Significant others living with opposite sex Options

[ILuvMyCelica95]

Uh for me, if theres not enough trust for your loved one to be around the opposite sex without them doin it, then there probably isnt much of a relationship to begin with... my 2 cents

It's not only if you trust them, you have to also trust the person they are living with. I trust my boyfriend, I dont trust other women.

I have a very close guy friend who i basically lived with in college but i wasn't dating someone at the time. Idk it makes it different.

This post has been edited by ILuvMyCelica95: Mar 6, 2007 - 11:38 AM

[Rayme]

Uh for me, if theres not enough trust for your loved one to be around the opposite sex without them doin it, then there probably isnt much of a relationship to begin with... my 2 cents

Its not about trust, its just a very un-easy situation. I totally trust my GF and she asked me the same about it, to move with a co-worker, as it would be better for her financial situation. But I totally didn't like the idea at all, but would had agreed if it was temporary. Guys are guys, period. I wouldn't like everyone to see my GF runnin' around half naked at bed time, and you can just imagine the other bad stuff.

It’s more about avoidance, and in some level jealousy (Why is my GF moving in with that guy and not ME?), Its a feeling you will get even if its impossible for her to move with you.

[6gcSTVT]

If my or anyones gf is ever going to live with a guy it better be thier bf and no one else...even if her parents are catholic...shes going to be living with a guy friend, she might as well be living with you.

[Bigmeanbulldog55]

The only thing I can relate it to is that Ive known Coomer for 3 years now and id say hes a pretty good friend of mine. Weve never even hugged and so I can pretty much 99.99999 percent gurantee nothing would ever ever ever happen between us. that .00001 percent is incase were the only people alive someday and we had to start a new world or something. lol

so if i was in the situation i could be trusted with my best guy friend. idk.

lol. Girls, you are all so naive. It's not a bad thing. It keeps you innocent and cute acting. It’s simple psychology based on the Mere Expose Effect and Emotional Misunderstanding. We will like what we are around all the time, that’s why work place romances are common, or crushes on co-workers. Emotional Misunderstanding is also common. Fear and excitement, anger and sadness, love and hate are all emotions that are commonly misunderstood by people. It’s a pretty neat principle really. It can be the art of manipulation in the wrong hands. I must confess, I have done this myself. I’ve misused signals and cues to achieve goals, but they were for the better good of all people evolved. It was the first time I felt manipulation could be used in a positive way.

[BlackCelicaGT94]

im naive cuz i know coomer and i would never ever hook up?

i dont get what ur saying lol

[jayi12-15psi]

you make it sound like coomer's disgusting or something...

[Bigmeanbulldog55]

im naive cuz i know coomer and i would never ever hook up?

i dont get what ur saying lol

Yes, exactly. You not understanding, or refusing to understand, proves my point. At least to me it does. I have a funny way of looking at and setting things up, so it could just be really confusing. I shouldn't discriminate to only women though. People in general are naive of their own emotions and tendencies. I just like to pick on women, cause I'm a sexest a-hole.

[BlackCelicaGT94]

you make it sound like coomer's disgusting or something...

Coomer is not disgusting by any means. hes very very good looking. just theres no chemistry between us at all. i have lots of friends who want coomer lol. so yeah i dont mean to make him sound ugly at all! lol


anyways hmm ok im still naive. lol

[jayi12-15psi]

if my g/f moved in with anyone of the opposite sex, I would be forced to poop on her to end the relation****

[celiracer]

If my g/f wanted to move in with oposite sex it would be choose me or move there. Because there is no way i would let my g/f move in with another guy even if they were best friends thats just not right. If the guy/girl wants to move in with opposite sex when they are dating someone then obviously there is somthing between them. I mean wouldn't you wanna move in with your g/f or b/f instead of them moving in with there oposite sex best friend?

[BlackCelicaGT94]

but what if you hadnt been with ur bf/gf very long and you couldnt possibly move in together because of distance. You see eachother a couple of times a week but both have jobs where you live right now so you cant live together.

[jayi12-15psi]

Why does that mean she has to live with a dude?

[95gtschick]

no, just plain and simple no. if at first you trust both of them and you probably should, that's cool. but when you live with someone a whole new level of comfort between the 2 develops and things would start to happen gradually no matter what.... i couldn't deal with it that's for sure.

[Batman722]

Fcuk that.

Nope, no, no no no no.. I'd flip the fk out.

no way. I'd kill her
If my man is living with anyone of the opposite sex its going to be me.
This works both ways of course. I would never do that to him.

agreed.

I wouldn't do that to my woman and I expect her not to do that to me. It's a matter of respect.

Most people don't/won't cheat - but sometimes things happen. I trust myself not to cheat but I also make sure I do not put myself in a situation where something could happen. Example...if I were to go out to a bar to hang with a friend, no problem. But if my friend asked to to go with him to some chics place or dorm with her friend afterwards then I will not put myself into the situation where cheating might cross my mind. If I were single, I'd be all over it, but not now. The temptation would be there and in the "heat of the moment" usually bad decisions are made. It's a matter of respect for your significant other. I wouldn't want her to do it, therefore I do not.

but back to topic, a girl and a guy living together with no messing around only happens on TV.

[celiracer]

Agreed batman. (well said) Its just not right. And its all about respect i mean for you to be living with opposite sex while your dating someone else is pretty disrespectfull.

[BlackCelicaGT94]

Thanks for the input. Looks like hes going to still move in with her. Even after my friend voiced her opinion to him he told her to get over it cuz it was going to happen. So i guess really that shows how much he really is into her eh?

[vsideboy]

I'd be ok with it as long as I can get a young blonde lodger at my house!

[BlackCelicaGT94]

my poor friend :-( she found a comment on the girls page hes moving in with that said something about how her boobs were pouring out of her shirt and that he has the hottest best friend ever.

oh yeah she has nothing to worry about if they move in together. BS! *rolls eyes*

This post has been edited by BlackCelicaGT94: Mar 9, 2007 - 12:07 PM

[Manny]

It's all real simple.

If you DON'T tust the person you are with... then DON'T be with them....

If you do, then you shouldnt have anything to worry about....

[Negative]

my poor friend :-( she found a comment on the girls page hes moving in with that said something about how her boobs were pouring out of her shirt and that he has the hottest best friend ever.

oh yeah she has nothing to worry about if they move in together. BS! *rolls eyes*

That should end that arguement. Obviously she wants something. But what does that mean - her boobs are pouring out of her shirt? She wrote that or he did? You said it was on her page?