Relationship Breaks Options

[BlackCelicaGT94]

how many of you have gone thru them and what do you think of them? How do they work?

When u both decide to take a break but not see other people. I dont get why ur just not together.

[devilsden97]

breaks = its done...

seriously, its not like out of not where, one of u will have an ipifinay (i cant ****ign spell) and everythign will become ok..

good luck...but i dont think it will work out

[BlackCelicaGT94]

weve been on a break for a month and talk everyday and still hang out on the weekends. things are alot better than they were between December and February when we were in a relationship. We both realized that we need to work on things. So yeah...i just dont get them but it seems like alotta people go thru them.

[jason]

haha dont hang out as much if you hang out every day or you will prob bore each other till you get to know one another really good and start to grow on one another - also have lives outside one another and trust each other and dont misplace that trust - i agree with him a break = its done but since youve still hung out n talked, i dont think its quite a break as much as just backing off

best of luck and i hope no matter what you decide you are happy cuz thats all that matters

[Jen]

I swear to God, Miguel has the worst relationship advice ever.

A break is like this, it's a time to work things out, with a promise of being together in the end after everything is sorted out. When I go on a break, it is basically a friendship. No kissing, no sex, etc. Just a friendship. During this "friendship" period, you work on the things that needed to be worked on. After both persons feel as if they are both ready to start the relationship over, you do. Usually during this break/friendship period, you fall in love with them all over again.

[ExSane]

I swear to God, Miguel has the worst relationship advice ever.

A break is like this, it's a time to work things out, with a promise of being together in the end after everything is sorted out. When I go on a break, it is basically a friendship. No kissing, no sex, etc. Just a friendship. During this "friendship" period, you work on the things that needed to be worked on. After both persons feel as if they are both ready to start the relationship over, you do. Usually during this break/friendship period, you fall in love with them all over again.

So basically you got bored of each other and just need room and when you miss each other, you get back together. Just messin! Yeah, I agree with you Jen. Nicely said too. I would throw in my 2cents like always but I normally don't have a "break". Either you want to be with me or not. If not, then get out of my face!

[yarik83]

There are two ways to approach a breakup.

Emotional way. Where both of you love and hate each other and try to scramble things together hoping to get back together while in retrospect the new relationship will be just a revisit of old one but masked in careful and selective toleration of each other's bad sides. Eventually things resurface and you are in for round 2.

Winning way. When you go out on a white horse and a winner. You brush it of your shoulder and not think about it at all.. and I mean not think about it. Obviously your ex will think about it more than you do and try to make ascene every time you are with somebody new. If you stick to your guns and not discuss your breakup it is easier because a breakup is a breakup is a breakup.

I personally know guys who went into counceling after breakups.. I also know guys who tried stalking in a good and a bad way.. I know guys who received a court marshal order to stay the heck away from their x. I also know guys who successfully got back together with their xes and are now married and have kids.

In a relationship if you feel that that perosn is the one.. then you get up on your feet and fix it.. if its a matter of.. nah we just been dating cause we needed BF/GF its better to leave it alone.

[Rockford]

Right now i'm broke up with my g/f there's is minor problems but make us to think about it, i love her so much, but by now we hace to take a time to think and like Jen tolds....

During this "friendship" period, you work on the things that needed to be worked on.

I hope that we could be back together... for good

[Valo666]

breaks = some one needs time, usualy ends bad.
When i was going out with one of my ex's she wanted to take a "break" to study for exams. Yea..study for exams ment to go out with a guy shes had a crush on since she was 12, then when he dumped her, coming back to me. Usually breaks dont work, or they r taken for an untold reason such as wanting to do somethin they couldnt do being in a relationship, or they arent 100% sure about what they want.

[playr158]

there is no such thing as a break....its like being a bisexual
pick a damn side of the fence
you either dating or not

This post has been edited by playr158: Mar 26, 2007 - 12:12 PM

[ILuvMyCelica95]

breaks = its done...

seriously, its not like out of not where, one of u will have an ipifinay (i cant ****ign spell) and everythign will become ok..

good luck...but i dont think it will work out

epiphany

Idk i've never been on a break. I can't imagine being with out my boyfriend.

I understand the concept of spending time away from eachother to fix a realationship but i personally think it's a silly solution. Just my $0.02.

[CelicaBuddy]

there is no such thing as a break....its like being a bisexual
pick a damn side of the fence
you either dating or not

x2

Ive been on a "break" once... or twice... or three times... We would have some type of trouble... Then be like "okay blah blah we need a break..." be on a break for a lil bit, then get back together. Everything would be fine for a lil bit, then all of sudden itd go back to its old routine that was the reason for causing the break.

