got caught in this thing (however major or minor it may be), and it seems that she's desperate to stay with you because she wants it to disrupt her life as little as possible. i guess the expression could be "having her cake and keeping her boyfriend, too."

you have to think about this thusly. i have been more or less where you are, and this is what someone much older and wiser told me: picture her at her absolute worst. maybe this means cheating on you. maybe she has a purple shirt you hate, maybe she chews gum loud. put everything together, just make the worst total picture out of it. if you couldn't live with that, every day...for the rest of your life, because your love overwhelms that........you know what to do.

best of luck with all this, man. just remember to look out for number one.

[raz128]

No-one shoud be teling you wether you should walk away or stay in there. We can all sit typing our advice and your friends might sit there for hours telling you what to do, but at the end of the day, you'll have already made your mind up.
I suspect there's not one thing you haven't heard/read that's not gone through your mind a million times over already.

I'm going through similar probs atm, and for me, it's a matter of wether I feel it's worth giving it that one last attempt at making it work. Should the worst happen and I end up landing flat on my face, I know that I gave it a go and after hearing advice from friends, I know that i'll definetley be able to pick myself up and move on no matter how hard it might be. (btw, i've been with my girl for 2+1/2 years so not too dissimilar to you, mate).

Anyways, best of luck whatever happens.

[vg30dett93]

I had a really similar problem to yours. I let my ex go to this party at her friends house. I was told she cheated on me with this other guy and that they have pics. Her "best friend" was the one that told me. I confronted her and she give me all the bull**** on how she didn't and I was the only one. I just could really trust her again that event changed are whole relationship. So I dumped her because I would never again be happy it has changed and now I got a beautiful family. I thought of it this way and you probably heard this " There is plenty of fish in the sea", I don't know if you dated alot, but there all really similar so its easy to fall in love again. Thats my two cents.....don't ever let anybody hold you down.

[celica47]

I had a really similar problem to yours. I let my ex go to this party at her friends house. I was told she cheated on me with this other guy and that they have pics. Her "best friend" was the one that told me. I confronted her and she give me all the bull**** on how she didn't and I was the only one. I just could really trust her again that event changed are whole relationship. So I dumped her because I would never again be happy it has changed and now I got a beautiful family. I thought of it this way and you probably heard this " There is plenty of fish in the sea", I don't know if you dated alot, but there all really similar so its easy to fall in love again. Thats my two cents.....don't ever let anybody hold you down.

Exactly bro, heres the thing... You may after awhile get by and this whole thing will blow over, but in your heart you always wonder what she is doing when you are not with her, unfortunely you cant do that. I have been where you're at. But one thing you have closure she told you what happend and admitted it. My problem my friends was saying one thing and she was saying another.

[6th_celi_vert]

she seems to be acted the way she did when we first started going out again, so i guess we'll see where this ends up in the long run. She has stopped with all shady things she was doing, for how long, i dont know.

Thanks for all the support and feedback guys, i appreciate it.