 Ex coming for Xmas, Advice needed |
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 Dec 22, 2006 - 1:33 PM
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 Enthusiast  Joined Mar 4, '03 From Kirkland, Washington Currently Offline Reputation: 0 (0%)  |
So my boyfriend and I were in the car last night and he said "hey babe dont be mad but my ex is coming to my grandparents for xmas." i was like "what? why" and he said his mom invited her over because shes like the daughter they never had and the mom has presents for her. So I told him that was rude and made me feel like his mom doesnt like me. He said she does.
My boyfriend and the girl dated for 5 years and broke up a year ago. I understand that theres history there and the parents probably do love her but they need to realize that hes not with her anymore. If you have gifts for the ex then you do it on a seperate time. Take her to lunch or something. WHy would they invite her over for xmas when im going to be there?? My boyfriend didnt get her gift and he said his mom didnt get her a gift for him to give her or anything. Part of me doesnt want to go but then i feel like she wins if i dont go. But i dont want to put my boyfriend in a bad situation though if I was him Id be like "WTF MOM WHY ARE YOU INVITING MY EX OVER WHEN MY NEW GF IS COMING." So im thinking of having a talk with him and telling him I really need him to be there for me and be my side that day. Im not going to tell him not to talk to her while shes there but tell him that its really difficult for me. Theres no reason his mom shouldnt like me. Coomers parents love me, my friends parents love me...Its weird how my boyfriends parents dont LOVE me. They talk to me but they dont seem to think im the best for him for whatever reason. Maybe its cuz im a city girl and hes a small town guy. I dont know. :-( What do you guys think I should do? -------------------- Cruisin down the street in my Infiniti...always lookin for my next trip to Sin City
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Dec 22, 2006 - 1:43 PM
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Enthusiast Joined Apr 17, '06 From under your bed. Currently Offline Reputation: 4 (100%) |
Wow. Well the best suggestion is to just go and support your boyfriend and possibly his family. I mean, it's not like she is trying to get back with him or they are trying to make her get back with him. IF that was the case (hopefully not), then you gotta show them that you are better than they assume you are. Meaning like you can give more than what they expect that provides positivity to your relationship with your boyfriend as well as your relationship with his parents. Basically saying... just go and do your thang girl.
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Dec 22, 2006 - 1:49 PM
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 Enthusiast Joined Oct 5, '05 From NE Currently Offline Reputation: 6 (100%) |
WOW!. I can't beleive that she would even want to come over. in all tho You should talk to your boyfriend and tell him that you are going to be a little uncomfortable being there while his ex is there. And tell him everything that you feel about that situation, that way he will know that your going to be uncomfortable being around her. His parents prob don't hate you. They just probably havn't got the fact that their boy isn't with her anymore and stuff like that. I'm pretty sure your b/f doesn't plan on getting back with her. Just talk to him.
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Dec 22, 2006 - 2:05 PM
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Go in a really tight skimpy outfit and make out the whole time
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Dec 22, 2006 - 2:10 PM
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Enthusiast Joined Mar 4, '03 From Kirkland, Washington Currently Offline Reputation: 0 (0%) |
I just talked to him. Come to find out his mom told her she had gifts for her and asked when she would want to pick them up. The ex said she was going to be driving by their house on xmas to go to the ferry so she'd pick them up them. I told him I still thought it was a bit rude on both sides but if its just a pick up then ok but if its a sit and stay for more than 45 mins its really going to hurt.
:-( i just dont like this situation. i dont understand why his parents wouldnt like me. His mom bought me dinner 3 times so i got her a 30 dollar flower arrangement to say thank you because she wouldnt take cash. -------------------- Cruisin down the street in my Infiniti...always lookin for my next trip to Sin City
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Dec 22, 2006 - 2:12 PM
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Enthusiast Joined Oct 5, '05 From NE Currently Offline Reputation: 6 (100%) |
His parents like you. Some people just don't show it. My g/f's parents don't show me that they like me very much and we've been together for 3 years. But i know that they like me.
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Dec 22, 2006 - 2:26 PM
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Dec 22, 2006 - 2:35 PM
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OMG, I'd be soooo angry. That's so fk'd up of his parents to do that.
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Dec 22, 2006 - 3:04 PM
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QUOTE(bufferdan @ Dec 22, 2006 - 2:05 PM) [snapback]512442[/snapback] Go in a really tight skimpy outfit and make out the whole time X2 --------------------  |
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Dec 22, 2006 - 4:36 PM
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Atleast his dad isnt your boss at work. That sux. I get hell.
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