The breaks actually did more harm then good in my case, and it only made the actual breakup really scary and f'd up because we prolonged it for soooo long. O_o But then again... I took his advice when he told me "see other people and get the hell out of my life" So 2 weeks after we broke up(dated for a year), I got with my current boyfriend, and he went crazy! I guess it was one of those relationships where you hate to the love the person... I dunno. It was BAD basically.

But I learned my lesson... If something is so wrong to the point where we need a break... Its over and done with, and I should just move on. I really wish I could of understood that concept back then... but oh well... Thats the dating world for ya, you make your mistakes and you move on more wiser for the next.

[FreddyTheOthaMea...]

Going on break = Going to tag something else for a while

[BlackCelicaGT94]

^ I agree if one person wants to take the break then most likely they are hitting something else.

If both people agree that they need it and have the agreement that they will not get romantically involved with someone else during this time then I think you need to trust eachother that thats the case.

[playr158]

then thats not a break cause you're still attached...

[Glitch001]

Straight up, a break is. Im curious to see if I can do better, if I cant lets get back, If I can your on the curb. A break is an insult, but its a trick people who think they are better try and pull. If you care, you are there, if you question it, then you don't really need that person, you dont have to see them everyday, why a break, why not just say im gunna be with my friends for a bit. Thats the point.

I swear to God, Miguel has the worst relationship advice ever.

A break is like this, it's a time to work things out, with a promise of being together in the end after everything is sorted out. When I go on a break, it is basically a friendship. No kissing, no sex, etc. Just a friendship. During this "friendship" period, you work on the things that needed to be worked on. After both persons feel as if they are both ready to start the relationship over, you do. Usually during this break/friendship period, you fall in love with them all over again.

I wouldnt take relationship advice from you lol. Reasoning behind who you dated and what you did with the,.
Migga has great advice in my opinion, why play relationship games. Get to the point, if your ment to be, your ment to be, dragging it out will only make things worse, anyone can force themsleves to love someone but the cliche of "true love" cannot reach itself in that manner.

Nada Surf - Popular, listen to the first 15 second or so.

[ILuvMyCelica95]

Straight up, a break is. Im curious to see if I can do better, if I cant lets get back, If I can your on the curb. A break is an insult, but its a trick people who think they are better try and pull. If you care, you are there, if you question it, then you don't really need that person, you dont have to see them everyday, why a break, why not just say im gunna be with my friends for a bit. Thats the point.

I swear to God, Miguel has the worst relationship advice ever.

A break is like this, it's a time to work things out, with a promise of being together in the end after everything is sorted out. When I go on a break, it is basically a friendship. No kissing, no sex, etc. Just a friendship. During this "friendship" period, you work on the things that needed to be worked on. After both persons feel as if they are both ready to start the relationship over, you do. Usually during this break/friendship period, you fall in love with them all over again.

I wouldnt take relationship advice from you lol. Reasoning behind who you dated and what you did with the,.
Migga has great advice in my opinion, why play relationship games. Get to the point, if your ment to be, your ment to be, dragging it out will only make things worse, anyone can force themsleves to love someone but the cliche of "true love" cannot reach itself in that manner.

Nada Surf - Popular, listen to the first 15 second or so.

[Glitch001]

haha see tina knows whats what. its walkin on coals, catch 22 situation.

[BlackCelicaGT94]

lol i think u guys have it wrong. its not like 1 side said lets take a break. We both decided that we were fighting too much and needed to step back and work on ourselves before we could be right for eachother. weve mutually agreed to not get involved romantically with anyone. We lost touch with our friends in the past 5 months cuz we got to into eachother. Hes in debt and i have health issues I need to deal with before I can be happy in a relationship.

[hurley97]

Straight up, a break is. Im curious to see if I can do better, if I cant lets get back, If I can your on the curb. A break is an insult, but its a trick people who think they are better try and pull. If you care, you are there, if you question it, then you don't really need that person, you dont have to see them everyday, why a break, why not just say im gunna be with my friends for a bit. Thats the point.

I swear to God, Miguel has the worst relationship advice ever.

A break is like this, it's a time to work things out, with a promise of being together in the end after everything is sorted out. When I go on a break, it is basically a friendship. No kissing, no sex, etc. Just a friendship. During this "friendship" period, you work on the things that needed to be worked on. After both persons feel as if they are both ready to start the relationship over, you do. Usually during this break/friendship period, you fall in love with them all over again.

I wouldnt take relationship advice from you lol. Reasoning behind who you dated and what you did with the,.
Migga has great advice in my opinion, why play relationship games. Get to the point, if your ment to be, your ment to be, dragging it out will only make things worse, anyone can force themsleves to love someone but the cliche of "true love" cannot reach itself in that manner.

Nada Surf - Popular, listen to the first 15 second or so.

added to it. and I actually agree with him too.