Depression? Options

[cnelson]

I'm not sure if I am exactly depressed, or whatever you would like to call it.. However, I'm only 19. I feel like I should be having the best time of my life, out doing stuff, etc.. But I nearly ever feel happy, the first time I really laughed in nearly a month was today because the muffins my mom made were so bad that I couldn't help bu laugh.. ha.

Recently a girl who I've been together with on and off for the past couple months have pretty much stopped talking altogether.. I just don't feel myself, yesterday all I did was get in my car and drive around like 6 hours, until finally one of my friends called me asking if I wanted to hangout. (celi always makes me feel better) I know it probably seems to be a stupid reason to be upset and I'm sure it is.. I'm just always so worried that I won't find another person like her to give me the same feelings I felt when I was around her.

Anyone here a couple years older than me, ever have these same feelings?


P.S. Were taking like an hour car ride to some concert that we bought tickets to when we were still together, how awkward is this going to be? And than after her friends invited me to go out and party with them without her there, again awkward?

[Morpheous2008]

I've had problems with depression from as far back as school.

So I know what you're going through.. Trust me.. Things have a way of sorting themslves out so things will get better.

[RickJamesBish]

I feel sort of the same way...I'm 18, just finishing up high school, but the feeling of "best time of my life" just isn't really there.

On another hand, I do have sort of a history of depression, and I'm bi-polar as well...not that I can really blame that for too much, but I'm just an angry sumbitch sometimes. Take today for example; I just left for school to go pick up some flowers for my mom's birthday, and as I'm walking toward my car I see three scratches in my clearcoat on the right quarter panel...weren't there before, or at least I hadn't noticed them. And these scratches nicely match my scratches on the OTHER quarter panel, so I'm thinking someone has laid hands on my car (again) which really, really, REALLY pisses me off as my car is my baby. Needless to say she really hasn't had the best care under my ownership...I've cleaned her well enough, but there's two big dents in the fender, along with several other smaller ones...none of which are my fault. But then all of that accumulated and I just got really angry, so now I've given myself a nice dent in my arm rest...so stupid in hindsight, but it's almost like I couldn't control it I just get mad so quickly. Now I'm just gonna have to look at that every time I drive...

/emo.

[lagos]

thats not depression, your just moody over this girl.
bro, your 19. trust me your girl getting days are just begining.

[cnelson]

Yeah, I hear ya with getting mad.. The last time I was driving around with this girl I got some mad/upset I almost threw up into a curb, wow what a stupid thing that would have been to do. Not only was I endangering my car, us, and other people.. But it wouldn't be the first time that I was whipping it around in my car because some girl was pissing me off. Only difference is the first time I did hit the curb and needed an entire new front end (1200$). Thank god for rim insurances, even tho all my friends laughed when I bought it. Man you would think I learned my lesson?

Oh and I'd like to get some girls opinion.. Yesterday in an attempt to make things better, I bought her breakfast and her favorite drink from dounken donuts before she went to school. Mind you I had no reason to do this, or be up that early at 6:10 because I'm done with school.. Or Maybe 3 nights ago when I left her a 5lb bag of starbursts on her car because I know there her favorite. Wouldn't most girls get excited for things like this? Perhaps shes just out of her mind (so possible)

I agree that its not depression, but some part of me knows that something is wrong. I understand moody being one thing, but it seems like some days its more than that.

And my bestfriend wasn't answering his phone yesterday of course because he was with his girlfriend. I swear if I didn't have my car to go drive around I probably would of ended up doing something extremely stupid.

This post has been edited by cnelson: Dec 19, 2008 - 3:42 PM

[Random_Stranger]

I've battled depression since I was 9yrs old and I can honestly say I think I have discovered how to beat the living $#!T out of it. It just takes some time and you need to keep yourself busy.

Americans who do not do much physical activity, hard labor, or constantly keep themselves busy with projects are doomed to think and become depressed and unhappy. Plus, we have the worst eating habits in the world. So yes, feeling depressed is going to happen. You don't need meds, you just need to keep yourself busy both mentally and physically in combination with a good diet. We have discussed this before and that is the truth I have came to learn.

This post has been edited by Random_Stranger: Dec 19, 2008 - 3:58 PM

[cnelson]

I agree, whenever I feel down I can't just sit around. I need to go out and do stuff. Yesterday i drove around for a while, I ended up at the mall, than the beach than back at the mall. I figured I would walk around the mall a bit since it was packed I thought I might see some people I knew that I haven't seen in a while, and I did. That did seem to help a little bit.

[D-Man]

I'm not sure if I am exactly depressed, or whatever you would like to call it.. However, I'm only 19. I feel like I should be having the best time of my life, out doing stuff, etc.. But I nearly ever feel happy, the first time I really laughed in nearly a month was today because the muffins my mom made were so bad that I couldn't help bu laugh.. ha.

Recently a girl who I've been together with on and off for the past couple months have pretty much stopped talking altogether.. I just don't feel myself, yesterday all I did was get in my car and drive around like 6 hours, until finally one of my friends called me asking if I wanted to hangout. (celi always makes me feel better) I know it probably seems to be a stupid reason to be upset and I'm sure it is.. I'm just always so worried that I won't find another person like her to give me the same feelings I felt when I was around her.

Anyone here a couple years older than me, ever have these same feelings?


P.S. Were taking like an hour car ride to some concert that we bought tickets to when we were still together, how awkward is this going to be? And than after her friends invited me to go out and party with them without her there, again awkward?

Yeah. you're normal. Now get over yourself. Rather keep with her, or GTFO and leave all memory behind. Dont tread in unsure territory. Take it from me (and everyone else telling you the same)

[malpaso]

That's normal... especially on Christmas time. Stupid holidays. You will be fine soon.

[cnelson]

Well I ended up going out and partying with some people last night, def put me in a better mood. Ha.

[hurley97]

.. I'm just always so worried that I won't find another person like her to give me the same feelings I felt when I was around her.

Anyone here a couple years older than me, ever have these same feelings?

Here's a hint, never ever let someone make you feel that way.

With my ex-boyfriend (yes, I'm a girl) of three years I felt that way. I broke up with him about a year and a half into the relationship but got back together because I felt like I would never find someone who would actually care about me like he did. So needless to say I spent another year and a half being unhappy in the relationship, I sucked it up for a while but the last few months were really bad. Once I realized, quite honestly, I could find plenty of guys to be with and plenty who would care about me, I got rid of him and felt so much better it was unbelievable.

If she's comfortable enough with you to call you if she really wanted (which it sounds like she is) and doesn't, chances are there's a reason for it. There's someone out there for everyone, if this one isn't right then let her go and don't look back.

I've been with my current boyfriend for something like two and a half years now, I know I could be with anyone I wanted but he's the one I've chosen and don't feel the need to look any further. And that is the best feeling in the world.

[cnelson]

That was some really good incite. Thank you.

[trdproven]

Seems to help if you find things to keep you busy and let things roll out naturally on its own.

[cnelson]

Agreed. Keeping busy is pretty much a must. It takes your mind off things.

[D-Man]

...Here's a hint, never ever let someone make you feel that way...

This statement should be served on knuckles as a solid "Falcon-Style" punch to the Revelation Glad.

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